punkncat
06-25-2008, 05:09 PM
I don't really know how to put this. It seems pretty unbecoming of me to even mention. I am not particularly good at asking for help and it is kind of embarrasing to even talk about. Please read on and hopefully you can understand where I am coming from.
A few friends that I have that own fields had offered right after my accident to do a "charity" game of sorts to help raise funds for me. Due to personal issues between two of them and indecision on a format and actual implementation of the thing it just got put on the back burner and forgotten about. One of the friends mother is pretty close to me and knows my situation. She made mention of the fact that she knows the promised event has not happened and that it could help me out a lot. I have been of the thought that if it didn't materialize it just wasn't meant to be , and thought how uncouth of me it would be to ask. I mean usually it is a friend or something like that who is in the know and thinks enough to make things happen. To be honest, as far back as this occured the "right" time for it has probably passed anyway.
The only reason I even ask for advice on the situation at all is this. I cannot drive until the middle of August, do not have a ride, and am too far to walk the little distance I am even able to get some kind of job like the corner store. With a pending disability case in which I am trying to make in order to have money coming in while I work to re-educate myself towards another line of gainful employ, I cannot go back to work anyway as it will jeopardize the whole thing. To be honest, given the time frame that they work on, I will be forced to do something before then. I am sure that is by design. The labor board is apparently unwilling to do anything for me as far as unemployment due to the nature of my accident.
We are pretty much in a world of (crap) right now due to some things hitting all at once and causing our nest egg to run out. Without happening what did, that was completely unforeseen and outside our control, we had everything planned down to the end of August and were going to be fine. Admittedly, some of the cash that we got was spent on items that we probably should not have purchased, but would not have had the opportunity to do unless we just did it, and have been of immense pleasure to me and the family in this down time at home.
I have and am in process already of selling everything of worthwhile value that I have left. My Harley made some bills and my Mag will soon be on the chopping block along with a good amount of the rest of my remaining equipment. I have to make it through till at least mid to late August, and even selling off what little gear I have left isn't going to make a dent in the bills. We have already cut back on (most) everything possible as far as "extras" are concerned. Our internet and phone bill are tied together in a bundle that makes it actually cheaper just to keep it this way, and my cable tv is through a friend for an unbelievably low price that I will loose if I make any changes to it. We have no car payment, and no other extras.
So now that I have aired more of my extremely personal and embarassing life details with you, whom many of which I feel like are extended family anyway....
What would you do in my situation?
Would you mention the benefit, even at the cost of looking like an ***?
What other solutions might I be overlooking being so tied up in it all?
I want to be clear, I am NOT asking trying to solicit AO for a handout. I really don't even want to ask about the charity. I suppose it is foolish pride. I just really don't have a clue as to what to do. Asking on a forum is probably just this side of the stupidest thing I could do, but as I said before a lot of you know me, know what I have been through, and I don't feel like you would steer me wrong.
A few friends that I have that own fields had offered right after my accident to do a "charity" game of sorts to help raise funds for me. Due to personal issues between two of them and indecision on a format and actual implementation of the thing it just got put on the back burner and forgotten about. One of the friends mother is pretty close to me and knows my situation. She made mention of the fact that she knows the promised event has not happened and that it could help me out a lot. I have been of the thought that if it didn't materialize it just wasn't meant to be , and thought how uncouth of me it would be to ask. I mean usually it is a friend or something like that who is in the know and thinks enough to make things happen. To be honest, as far back as this occured the "right" time for it has probably passed anyway.
The only reason I even ask for advice on the situation at all is this. I cannot drive until the middle of August, do not have a ride, and am too far to walk the little distance I am even able to get some kind of job like the corner store. With a pending disability case in which I am trying to make in order to have money coming in while I work to re-educate myself towards another line of gainful employ, I cannot go back to work anyway as it will jeopardize the whole thing. To be honest, given the time frame that they work on, I will be forced to do something before then. I am sure that is by design. The labor board is apparently unwilling to do anything for me as far as unemployment due to the nature of my accident.
We are pretty much in a world of (crap) right now due to some things hitting all at once and causing our nest egg to run out. Without happening what did, that was completely unforeseen and outside our control, we had everything planned down to the end of August and were going to be fine. Admittedly, some of the cash that we got was spent on items that we probably should not have purchased, but would not have had the opportunity to do unless we just did it, and have been of immense pleasure to me and the family in this down time at home.
I have and am in process already of selling everything of worthwhile value that I have left. My Harley made some bills and my Mag will soon be on the chopping block along with a good amount of the rest of my remaining equipment. I have to make it through till at least mid to late August, and even selling off what little gear I have left isn't going to make a dent in the bills. We have already cut back on (most) everything possible as far as "extras" are concerned. Our internet and phone bill are tied together in a bundle that makes it actually cheaper just to keep it this way, and my cable tv is through a friend for an unbelievably low price that I will loose if I make any changes to it. We have no car payment, and no other extras.
So now that I have aired more of my extremely personal and embarassing life details with you, whom many of which I feel like are extended family anyway....
What would you do in my situation?
Would you mention the benefit, even at the cost of looking like an ***?
What other solutions might I be overlooking being so tied up in it all?
I want to be clear, I am NOT asking trying to solicit AO for a handout. I really don't even want to ask about the charity. I suppose it is foolish pride. I just really don't have a clue as to what to do. Asking on a forum is probably just this side of the stupidest thing I could do, but as I said before a lot of you know me, know what I have been through, and I don't feel like you would steer me wrong.