need help with a moral decision

[jdev]

definitely. I just started saving for this myself, didnt plan on purchasing until january.. (im a slow saver.. i see something i like.. there goes money)

ill put some dough away for texball, and hopefully by the time it rolls around, ill have some cash for both of us to show up. im still trying to find a way to AO SE in clemson ..

thanks guys!

[DK1]

well, I would say tenatively that accepting the gift is the best thing. I myself am a giver, and fairly hate getting really big gifts... but I love giving them.

I know how I'd feel if I gave somebody something and they refused on principal. It's almost like you reject the person rather than the gift, because the gift is just the expression of the person's heart.

Now, I also understand where you're coming from. I don't really like accepting large gifts... makes me feel a little obligated. However, it's something you have to accept in relationships. Gifts happen.

So, if you love her, and you're sure this isn't her just trying to "buy" your affection, take it like a man, and accept the fact that she digs you and wants to give you really nice crap.

And if you don't take the Viking, you can tell her to send it to me instead...

DK1

[dre1919]

I say you let her get it, but then in turn buy her something of the same value.

[845]

I would take it but I am a mooch and there is very few people who I would not take money/gifts from.

[Caffiend]

Oh, didn't know she didn't go out and play that time. Since it sounds like she's going to get it for you, definately "drag" her to the field with you. You might even want to offer to let her use the viking before you do...well maybe Definately try and get her into the sport, we can always use more decent people in the sport, especially when they're female.

Originally posted by joey d
though i still protested the buying of this marker on the grounds that I did nothing to deserve it. she insisted that ive done everything in the world for her, such as make her happy, feel loved and things along these lines.

isn't great when you get gifts just for being you

[pbcustom98]

isn't great when you get gifts just for being you

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i think so...when its from ur parents or something...joey d is 22/23...and for his gf to spend that much on him..just to get him something nice, is a nice jesture...but if it was me..i wouldnt let her get me that. i wouldnt feel right accepting a gift of that much money from my gf, unless weve been going out for a long long long time and joey d said hes been going out with her for 5 months or so....and then id still get her something very nice in return. good luck !

Daniel

[jdev]

Originally posted by pbcustom98
isn't great when you get gifts just for being you

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i think so...when its from ur parents or something...joey d is 22/23...and for his gf to spend that much on him..just to get him something nice, is a nice jesture...but if it was me..i wouldnt let her get me that. i wouldnt feel right accepting a gift of that much money from my gf, unless weve been going out for a long long long time and joey d said hes been going out with her for 5 months or so....and then id still get her something very nice in return. good luck !

Daniel

im 22, and I feel the same way. had it been my wife of several years or something, yea.. it may be cool.. but, meh, iunno anymore.. im just going to sit back and let things happen. she wont tell me if she bought it, im not going to ask, i think i may purposely upset her so she doenst get it

[E-mag-uy]

This all depends on what you can give her in return if she does buy this, if you can get her something of equal value $$ or sentimental wise then definetly TAKE IT. Otherwise, let her get you something else and be happy with it, or be greedy let her buy it for and break up.... JK!

[pbcustom98]

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Originally posted by E-mag-uy
or be greedy let her buy it for and break up.... JK!

my sisters old bf did that to her..she bought him a snowboard for xmas...whobang week later...he left..messed up..but kinda funny..i knew something like that would happen.

Daniel

[Carbon]

Hey man a gift is a gift, it is not a "call-in-a-favor-card". If yer gal wants to give ya the Vike, take it. But at all cost, do not allow yourself or similarly, your gal to think "i owe her/him one". You give a give because its the thought that counts. If you give her a necklace, its beacause you think she is a special gal, she deserves it, she makes you happy and you want to thank her for making you feel happy and swell and so on and ect. Belive me, when you get the gun:

1) Thank her! look her in the eyes, notice the joy in her eyes as you get stoked on the present.

2) Hug her. Give her a kiss and tell her she is the coolest, greatest ect. girl in the world And she'll know you really mean it to.

3) Cuddle. Always cuddle.

This should work vice versa. Remember, you are not buying each other joy or happiness. It could be you gave her a $1000 necklace, or wrote here a free love song or really good love poem/letter. In anycase you are expressing your fondness for each other.

Now, here is the reality of what may occur. IF you break up with her, the $1000 question would be. Would you give back/take the gun back?