Advise, I may have screwed up buying the G/F X-mas gift? Trop, Im looking at you

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  • Lohman446
    Useful posts: 7
    • Jun 2003
    • 9315

    #1

    Advise, I may have screwed up buying the G/F X-mas gift? Trop, Im looking at you

    Ok, somewhere along the way my present g/f decided it was too early to buy each other expensive X-mas gifts. I know we had the conversation because the next day I ordered myself the $200 golf club I wanted that she was going to buy me.

    Apparently in that same conversation we decided there was a $50 limit on X-mas shopping. Never one to care about limits I apparently just discarded this bit of information as unuseful, because I don't recall it at all.

    So the other day we went around looking at jewelry. When we were together they tried to sell us countless rings, when we pointed out we were not to that point they tried to convince us that that $3000 ring was a right hand fashion ring

    So she pointed out a few things she liked and I took rough note of what they were, I mean not exactly but what type of pendants she liked best etc.

    So, we're in the mall tonight and she takes my daughter to go play in the play area and do some little shopping with her so I have a chance to look. Remember, I have determined I need to make the women around her jealous of her, and am shopping for something, well special. The salespeople start me out by trying to sell me several thousand dollar items. Pretty soon the $300 to $400 items are not looking too bad at all (I had planned on being in the $150 range but hey, plans change). So I'm down between two items in the same store. I offer the salesperson the asking price - $25 on one item or tell him he can sell me the more expensive one at asking price - $100 (still noticeably more than the cheaper one). He sells it to me for asking price -$90 instead, and includes the warranty (which was included anyways because of price and gaurentees etc, but hey, he wanted to look like he was throwing in something). I buy it. Now, knowing I went over budget I tell her, when she checks price that I did not pay the price marked for it and got a good deal. She puts two and two together and realizes I made a mockery of the budget.

    Now she seems a touch annoyed at me. Not overly but I have been doing exceptionally well in this relationship up to this point. I know what I am getting (I helped pick it out) and am overly thrilled with it even though it was not at all expensive. So, how much trouble am I in?
    "Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. Its not" - Dr Suess
  • MANN
    I am in TN. GO VOLS.
    • Apr 2006
    • 4266

    #2
    youll be alright

    I did the same thing 6 years ago. spent 400 on a heart shaped ring. I got away with it (with benifits).
    The downside is that if the relationship does continue then you will have to top it in the following years.
    Just tell her you went 20-30 dollars over. When she gets it just tell her that you had to get something beautiful to match her charactistics , blah blah blah. Explain to her that she can repay you with her greatfulness, etc.

    Rather women admit it or not they want you to go over the limit. That is why they make one

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    • tropical_fishy
      KART
      • Oct 2004
      • 1017

      #3
      I'd assume not much--trouble, that is. I can see that she might be uncomfortable that you went over budget so early in the relationship, but just put a lot of emphasis on the idea that she doesn't owe you anything for it, it's a gift, etc. Don't mention the jealousy thing, for the love of God. If she starts to give you lip, just tell her you care a lot about her (don't use the "L" word please :P), and you wanted to get the "right" gift, even if it was over budget, because you'd rather pick out something that you thought she'd really enjoy rather than putting all kinds of constraints on it. You know, rather than posting this on an open forum with these morans, you could have PM'ed me or IM'ed me or something.

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      • Rudz
        Registered User

        • Apr 2005
        • 5087

        #4
        stupid L word gets you in trouble...
        BEO MAFIA
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        • MANN
          I am in TN. GO VOLS.
          • Apr 2006
          • 4266

          #5
          Originally posted by tropical_fishy
          You know, rather than posting this on an open forum with these morans, you could have PM'ed me or IM'ed me or something.
          Wha wha wha what are you tring to say? that "Us Males" dont know what we are talking about??

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          • tropical_fishy
            KART
            • Oct 2004
            • 1017

            #6
            Originally posted by MANN
            Wha wha wha what are you tring to say? that "Us Males" dont know what we are talking about??

            Naw. Just that he could have PM'ed or IM'ed me...

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            • teufelhunden
              Registered Bamf
              • Jul 2003
              • 2691

              #7
              Originally posted by tropical_fishy
              Naw. Just that he could have PM'ed or IM'ed me...

              So, I should ask a girl about girls instead of my football/drinking/paintball/riding buddies?
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              • behemoth
                SVSTC?
                • Nov 2002
                • 7750

                #8
                Originally posted by teufelhunden
                So, I should ask a girl about girls instead of my football/drinking/paintball/riding buddies?
                No, i ususally ask vegetarians for good steak recepies too...

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                • wimag
                  BEZERKERS
                  • Aug 2001
                  • 1334

                  #9
                  yep, your doomed for being a dumbass. return it now and get your money back while you can.
                  Her annoyance probably wore out faster than your anxiety over this, quit worrying.
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                  • Altimas
                    Registered User
                    • Feb 2004
                    • 909

                    #10
                    Yeah we just bought our first house and the wife is like "Dont buy me anything for Christmas let the house be my gift" So i responded by saying, "Awesome I have been saving all my bonus checks for 3 Months and I have 800$ I was gonna spend on Christmas for us...Can I just build a new computer now?" I'm still in the basement...
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                    • Thordic
                      AFTICA
                      • May 2001
                      • 5986

                      #11
                      I did that for our anniversary.

                      She said we should spend like $50 because we were going away for the weekend and spending a bunch on the trip. But I had gotten her a silver & diamond bracelet for her bday, and the matching necklace was on sale, marked down to $100 from $200. So I got it.

                      So not only did I double the budget, but when she saw the price, it was back to $200.

                      Sometimes you just can't win.

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                      • master_alexander
                        im a gun pimp :D
                        • Sep 2004
                        • 2462

                        #12
                        well, being only 16, not much farther i can go...

                        but hey. i learned how to make jewlery. you have no idea how handy that comes in. if you have a nice imagination (heh..) you can make something look really nice and definatley not handmade in 5 minutes.

                        and if you make a whole set, points.

                        /lame, whatever, it works for me.
                        "Ah yes, I have one of the 32*rebels that I always take to big scenario games. It keeps the truck from rolling if I have to park on a hill." - automikey

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                        • tropical_fishy
                          KART
                          • Oct 2004
                          • 1017

                          #13
                          Originally posted by master_alexander
                          well, being only 16, not much farther i can go...

                          but hey. i learned how to make jewlery. you have no idea how handy that comes in. if you have a nice imagination (heh..) you can make something look really nice and definatley not handmade in 5 minutes.

                          and if you make a whole set, points.

                          /lame, whatever, it works for me.

                          I actually make all my own jewelry also. It is fantastic because if I don't have something that matches the outfit I'm wearing, I can whip out some earrings in 15 minutes or so. Speaking of that, shameless plug: if you want handmade silver or gold jewelry for significant others for xmas, come to me. Please. Starving college student.

                          I haven't the slightest why Lohman is asking me this, because I am 19, and he is certainly at a different stage in life than me... :P if some guy bought me jewelry, I would bail SO fast. But I doubt Lohman's gonna be in the doghouse for long, if at all. *cough, cough*.

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                          • billybob_81067
                            A.O.'s official Redneck
                            • Jan 2001
                            • 1682

                            #14
                            Originally posted by Altimas
                            Yeah we just bought our first house and the wife is like "Dont buy me anything for Christmas let the house be my gift" So i responded by saying, "Awesome I have been saving all my bonus checks for 3 Months and I have 800$ I was gonna spend on Christmas for us...Can I just build a new computer now?" I'm still in the basement...
                            LOL... I think I will not be getting my wife anything for X-mas either because we're getting our new house on Jan 10th and will need all new kitchen appliances as well as a new leather couch. That's gonna be her damn present!

                            /I'm sure I'll have to get her something though.
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                            • ntn4502
                              Environmental Geologist
                              • Aug 2002
                              • 1637

                              #15
                              I got mine a digi camera, were more on the practical side

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