You have to analyze your situation. First of all, does the girl like paintball? does she hate it? The majority of women make the mistake of driving men out of their 'hobbies' and hence why divorce lawyers have a secure and stable living. You're not married to her, and so you are not obligated in any way to be at her beckoned call. Who is she to decide what you do privately with your finances? It seems to me she cares more about you spending money on her than she cares about you.
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Zang ziddam!Originally posted by MAGslinger
It's a little different with my GF since we have been dating for 5 years and she's waiting for the rock (I keep telling her, "don't you mean pebble?" lol).
But if you're not that kind of relationship and she is hounding you about your spending habits, there's something else on her mind than paintball. Girls who want you to spend all your money on them are trouble. That's not to say it's good to do nice things for them or buy them "stuff", but it shouldn't appear to be their goal in the relationship.Comment
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Well, you guys are assumin she wants him to spend on her, she could just be tryin to keep his spending habits in check. I've had friends who spent money like there was no tomorrow, then they get a well rounded girl who somehow manages to fix that prob somewhat, till they break up...Comment
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Originally posted by MAGslinger
Originally Posted by michbich
I'm in school for many, many, many more years and she works.Comment
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from a spouse standpoint, i tried to hide a couple of purchases, then i realized she also played and didnt think she would notice.
it came to a head when i started picking up an aka viking, and she had already bought me one from ebay and it was under the christmas tree, and she called me out on having too vikings.
it was bad juju, it caused her to monitor my paypal and ebay account, made me feel like an absoulte a^&hole.
we are just getting back to a level of trust 10 mos later.
Not that she didnt want me to buy it, but that i covered up the purchase.
be honest is all i can say.Comment
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I usually just tell the GF I am buying them to resell. Works well when I actually do it. Also helps she actually has a bit of interest in the sport and comes out to the field. Currently I am in the dog house for deciding to display my markers on a peg board. When they were in bags she didn't notice them all. 10 minutes after hanging them up she goes, "I didn't know you had 11, I thought we were supposed to be saving money..." whoops
so I must slim down the collect 
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smoothice hides his markers from his wife in the attic...i know this..lol, we have another buddy of ours who his his mini in his trunk for almost a year, then one day he accidently left it out, and his wife saw it, she didnt even bother to ask about it..BEO MAFIA
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I wouldnt lie to her, especialy since she is the one that is working. I personaly would never let anyone stop me from doing something that I love wether its buying more and more pb stuff or car stuff. If the person your with cant get past the fact that you love to play and spend money on paintball and will continue to do so, then dont expect that relationship to go anywhere because you will end up giving up things you love to do.sigpicComment
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Originally posted by luke
Too true! When I was getting divorced my wife threw a comment at me that I had made years earlier while we were dating. It was a reply that I had made to her complaints about my driving.Comment
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wow...
what happened to "Honesty is the Best Policy" ... i'm sorry i just don't see a grey area.Comment
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I keep my paintball guns stored in those huge rubber containers you find at Walmart. I'm amazed when I pull out a gun from storage. Of course, the Mag's get VIP treatment being stored in foam cases or in a dry cardboard box with extra packing peanuts. If all else fails, get a box, put some packing material in it, and seal 'er up. The only downside is that somewhere down the road you'll discover you will have an arsenal of paintball guns in your basement (as I sometimes forget they are even in storage!)Comment
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She is your GF not your WIFE. I wouldn't worry about it at all. Well, unless you are thinking about making her your wife then I would rethink about ling to her. If you think she is a just for now woman then what you do and what you buy is up to you. Good LuckComment
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approach
Ive always liked (and had luck with) going n2 the relationship stateing the fact that " this is me, and who i am" This is part of me, if your going to like me, your going to have to like it as well, or atleast deal with it. If you got a girl that cant be level headed enough to see it from that point of view, is she really worth having?
O and if the line "this is me, and who i am" doesnt work, and good back up is "this is the life i love, but its you i cant live without" works wonders my freindsComment
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I don't get it: if you're in a relationship, then the basis of that relationship should be love and trust. Lying or hiding things from your partner breaks that trust, and from then on it's a slippery slope. At some point a lie will be caught and then the trust is gone.
Another thing I don't get is the forced/blackmail approach, with one partner telling the other partner to chose between them and... playing a sport, ...buying something, ...seeing a certain friend etc..
What are they trying to achieve? If my partner tries to make me do something that I don't want to do, by forcing me to chose between her and a sport or a friend that means a lot to me, she will find me pointing at the door.
I simply won't tolerate that kind of extortion in a relationship. If she really loves me, respects me and accepts me for who I am, together with what I like and dislike, she won't do that. If she does try that, she is obviously not the right partner for me, no matter how much I love her!Comment
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This is the best post sofar.Originally posted by WilkoComment
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