need help with a moral decision

[Pacifist_Farmer]

I dont like money, it makes us want to spend it, and then it makes us feel guilty for spending it, of course it has already made us feel bad that we don't have more of it.

I think Roxy buying the Viking is a bad idea, what if for some strange reason you dont like it, or you want something different right away? It will still be the gun she bought you, that means your obligated to use it, charish it and never ever get rid of it..

My fiancee is only allowed to buy small things for paintball, add ons, etc. (in fact I've got a LX sitting in a box on the floor over there but I cant have it till christmas)

I say buy the Viking yourself let her pay for the mods...

[jdev]

i know whats going to happen here.

(by the way, i appreciate everyones opinions.. but what I am about to post is unavoidable)

she is going to call JMJ and order the featherlite. she told me she tried to go to the site last night and look it up (luckily, JMJs site is under construction right now)

all she will do, is order it.. and come christmas time, it will show up at my door. (there is a month wait on bodies from AKA, then another 4-6 week wait on construction and anno for the marker.. roughly 2 months) so, she sneakily orders it and doesnt tell me about it, i dont find out till the package comes.

i gurantee you guys, massive heart seizure will occur if a package from JMJ shows up at my door unexpectedly.

[Albinonewt]

One thing to think about is what it means to her to get you the marker. Some people really like to give gifts to people that are important to them. They take gift giving very seriously and it means a lot to them. Not accepting it is really a pretty big insult because they really put the time and effort in and all they want to see is you get the gift, love it, and say thanx with a smile on your face.

If she's like that then she wants to buy you the marker as much as you want it, and by all means let her do it. If she's "just trying to be nice" then it's a different story. At that point I would tell her that I don't want her spending that kind of money on me and then letting the chips fall where they may.

[jdev]

matt = nails things right on the head all the time.

roxy is HUGE on gifts. she loves giving to others as much as I do. and I understand that not accepting this could upset her or be insulting, but in my mind, i cant justify my gilrfriend of 5 months spending over $1000 for a present for me.

it doesnt seem that she is trying to be nice, she genuinely wants to get this for me, because she sees how happy I am when i talk about paintball. but again, im not sure i can morally accept a gift like this from her.

now, if JMJ decided to present me this as a gift for some reason (prolly something along the lines of already using viking products, speaking well of their business and always supporting them), thats a different story. ive done something for them to warrant them relinquishing a marker to me.

with roxy, ive done nothing special, other than be her best friend/boyfriend. which i dont think warrants the purchase of the marker. *sigh* such a perdicament.

[MayAMonkeyBeYourPinata]

Honestly it seems that its going to be hard for you to stop her from buying this gift. Because of the stubborn bullheadedness you both have. So if she does end up buying this for you pay her back with a couple of romantic nights, or something along that lines, seeing as how she seems to enjoy expensive gifts, but doesnt need them.

Ohh and on a side note its gonna be a Cubs Red Sox World Series i can feel it in my bones.

[AngelBoy]

I agree with Albinonewt. Let her get it for you, because that is what will make her happy. Give her the necklace, because it will make you feel better about yourself.

And, she definately sounds like an awesome girlfriend

[pbcustom98]

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Originally posted by AngelBoy
I agree with Albinonewt. Let her get it for you, because that is what will make her happy. Give her the necklace, because it will make you feel better about yourself.

And, she definately sounds like an awesome girlfriend

im lost..i thought he gave her the necklace last xmas...or am i just really not paying attention here either way. good luck with whatever ur decision is.

Daniel

[GT]

she has some serious need issues.

how about you guys dont buy each other presents for like 6 months? Just do the normal date'sy stuff.

My wife stays away from the present buying since I am so picky.

[jdev]

Re: .

Originally posted by pbcustom98


im lost..i thought he gave her the necklace last xmas...or am i just really not paying attention here either way. good luck with whatever ur decision is.

Daniel

no, i bought the necklace over the summer for her to give to her for chrstmas.

[dinger]

if worse comes to worse,

tell her "back dat *** up *****! and show me wha ya got! drop it to da floor and shake it all night!"


then go play some pb


WAIT IDEA!! LET HER GET YOU THE GUN aaaaaand, then she gets ur old one ^^

we need more pbing couples

[Fred]

after reading your initial post I voted "don't let her"... but now i've changed my mind reading the thread...

Albinonewt hit it on the head, and you yourself already have a pretty nice gift for her... just make sure she knows that you didn't buy it as a gift swap, but as a true gift to her, since she does appear to be pretty great for you.

---Fred

[Caffiend]

if someone mentioned this already, my bad. i skimmed over most of it.

you said she liked paintball, right? and in your other topic you said you let use your dragun right? instead of her buying you a marker, have her spend the money on a mask, marker, hopper, and tank for herself. tell her that would be even better than getting the viking, seeing her with her own gear. if she already has her own gear, is there anything besides the marker you'd like/need? or is there anything she needs in terms of upgrades/backups? have her spend the money on that, instead of the viking, if at all possible. she sounds like a keeper man, congrats.

[jdev]

Originally posted by Caffiend
if someone mentioned this already, my bad. i skimmed over most of it.

you said she liked paintball, right? and in your other topic you said you let use your dragun right? instead of her buying you a marker, have her spend the money on a mask, marker, hopper, and tank for herself. tell her that would be even better than getting the viking, seeing her with her own gear. if she already has her own gear, is there anything besides the marker you'd like/need? or is there anything she needs in terms of upgrades/backups? have her spend the money on that, instead of the viking, if at all possible. she sounds like a keeper man, congrats.

yea, from that thread, she never came out to play. its unfortunate, but im still trying to get her out on the field.

i think the idea that dinger had is what I will go with, give her my old marker if she gets me this. then i can just get her some a tank and hoppper, because I have an extra mask already that I can give.

[jdev]

well, i talked to her thismorning about this.

with everyones input in mind, mainly newts, i told her that i would understand if she wanted to purchase this for me, and what it meant to her.

i tried to tell her that I would give her my mag if she bought this, and i made her promise that she would come out and play with me just once if she bought this. im still working on this.

anywhoo.. looks like around xmas time, i will have a new vike.. though i still protested the buying of this marker on the grounds that I did nothing to deserve it. she insisted that ive done everything in the world for her, such as make her happy, feel loved and things along these lines.

so, if she does get this, only thing I have to worry about, is what color it will come in. i told her to choose the color.

sapphire blue
silver dust to black fade
silver dust to sapphire blue fade.

<- likes suprises... sometimes

[Albinonewt]

Sounds good Joey.

May I suggest using the money you were saving for the Viking and bringing the two of you out to the Texas AO Day in Feb.?

You live in Boston, in Feb ya'll are gonna' be cold. Might as well come play paintball with us

ANyways, glad we could help. I'm sure everything will work out great. It sounds like you'll both be satisified with this purchase.