Does anyone else have the same problem with thier parents?

[SlartyBartFast]

Thats great! " Sorry son, just mashed potatoes tonight...the money for the porkchop and dessert you spent on that pack of cigarettes" I can't wait to use that.

Think I can't? I'd feed my kid what I was eating, but there's always plenty of extras to cut. Look in you refrigerator, freezer, and pantry at home. How many of the convenience items, cereals, cookies, junk food, etc. are there only for the kids? If they are, not buying them is painless to the adults. If they're for the adults as well, well access to them can easily be controlled.

My personal favorite is the episode of "My Wife and Kids" where the three kids rebel aginst the father. The father agrees to let them live without rules and if they make it to the end of the week there will never be another rule in the house.

Needless to say, they don't make it.

[coyote]

Sorry Kiddo...

When you are a minor, or even an adult that still lives where someone else pays for your roof, food, and bills ther is no such thing as "your money".

Your folks are trying to turn you into a responsible adult. Just spending $ because you feel like it doesn't accomplish that. That is how a child acts. If you have gear, and the ability to play once in a while appreciate that. Many folks can't afford it.

My parents both grew up poor. My father started working when he was 5 tears old. He picked cotton with the rest of his family so he could help earn money for school clothes and shoes. He made something of himself, but he taught his children how to manage money. Your parents are trying to teach you that skill.

Show them you understand this concept. Open a bank account. If you have one already put some of that $ away. Don't touch it. Save it for a car, or college. Get some work. Make a few bucks on your own. Set aside some for your savings. You may see a real change in how your parents treat you.

[SlartyBartFast]

P.S. I have to pay for everything with my own money...and I'm 14.

I call BS. You can't be making 300 in a weekend as a rare event AND pay for everything.

And if they "crack" and let you spend your saving on something, that's one thing. But if they "crack" and help you finance anything that they think your saving should have been used for, they're pathetic.

[amrani]

ok, one more time of clearing up stuff

coyote--their is such thing as my money. i have a lawnmowing business that i make money
from. i own the lawnmower. i bought it with money i saved form mowing from before
i bought it. before i had my own mower, i paid to use my parents mower and i paid and
still do pay for gas.



Paintballnewbie--i have about 6000 dollars saved up for a car, and i have college bonds that
have been growing for quite some time. thanks to my parents, grandparents, and my
hard work for that. so im not living week to week or day to day, i have long term plans.
i just put in 2k worth of savings this year, and still have some money left over that i
wanted to spend on some paintball stuff but was declined.


wow, im getting more interest than i expected. thanks for all the help guys


EDIT: I'LL BE 15 IN MARCH FOR THOSE WHO WERE WONDERING ABOUT MY AGE, AND I AM NOT STUPID, I HAVE A VERY DECENT, IF NOT ACCEPTABLE IQ

[urbansix]

Listen to you bunch of whiners. There are children starving in cambodia or china or somewhere, and you are whining because you have to buy all your own X-box games and can't get a SECOND gun or the upgrade du jour for your pimptastic electromajig? Get some perspective. You could do alot worse than having enough of your "own" money to have a Mag and a backup and being allowed to play (what some might see as an agression-oriented metaphor for militaristic violence) however often.

Perhaps an idea would be to show some selfless responsibility - volunteer to be a Big Brother and introduce some poor inner city kid to paintball. Or get a pump (cheaper, ALOT less spent on paint) and REALLY work on your game - then by the time you are "out in the real world" finance wise, you will be the ultimate paintball ninja.......grasshoppa

[SlartyBartFast]

coyote--their is such thing as my money. i have a lawnmowing business that i make money from. i own the lawnmower. i bought it with money i saved form mowing from before i bought it. before i had my own mower, i paid to use my parents mower and i paid and still do pay for gas.

Cool. Sounds like you're a responsible kid. I did very much the same thing when I was a kid, but I never got round to actually buying my own equipment.

I also have to say that that's an impressive amount of savings for someone of your age.

But, coyote is still right. As long as your a minor and living at home nothing is 100% yours outright.

Every summer I worked I gave my parents a percentage of my pay as "rent". Maybe yours would like to see you contribute to family finances.

But, unless you have an adult conversation with them there's no way we can guess what their complaint is.

[amrani]

please dont call me a whiner. i dispise whiners, and infact, i have given money to the relif fund for those affected by the tsunami. i know it seems like i have an exorbant amount of money for a child my age, but i have about 15 customers whom i mow thier lawns. thats about 125 gross dollers per week. not including winter months ( no grass to mow) thats about 3500 dollers per year. also, i have not just given charity this year, my religion has required me to donate money ever since i started to realize what money was, how it affected life, etc. that was about 5 years ago, when i truned 10. it wasnt much i gave then, but the amount that i have given each year has grown.

as i said before, im not stupid and would not be complaining if their was some obvious reason that i should not be able to do as i please with 1-200 dollers per year.

and for the one who said to act like an adult, i have tried it, and just used the example of my brother here to show that we have money, spend money, and save money. therfore excluding the main reason some would come up with for me not being able to spend my money.

i would gladly give my parents some percentage of my income as "rent" but they have refused it politely. they feel that having me was thier decision and they will keep up my needs.


and again, thier complaint is exactly as folows
and i quote them

"You really shouldnt be spending so much money on one thing. Why not something
else?....(i asked if they had anything in mind)....Can't you think of something else
you enjoy?...(i said soccer (which is already funded), but other than that no, but if
they had something that sounded like fun, i would gladly try it)" the conversation
ended there.

urban--it doesnt really seem like you read the stuff inside this trhead, to get a pump, id
have to BUY that pump. if my parents wont let me BUY anything, then
how am i supposed to get that pump?

From now on, it would probally be better to read all, if not the vast majority of the
posts inside a thread before flaming someone. Especially if the flame your giving is
completely incorect and will just make you embarass yourself in the next post by the
thread creater.

[SlartyBartFast]

and for the one who said to act like an adult

Hope that you didn't think I was accusing you of acting otherwise.

Seems to me that you parents may just think you should broaden your horizons a bit.

For the quote it didn't seem like they were forbidding you from continuing with paintball. Just perhaps they think your spending too much time with a limited social group.

[amrani]

SlartyBartFast--you hit the nail on the head. and no, i dont think you were accusing me of
acting otherwise, just checking and finding out all the info you needed to come to a
decent, if not correct conclusion.

i dont think that im hanging with a limited social group, especially since i dont even talk to paintballers at school, and only once in a while to i hang out with my soccer buddies

[hitech]

They think you are spending too much money on a paintball marker. They don't think it is worth it. Why do you need these seemingly never ending "upgrades"? My wife pretty much thinks they same thing of my equipment. And why shouldn't they? We extol the virtues of each new gismo we want. Then we want something else. To them it seems like we don't know what we want and are never satisfied.

The bottom line is that they don't understand why you spend all that money on just a paintball marker. They don't understand it. On the other hand they probably understand a love of music...

Good luck.

[tyrion2323]

Usually parents have the right things in mind for their children. I certainly wish I had heeded my parents' advice regarding spending when I was younger. Grad school is looming in the horizon, and it makes me realize how stupid some of my youth splurges (video games, DVDs, etc) were.

My recommendation: Unless you need a performance upgrade for tournament play, or your gear is broken and needs to be replaced, listen to your folks.

[urbansix]

Ok sorry - that was my "kids these days" diatribe. You sound reasonably responsible. But being a parent I have to give them a pass on their reasoning, whatever it may be. Unless they are beating you which I assume they are not. Kudos on the money saved, though.

"my religion requires"?? They don't believe in free will? Self determination? Just kidding.

Sounds like they are trying to raise you into a well rounded person. You already HAVE paintball. And 2 guns. What more could there be? (from their perspective).

You should have gotten your dad involved (assuming...you said parentS plural) when you were 10 or 11. Then you could ride his coattails as he, with the real disposable income, gets the upgrade bug, feels your pain, etc. Let him fight with mom, you get last years leftovers.

This will all be a moot argument once you start car dating....I'm sure they are holding their reserves.

Seriously - think about the pump ninja thing.

[amrani]

thanks for the luck wish, and yea, it seems that way. i have never gotten an upgrade for my mag, so there fore its still stock thats the main reason i dont understand it. i guess ill still have to keep workin them till they crack.

anyother ideas, feel free to post, unless ur gonna flame me coughURBANcough after you find out weather or not ive done something, then feel free to flame me.

[SCpoloRicker]

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Friendly Corner

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Got a kick out of

...and then you can grow up get married, and still get flak about how you spend your money

[Kevmaster]

as it has been said....

as long as they pay for your food, your shelter, your NEEDS, you have to get their approval. its just how it works. My parents are paying my college bill right now. I owe them bigtime. If they tell me to do something, as much as it may pain me, I don't have a choice but to listen. Tuff stuff if I disagree. Its just how it works. Get used to it