Good Looks........So What?

[TheBigRaguPB4L]

I don't understand why people are so hung up on physical appearence. Sure, I don't want to go around looking like a little hunchback, but to many people take it way to far out of control. My friend today was complaining about his girlfriend treating him like garbage. Rightfully so, she does. She won't talk to him for a few days. She'll just blow him off and all sorts of things that you just don't do to people you're supposed to care about. When i asked him why he was still with her, his response was "'Cause she's so hot!". I almost killed him. So what? She makes him miserable but he won't ditch her because she's "hot"?

I see these sort of things all the time and it disgusts me. Granted, i do need to be physically attracted to someone if i'm going to be in a relationship with them. However, that's not going to be the sole reason for being with them. I don't understand the big deal with the "trophy" girlfriends. That's great, i'm so impressed, what does the other guy that she's sleeping with think about her?

I've also noticed that people have a lot more patience for someone who's "attractive" than someone who might not be. People can be the same irritating pest to someone, but it won't matter because they're "cute". I don't get it. My only guess would be immaturity. Most of my observations about this come from work. The majority age group is between 19-24. Even outside of work, however, i do see things like this all the time. Don't get me wrong, i'm a guy and when i do see someone worth looking at, i'll glance. When people just stare and make a federal case all day every day, it's just unneccisary.

You know what i think is the biggest irony about it all. A lot of the best looking girls, well known and otherwise, have the biggest complexes about how they look. "I've gained 2 pounds, i'm fat!!""I've got a pimple, i can't go out""People can't see me looking like this". That always kills me.

[masterninja]

"Beauty is on the inside"
That's what ugly people say!

[The Frymarker]

This is very true, about some people to a certain extent.


Cap is gorgeous inside and out, and she doesn't act that way.

I guess it is really all in who you know.

[RamboPreacher]

as an over 40 year old, I can say that I have been there and done that and have the tee-shirt and the coffee cup, and that's all that's left.

It's really too bad that we tend to be ruled by our emotions. THis may be controversial, but my next statement is something that I believe: Love is a choice, not an emotion. Do I believe in love at fist site? yes, I believe it happens (I am married to my love at first site), but it is absolutely not the rule, but the exception.

as far as outward appearance goes - this is not a very objective issue. One person might feel they have a "trophy" GF/BF/spouse, while nobody else can see that.

I never did the dateing thing when I was younger, so forgive me if my information doesn't fit. Friendship is primary important in a relationship, looks WILL fail. It's about relationship, not physical attributes.

with that said... looks is, as I elluded to earlier, in teh eye of the beholder. My wife, for example, is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. I don't really care if others see that. I think she is gorgeous. Anyway, what I am saying is that my chosen relation ship with her is precious. we may have trials, but because we are friends, we work through them, and "make" the relationship continue. It takes some hard work at times, but it is worth it to have my best friend be my wife.

back to the topic, though. yea, so what. I just wish that the teenagers that are all peer-presured into things would just be who they are and not feel like they have to follow the crowd. Man would it have been different for me, if I know what I know now, back then.

[TheBigRaguPB4L]

Coudn't agree with you more. It's just that people weigh looks over personallity. About a year ago i was in a situation where i had pretty much my choice of 3 girls. One was a real nock-out, and she knew it. She made sure everyone knew it. She just iddn't have a brain in her head. Another one was fairly cute, was pretty cool to be around, but again wasn't all that bright. The other one was, in my opinion, goregous and one of the coolest people i knew. Nobody seemed to agree with me and couldn't understand why I was more into her than anyone else. The same guy i was talking aboot earlier even told me how crazy i was because "you could do better", when i asked him why,"They're so much hotter, why you goin after her?" I guess people would rather get treated like garbage just so they could have something to look at. Pretty dumb if you ask me.

[AcemanPB]

Being attraced to someone's physical apperance is a primal instinct. It's something that we've been doing for millions of years and won't be able to change anytime soon. All the things that make someone physicaly attractive to us do it for a reason.

[shartley]

[bornl33t]

Beauty is in hte eye of the beholder.

And I tend to go for the non-supermodel look. They might have everything in order on the outside but they are ugly on the inside.

[EnderWigginPballin]

Originally posted by Heat
Beauty is in hte eye of the beholder.

And I tend to go for the non-supermodel look. They might have everything in order on the outside but they are ugly on the inside.

both of those are 100% true.

I guess I'm kinda lucky that some of the smartest girls at my school are also really attractive.... (the only problem is that they're smart enough to stay away from me )

[RPK]

The same the goes the other way. A guy can be totally hot, but his "hot head" will not get him far in a relationship with me. I am fortunate enough to have met my fiance over the net, so looks were not at play until a year and a half after we met. We have been good friends for over 6 years (yeah, I'm only 19, but still, I met him when I was 12.5!) and only recently (June of 2001) did we actually start dating. I can tell him anything and know my secrets are safe with him. That is how a relationship is suppose to be. The fact that I think he is the hottest guy on the face of the world was just a bonus for me!

RPK

[rhetor22]

As much as i agree that being completely bent over looks isn't a very good way to go about life, I don't think we should be raggin on "good looking" people.


When you say that supermodels are beautiful on the outside, but ugly on the inside, how the hell do you know that? Saying that is just stupid. Its very easy to judge people either way.


Me, I don't really care if someone is reliant on looks or just personality. Whatever floats your boat.

[halB]

what you look like determines what sort of genes u have. the better you look, the better your genes are, and so therefore the better your chances of mating are. its a natural thing, we love good looking people (like me )its built in to our brain FROM INFANTHOOD. they have shown that babies prefer good looking people above ugly people. i mean sure, intelligence is important for determining mating chances, but the fact that they survived to adult hood shows they posses enough intelligence as it is. dont go ragging on good looking people, its natural, and a force that you cant stop

[RPK]

Now it's not that we are ragging on good looking people, I think what TheBigRaguPB4L was trying to get across was the fact that because looks are the first impression doesn't mean you should judge that person that way. To really know a person you need to spend time with them and talk with them - not just stare at them because there are good looking!

RPK

[rhetor22]

I'm confused.

Is this thread about me being rediculously sexy or not?

[RamboPreacher]

Originally posted by halB
what you look like determines what sort of genes u have. the better you look, the better your genes are, and so therefore the better your chances of mating are. its a natural thing, we love good looking people (like me )its built in to our brain FROM INFANTHOOD. they have shown that babies prefer good looking people above ugly people. i mean sure, intelligence is important for determining mating chances, but the fact that they survived to adult hood shows they posses enough intelligence as it is. dont go ragging on good looking people, its natural, and a force that you cant stop

Gonna have to disagree with ya (not that I haven't before).

1st - your "genes" determine your looks, not the otherway around.
2. what is better? I am homo sapien, and so are you, aren't you? any significant (good, better, best) change at that level, and there may be inter-species differencees.
3. chances of mating? your logic is streaching here... Especially since "good-looking" is a subjective term.
4. studies show that babies prefer their parents or parent-like representatives. I encourage you to cite the studies showing that they prefer "good looking" over "ugly", and make sure that there is information showing the difference between ugly and good looking, so we can see what compaasin was used.
5. hay! I agree that intelligence has something to do with mating. Humans are the only species that can "choose" to mate, at a concious level (at least that has been shown beyond any form of unproven theory).
6. Can't speek for others but I can say that mostly we aren't ragging on good looking folks. Though some stereotypic statements may have been expressed, I saw them as that, and not "ragging".
7. Once again, I am going to say that good looking is a subjective term and your association of that and a force that can't be stopped, to me sounds like you are talking about a dominant trait. Since it is a subjective term, I am not sure it can be quantiied.

but back to the real topic; I agree with RPK. First impressions are more often than not, incorrect. Relationship begins with understanding and understanding begins with communication and communication can't start if we're stuck at looks.