If i get the Friend Card one more time...

[dre1919]

Man, I'm 26 hitech I know just what you're talkin' about! See above posts.

[Dayspring]

It's like Doctor Phil & Dr. Ruth, all in one today. :)

Seriously though- It happens. I agree alot with what Dre said. There is a way of being TOO well behaved and what not. Have to be a little naughty. I learned that first hand.

Hitech- I guess I have to wait 6 months to see if that statement's true.

In all- be yourself. And to be honest, don't LOOK like your're looking. Most of the women I've dated have come along when I wasn't looking. Enjoy where you are and what you're doing. Be kind of aloof. It may surprise you. Besides, don't be miserable. You're living in Chile'. How many people can say they've done that at your age. Forget about women for now. It'll come.

[magman007]

well i agree with you day, i think looking has ben a bit of a down fall..... but if i dont look, i get looked over...


ITs just, i have all this love, and no one to give it to... its building up, and getting frusterating... it is hard to stand any more...

[cphilip]

LOL! You kids tickle me.

There is no such things as "All Women think this..." or All Women like this..." But at this stage you'll never believe me.

A lot of women tend to like confidence. They tend to shy away from inconfidence. Thats about all I can tell you. Work on yourself and the rest will follow. Be confident. And you realy have a lot of time. Keep asking it will get there when the time is right.

[EsPo]

<----- hasnt talked to a girl in like 2 years unless it was a meanie comment.


just listen to some emo and youll be fine..

c only knows cause he is a girl!!! hehe j\k.. most women are more manly then i am so i shouldnt talk...

[oldsoldier]

Dude, relax. My ex dumped me after a 4 year relationship! We had the wedding set, half paid off...I came home from work on a Monday night, after an amazing 3 day weekend in the White mountains, to find a note saying that she loved me too much, and couldnt be with me. Figure that one out! That was just over 2 years ago! Now, I need to find someone else...and, I aint no spring chicken. But, hey, whatever. Be happy with what you have and who you are. Take a look at all the firends you have...it really isnt all that bad. Buck up and be a man!!!!

[magman007]

So phil, do you think if i ask her again, and e persistent, she will cave?

[cphilip]

Well it's possible! Self confidence and persistence are not exactly the same things though. One is a mind set and one is an action. I know its easier to be confident if you think your something special. Has not much to do with looks. Not so easy to do I know.

Another thing your dealing with is cultural differences. And she may not be able to do what she wants from pressures that are being placed upon her from her own culture. Those I cannot tell you what to do about. Most kids that age are not brave enough to overcome those.

[Creative Mayhem]

Hey man it happens, there's nothing you can do, it just does. All you can do is just wait, be nice to all and you will be rewarded. Don't worry man, you're young, i'll happen.

If you really need a friend, call up MR Daniels, first name - Jack. Oh wait, you're 16! Forget it.


C Mayhem

[hawpunch]

magman,

hang in there dude. i used to get the same comments that you did...in fact i still do. i find that a lot of what dre says is true, but you shouldn't let that change you. there's a time for everything. you'll find that special someone when you least expect it and it will be a far better experience than the one sided love you are feeling right now...its a totally different plane of existence when two people love one another and you feel as if the other person is the very air you breathe. sounds corny and poetic but its true. just believe in yourself and believe that you have something truly special that you can offer; which you do. in any case, don't let it get to you. relax and enjoy all the other things around you that life has to offer.

aloha,

jae park

[Quiet]

Magman,
We've all been there at one time or other. If you have lots of these friends and are the guy they always turn to when they are down. Some times the best thing is to disappear for a little bit, get busy. It's some thing I stumbled upon.

I got painted with the 'good friend brush' early in highschool. Lots of gals wanted to be my friend period, while I was looking for something more. Then I entered a new level of competition snowboarding and I didn't have a whole lot of time on my hands. I spent a lot of time in the summer at Mt Hood for summer riding and spent months at a time in other countries at events. When I came back for a while, I was getting all kinds of attention.

Maybe they just can't see what you're worth to them until they have to do without for a while.

Have to agree with the other guys though, older girls seem to notice the important things a little more.

[hitech]

I found that as "girls" got older what they (in general) wanted changed also. When they are young, they want someone who is "cool" (popular). As they get older (again, in general) your character means more. What other people think means less. Even what is "cool" changes.

For me it happened at around 25, your mileage may vary. I did become less of a nerd, but those "good" qualities became more in demand. As others have said, stay true to yourself. BTW, dressing nicely and having good persoanl hygene never hurt either.

[paintslinger]

girls=evil...i have proof.

[Gitaroo Man]

Originally posted by paintslinger
girls=evil...i have proof.

LOL!

[Dayspring]

It's ok to be a little persistent. HOWEVER, when the word "No" comes out and you're presistent- it makes you a stalker.

Originally posted by magman007
So phil, do you think if i ask her again, and e persistent, she will cave?