Paintball + A Girlfriend = Pure Broke :(

[daveymag]

Not a chance that at 15 does a girl come before paintball. That is unless she's givin you lots and lots of lovin. I had a highschool girlfriend and thought that it was all serious and stuff. Then I got to college, got really drunk, fell down, got up, slept with a random girl, woke up and drank some more. Then I fell down again. Where was I going with this? Oh yeah. Relationships = bad
Alcohol+random horny girls = good. Oh, and paintball is cool too. Stay away from drugs kids... drugs are bad.

[Xerces]

girls > pb, but in my huble opinion, 200 seems like to much to spend on a girl at your age.

[Kevmaster]

theres a point where girls do come before paintball....if the two of you have been dating for 10-12 months, are both 16+ and then, well....you might think of her as more than the typical girl friend. but ill tell you, in my high school...i know of 2 couples that fit the 12 months+ catagory....out of prolly hundreds of relationships ive seen(and a couple ive been in)

[Devil]

I think the best thing you could do is try and get her into paintball...That way you can enjoy the best of both worlds...and while $200 bucks is a good bit of $$ to spend at your age, you just need to wager what you value more...$$ or giving a gift to someone that they'll always remember. And if you both work out "forever" that's great, when she's 90 and sitting with your great-great-great- grandchildren, and showing them the necklace, it'll be all good.

...but if you both are not meant to be, for whatever reason, if you get her into paintball, and then you both have a common love for paintball, or different activities that you can do together, then even if you don't stay "together forever" then you'll have a 100% better friend than you have now...

I know everyone's whipping you for this, cause the stats are slim...but if you'd like a bit of encouragement, boomer and myself have been together since I was about 15, but he was 18 then...sure we've had our moments, and big ones at that, but after 3+ years, we're still going strong! And get this, I have a $3000.00 engagement ring from him that he gave to me alittle over a year ago, and we're not engaged anymore, and I don't wear the ring, but it will always be something very dear to my heart...it'll be what I'm showing to my grandchildren years from now.

and...everyone that is under 20 and doesn't have their parents loaded with $$ has $$ problems...but you'll get through it and be able to continue with what you love soon enough!

Painball and all of your other hobbies will always be there because they're not human and full of problems...but great friends are what keeps you going!

[Emagster]

Girls IMHO are way more important then paintball. I'm not saying playin paintball aint important, cuzhaving fun IS important. you will always be able to go and play paintball, but if your girl goes away cuz you play to much...well then...most likely she wont come back. just my $.02

[Jack_Dubious]

Originally posted by daveymag

Alcohol+random horny girls = good. Oh, and paintball is cool too. Stay away from drugs kids... drugs are bad.

Isnt Alcohol a drug tho?


JDub


ps-CRog075: Paintball or Girls? It depends what defines you at that moment. Is paintball just a recreational activity that you play every now and then...or do you wake up every morning and declare yourself a "straight balla, yo!". :P
Is this girl someone you love? someone who supports you? Does this girl improve you in any way? Couldnt you spend $100 on her and $100 on paintball? Does she expect you to buy her expensive gifts?
These are things you need to ask yourself...
But damn....$200!?!? for Valentines?!?! Cant you wait for a Bday or Christmas or something?

[dre1919]

Originally posted by CRog075



LOL....you can slap me later, but money is money.

I dont think it will be the case, we really love each other. We have only been going out for a month but will keep on going out forever. I know what you mean though, but she isnt like that. If she does, ill get it back

Ok, did anybody else cringe when they read this? Listen to me bro and take it from somebody whose been there, sometimes things work out and sometimes they dont. With you being 15, the odds are really against you guys "going out forever". I'm not saying you won't, and honestly if you love her I hope you will, but I'm just saying don't bank on it. People have a hard time understanding what "real adult love" is until they are much older (at least into their twenties...sometimes later IMO) so don't give up doing something you love for this girl. Try to find ways they both can coexist, just don't do anything you'll regret later. When I was where you are now I looked at comments like "don't do anything you'll regret later" and totally blew them off, but it happens sometimes. Be smart, and enjoy both being with her and playing paintball. You should definitely be very careful about giving her $200 gifts when both of you are pretty young and new to relationships though. Especially since you guys have only been going out for a month. Anyway, just thought I'd lend some friendly advice...good luck with both bro.

[QUINCYMASSGUY]

UMMM

OK, I'm not about to turn this into a relationship advice forum but trust me, you got to find a good balance between them.
Being 15, going out with a girl for a month, and buying her a $200 gift means one of three things: 1.) Your Dad is Bill Gates or another guy with a ton of cash to give you, 2.) You're a successful drug cartel kingpin, or the one I think applies in this case 3.) You're making some bad decisions with your life.
Relationships will come and go at your age, been there myself plenty of times where I thought it would last forever (I'm 23 now) but they're going to play out regardless of what gifts you give and such. Even at 23 I know I still have mistakes to make that I will learn from and trust me, you got TONS of those coming.
Enjoy the time you spend with her, but if you feel the need to buy such gifts to hold the relationship together or because she demands them then you are only fooling and hurting yourself. It would be time to move on in these cases. And if such a short and expensive relationship is causing you to give up an activity you truly love such as paintball then right now is not the time for you to have such a relationship.
So cut back on the really expensive crap as you are so young and it's so early on this relationship and budget your time and money between paintball and her. If she can't take that, she has issues. If you let either one win completely, you're making a mistake. You don't need $2500 in gear and have to play twice a week to be into paintball. Scale back on gear and times played and you'll find you have plenty of time and money to keep both going well. But sacrificing one entirely is a bad move. Best of luck.

[daveymag]

Originally posted by Jack_Dubious


Isnt Alcohol a drug tho?


JDub

mmmmmmmmm.....Drugs.....mmmmmmmmmmmm

[Peach]

Go buy her w/e you want that is reasonable(under $20-$30 ).... But NEVER, NEVER, NEVER EVER a Cell phone under your name!!!!

Thats one bill you DON'T want... Lets just say whe wont be spending all the minutes talking to you.

[TransMan]

Girls are no where near as important as paintball at this stage in our lives. I prob sound really stupid but at my age(17) theres only one thing i want from girls i dont want to be in a relationship that not going to go anywhere. I dont want to spend money on them after ive grown up some then i will look for a serious relationship. Ive watched WAY too many of my friends spend way too much money on their girls that only stay around a few months and then get there hearts broken.

Theres my 2 cents now u all can flame me for being a hormone driven teenager.

[TigerMan]

Re: Paintball + A Girlfriend = Pure Broke

Originally posted by CRog075
Ahhh it sucks, I dont know if I can afford paintball any more. Since I dont work any more , in winter, I dont have much money. Well since valintines day is coming up, I bought my g/f a $200 necklace, now, I cant afford paintball for a long time. Whats more important, paintball or girls? :)

Think of it this way, how much is she spending on you for Valentine's? What like $10 in candy? I'd personally take the necklace back and just make her something and give her a card and some roses. Just cause your the guy in the relationship, doesn't mean you have to spend all the money. Your 15, not 20. If you have to spend $200 to justify your relationship, it's not worth it. It says either your afraid of losing this girl or your whipped. Don't be either of those. Your young, there are many girls that will come your way. I'm going to assume this may be your first serious gf, and if that's the case, don't do this. If you think that you must spend $200 to please this girl, then she isn't the girl for you. Wait till a little longer than a month to start buying her stuff, I wouldn't buy a girl a present over $30 if we were going out for a month. Let the relationship grow before spending so much. It's just a month, don't spend $200 on a girl that you've only been with for that long.

[sarpadian]

This advice is for anyone who will be willing to listen. Ok first off I'm 23 and I have been dating the girlfriend that I have currently for 18 mo. And I previously dated a girl for 21 mo. I have 2 peices of advice.

1. Do not let a significant other keep you from doing anything that you really want to do. Yes giving some things up for her does show her that you care for her, but there is a line. If you don't find it, you will become miserable in the relationship. Because you will begin missing some of the things you gave up. Or if you don't pay attention to them enough....

2. Also early in a relationsip how you treat your significant other will set their expectations of you in the long run. Example (Yes CRog075 this is for you) If you buy a girl expensive gifts often, then she will begin to expect them. Then if you start not doing that for some reason or even no reason at all, then he/she will thing something is wrong. Like you don't love them like you used to, or name some other issue their mind will bring up. Of course that also doesn't only apply to gift giving it can apply to the amount to time spent with him/her just about anything.

All of this I know from personal experience. When I broke up with the girl that I had been with for 21 months, yes there was a lot of pain. I wanted to get her back for a while, but once I started to think about things I knew that it was better just to let her go. After a while I came to the realization that I really want very happy in the relationship for at least the last 6 months, but it is really hard to see that when you are in the relationship.

When (not if) you get your heart broken, just try to do one thing. Learn something from it.

[sarpadian]

Re: Re: Paintball + A Girlfriend = Pure Broke

Originally posted by TigerMan


It's just a month, don't spend $200 on a girl that you've only been with for that long.

I know a lot of girl that an expensive gift eary in the relationhip would scare the hell out of them.

[CRog075]

I hate this thread now cause it seems like alot of people think im in whip and im to young and stuff


Oh yeah, this is what I got her:

Its a little different, as mine looks better, but its still $200:

http://www.finejewelers.com/item.aspx?n=22661

IM not sure the specs of mine, but its whitegold and i forget what kind of diamonds :-/