parents are divoresing

[Restola]

my patents got divorced when i was like 8, i was going ti revere aschools and that is close to you. pm when i am not drinking and we can talk and if you watn. i hate when pther people post whe drunk, but then im do it, im sorry guys :) by enow

[SpongeBobSquarePants]

Originally posted by Restola
my patents got divorced when i was like 8, i was going ti revere aschools and that is close to you. pm when i am not drinking and we can talk and if you watn. i hate when pther people post whe drunk, but then im do it, im sorry guys :) by enow

Occifer I swarz to drunk I'm not God.

[-=Squid=-]

Originally posted by Black_Dragun2578
lol squid u just made my night

Well I am glad that I did, and jeeze...my piccie in my sig

[Black_Dragun2578]

hmm cool squid

REstola where do u live now?

[The Frymarker]

Well Black,

No matter how old you are when parents divorce it takes a toll on you. I was 18 when my parents were separated. I always took the brunt of there frustration, infact almost ended up to blows with my dad.

Parents become strange to when getting divorced, they become very hatefull towards each other. Which is strange because at one point they did love each other. My husband and I say to each other how do you fall out of love with someone?

At any rate don't blame yourself it is not your fault. Things will get some what better in the future.

I don't know the personalities of your parents but my mother is an obsessive compulsive, she still freaks out when anyone mentions his name, when I go to visit with him I have to do it secretly or I'll never hear the end of it.

It has been 11 years since their divorce and to her it is just like yesterday.

[SpongeBobSquarePants]

Originally posted by The Frymarker

At any rate don't blame yourself it is not your fault. Things will get some what better in the future.

Well put. Now I am actually glad my parents are divorced. I mean at first it was **** but now its not that bad. It also has it ups birthdays christmas etc.

[sparklie Chick]

[cphilip]

Well "Love" is a verb...its an action you chose to take or not. So it can easily be something that is seperated by material and emotional things in time. Facination and attractions wane and then it's down to wether or not you both are going to step in and do something about it or not. Sometimes its just best to part ways. You are I cannot judge their situation or needs.

Unfortunately not always each of them can do something maturely and the kids become pawns in the whole thing. That part is sad. But know this that there is something known as "Unconditional Love" and that is the love each parent instinctively has for his/her child. That cannot be severed and remains instinctive to the parent no matter what. In spite of what you see they will always feel the same about you.

Your job now is to not let them use you against each other. Stand your ground to not be a middle man early on and let them deal with their problems on their own. Do not take sides. Refuse to. Stay out of it as much as you can.

There are far worse things than Divorced Parents. And one main one is not having one at all. Dead or even non involved or missing parents. And even parents that are together but make everyones life miserable with their fighting and such that it would be better they were not together! So try and look on the bright side and stay nuetral on the matter. It's not the end of the world. No matter what, you still have them and they still love you.

[The Frymarker]

awww cphil that was so nice

[hitech]

Originally posted by cphilip
Your job now is to not let them use you against each other. Stand your ground to not be a middle man early on and let them deal with their problems on their own. Do not take sides. Refuse to.

This is REALLY important. They should NOT tell you ANYTHING about why they are divorcing. It is between them, and has NOTHING to do with you. Most states actually have a statute prohibiting either parent from making disparaging remarks about the other parent. So, in general, it is against the law for them to involve you in much of it. Can you tell this hits close to home?

If they try to tell you "stories" about they other parent just let them know that it is between them and is not appropriate for them to be discussing it with you.

Good luck. And remember, it has nothing to do with you. With any luck you will be able to keep it that way.

[Black_Dragun2578]

hmm ok thanks guys for al the info but i beleive the hardest part eventhough my parent have never divorsed till now i believe the hardest part is when my dad moves out because i barely got to spend time with him and my mom has been a real b**** lately and my dad is gonna be moving out in about a week so it sucks

[hitech]

Originally posted by Black_Dragun2578
[BThe hardest part is when my dad moves out because I barely got to spend time with him...and my dad is gonna be moving out in about a week so it sucks [/B]

YES, it sucks. It is going to get worse before it gets better. But, it will get better. I don't know how old you are, but you might want to consider letting your dad know that you WANT to spend more time with him. Heck, let everyone know. You have the right to equal access to BOTH parents. Let everyone know that you expect it.

I hope it doesn't end up being too bad for you. Divorce is never pleasant. I'm hoping for the best possible for you.

[Black_Dragun2578]

k thanks man