It's that time again...

[Will Wood]

For someone to complain and ***** about their life...

Well, last weekend was looking good. I had a blast Saterday hanging out in the Mall with freinds. Then sunday, I wake up, screw around on the computer for a while, then go and take a nap in front of fire. I wake up, get online start talking as usual. Dad bursts in the house screaming at me. I jump off and go see what he is yelling about. He is yelling about my shovelling job on the walkway. Gotta feel the love. I'm always the first to be blamed for things like this. If there is any situation wher blame needs to be put, I am the one that gets it. Oh, and most of the time I can't even argue my innocence. Just the fact of argueing to proove him wrong gets me in more trouble. So, my mom steps in and prooves him admits she did it. Oh, it's ok now. He's not mad now that it wasn't me. I think nothing of it, stuff like this is usuall. I go on with what I'm doing. Not too long latter, he comes in screaming about where one of his tools are. The first time I took it, I needed a set that had a larger size then MY allen wrench kit. So he trys to kill me now that I took his tool that my brother is usually the one that takes them and gets quitely scolded. So now, without having a previous warning I get grounded from the computer for a week, and the car for a month. He never warned me about taking his tools before, I had it for a few days and was going to put it back soon. With my brother taking them ALL the time, he only gets a mild calm warning. Then when I take one for the first time, I get a guy that can esaily beat the crap outta me screaming and swearing and all pissed off at me over just a tool.

I can't wait till I'm a parent so I can understand why the hell adults do things like this.

Note for peoples' responses like shartley:

Yes, I am aware that he bought the computer I use. And the car I drive (Not mine, it's my moms that I have to beg for), the cloths I wear, the food I eat, the house I sleep in. I am thankfull. But what I am not thanktfull is for the level of which we have it. We are, or should I say, my dad is a upper class person. He is sucsesful, the president of a sucsuessfull company. He worked his way up from the low paid grunt 14 years ago to president now. Never missed a day of work in 14 years. In fact, he works extra alot. He's a hard worker. He gets rewarded. But I don't care about the nice stuff. I don't need to have alot of money to be happy. He wants me to be him. Such small things as not putting away a tool when your done upsets him. It makes him think I won't become a rich sucsesfull person. I'm sorry for his sake that he needs a ton of money and nice house to be happy. I don't want to be him, and I'm not going to be him.

I don't have much resonsibilty now, because, frankly, I don't need to. I'll save that for when I need to. I'm lazy, I don't try hard, and all the usual teenager stuff. I'm going to enjoy life now, then work my butt off latter when I have to support my own family, and all that good stuff. Life is kinda odd when you think about it. Spend the begining of it learning to, spend the middle of it working so you can, in the end, do nthing as old man who sits around in the nursing home and can't have any fun. What fun is that? I want to have the fun now and enjoy life. Not work my *** off to retire when I can have no fun. If I can't retire be the time I am 40 or so, screw it, I'll sell everything I own and wonder around be a homeless bum. No bills, just go around and have fun with a ton of money you now have.


Yea.. ok I'm done now. Just needed to get that out..

[LittleKrems]

basically it could be worse. my life is awsome and i never say it sucks cuz i know there are starving kids and kids with cancer. i think about one of my friends to and i realize how great my life is.

she used to be anerexic, her mom has lime deasese, her brother tried to kill himself in a state park and is now in jail for 2 months, she has something messed up with her liver and has to get it fixed ever few weels and her bro has a bone decay desease.

i think about her and go... hey! my parents are arseholes but im sure happy their not dead or dying! and im glad i dont live in the ghetto!! think about that next time your dad is being dumb.

[darklord]

If you can't retire by 40....? Are you insane? Trust me man, parents are just looking out for your well being. By the time you leave college, you will be out on your own for good. A lot of people, including myself, have looked at life like that... the spend the "good years" learning a profession, then practicing it, then "that's it" kind of outlook.... but it's more than that. It's about the little joys you get out of life, paintball included. Both you and your dad will get over this little thing. Trust me, when you're out on your own I highly doubt this will come across your mind. Just deal with it, take some deep breaths, and realize that it is only a temporary issue.

[RetroEclipseMan]

Hey, that sounds like my life right there. Being the oldest sucks. I'm always the one that gets in trouble for everything since i'm supposed to be "more responsible" Heck I'm 18 and still have a curphu(sp?), i can see since i still live at home it may not be so outrageous of my mom but the thing is that my mom freaks out if I'm literally 1 minute late and my little 13 year old brother who is a diabetic can go wherever he wants and be home whenever he wants and it doesn't even matter. My mom has even had to call the cops before when he didn't come home and she was afraid he was dead somewhere and all he got was being grounded for a day. I'm hoping that it all changes but I'm not counting on it until I move out.

But I guess whenever I think of how bad I got it I just think of my friend who has been sitting in his condo with a broken leg for the past 3 months not being able to walk while his mom is in jail for cocane possesion and his dad is always coming over trying to bum money off of him for crack. Luckily he's smart enough to stay away from that stuff. Well, there's my rant for the month.

[DaveDog]

Put simply, if those are the least of your concerns then you are doing fine. Your dad probably wants to instill the value of hard and diligent work in you. Attention to detail and putting forth your best effort are essential things to understand and apply from a young age otherwise you end up always taking the path of least resistance. You will appreciate your fathers efforts more as you get older and understand these things better.

[-J�ker-]

you make your dada sound like a butt hole who favors your bro. is this true?

[-=Squid=-]

you make your dada sound like a butt hole who favors your bro. is this true?

Most likely...to everybody who replied that he is looking out for his wellbeing, this couldnt be further from the truth. How could he be looking out for his wellbeing? "I think im gonna yell at Jimmy for taking an allen wrench!" What lesson is he trying to prove that he is an immature man who needs nerve pills and anger management? Gimme a break, things like that are not "looking out for his well being," Its just him being a jerk, and yes I have to put up with that stuff sometimes...the other day I got in trouble for waying Whatever to my mom when she said to read my book, and YES I went and started reading. HE got mad, and I had practice soon, I asked for a screwdriver to fix my gay halo, and he said "no, its my screwdriver.." Gimme a break poeple. BTW, I love my dad very much so by no means am I bashing him, he just has a short short SHORT temper.

[FalconGuy016]

My mom gets mad over the absolutly stupidest things. For example, one day we were working over a "budget" for me (so I can build my responsibility - mom, its true though). So, I was making my little checkbook-type thing in a notepad, and I was drawing the lines for the different parts. Then, she suddenly wanted to write something, so I said "let me finish this line". She burst out "GIVE IT TO ME" in a full scream. This shocked the hell out of me, as it was calm up to this point, and this is one of the few things that makes me mad. I KNOW I should have just given it to her, but I said very sternly, "let me finish drawing this line". Then it became a war, most the the screaming being on her side. It boiled down to me being stupid, me disobeying my parents, me having a nasty attitude, and this was ALL ABOUT THIS STUPID THING. It wasnt about a build up of bad experiances, this was based SOLEY on this. These sort of things happen all the time to me from my mom, but otherwise she is really nice and amazing and my dad just plain rocks, so im relatively happy. I may know how you are feeling with the weird anger though.

[-J�ker-]

i have trouble with the same prob. similar to falcons... my mom gets mad over somthing simple i try to fix it she grabs w/e it is outta my hand or stops me, i was trying to fix the problem i created she wont let me, me knowing im in the right still try to fix it... she then yells stop or cusses at me for no raeson all over ME trying to FIX what *I* broke or messed up *I* know *I* screwed up *IM* trying to make it right she wont let ME how dumb is that? o well i still lover her and my dad for all they give me and provide for me and i know im VERY lucky to have great parents who care for me... but sometimes both mine and my parents tempers are to short

[oldsoldier]

Hey, in all seriousness, sit down and talk with him. Actually TALK. Just you and him. It may sound dumb, I know. I am 32 years old, and I never once told my dad I love him. My parents were divorced when I was 8, and he wasnt a big part of my young life. He wanted my to grow up and be all tough, be a man, all that stuff. He enrolled me in hockey when I was 8, and I played till I was 17. Then, I went into the Army. He has always pushed the "macho" thing on me, and, to a lesser extent, my younger brother. It is that they want to live vicariously through your life. Also, in your case, stress may be a large factor. But, I think just sitting down with him, and talking, without anyone else around, is the way to go. If nothing else, it will show him that you do care what he feels.