saying something to other peoples children

[graycie]

So I've been sensing a pattern of behavior for me lately. Two weeks ago I went to see a movie with a friend of mine, there are a group of middle school aged kids sitting one seat apart from me and one boy was having major issues with one of the other kids he was with and they were making all kinds of fuss and being a brat. This goes on for like ten minutes and everyone around was starting to turn around and give them dirty looks. Eventually the brat kid ends up sitting next to me then moves back to his original seat and continues the fuss. I got so annoyed I turned to my right in a very fast pivot and say "YOU GUYS NEED TO BE QUIET NOW" needless to say they were quiet for the rest of the movie.

Now last night I was out to dinner at the Outback with my bf and next to us was a table with four adults and two kids, one is about a 2-3 year old girl, the other was a baby boy still in a carrier. The girl hits the baby boy, then proceeds to start yelling "i want to go home" while standing in the walkway aisle for the servers. I was buttering my bread at the moment and my bf says "put down the knife" now I would never throw a sharp object at a child, and if i was going to throw anything at it it would of been the loaf of bread. Just as I was about to say something to the kid, the Father finally takes attention to his screaming child and pulls her onto his lap and says something disciplinary to her, but he does see me give the child and him a dirty look while he is doing so.

What's the deal with parents these days? Do they not teach their children how to behave properly???

[SlipknotX556]

Well it all depends. Now with the middle school aged kids, if they do not have any parental supervision, they will act like idiots, to make themself look "cool". Now with the 2-3 year old girl, now come on its a 3 year old baby girl, when your that age, your supposed to yell, be loud and say stuff like you want to go home, its your job.

[shartley]

[1stdeadeye]

Some Parents are inconsiderate!

I will say that no matter how well behaved your children are, they are still children and will have their moments. Those may have been normally very well behaved children just having a bad day. As for the teens, well what do you expect, they are either teens or pre-teens and therefore nuts! My children of course will be perfect when they reach that age!

[shartley]

Originally posted by SlipknotX556
Well it all depends. Now with the middle school aged kids, if they do not have any parental supervision, they will act like idiots, to make themself look "cool". Now with the 2-3 year old girl, now come on its a 3 year old baby girl, when your that age, your supposed to yell, be loud and say stuff like you want to go home, its your job.

[Miscue]

Smack them around enough and they learn how to behave.

[SlipknotX556]

Originally posted by Miscue
Smack them around enough and they learn how to behave.

Exactly. :)

[cphilip]

Well I don't know if its anything realy new at all. I suspect there has always been that group that gets so used to misbehaviour out of their children that they just sort of find its easier for them to just ignore it. Rather than doing their jobs. It realy is a job with no end and some people do not have the patience and persistence for it.

I have no qualms about someone correcting my child if it needs being done. I do want them to use words and not hands. And I would rather they say something to me. And make me deal with it. Saying something to a younger child while the parents are present allows them to be off the hook and turn the issue around to you saying something to thier child. Make them do it. It's their responsibility. Address the parent not the child. Thats who has to take care of the situation.

Now as to your situation with the older boy. Yea you should not feel constrained so as to not get your enjoyment out of it for the lack of thier manners and no parent around. In that case you are free to jump their behinds and should. I suspect you had many admirers from taking charge and I bet they all would have backed you up if those kids had smart mouthed you back. Go for it. If no one else will then someone needs to make them aware that the whole world don't revolve around them!

[Rmarks]

I agree people don't know how to discipline their children. But now adays some parents are afraid that if they smack their child's butt in public they're gonna have a Social Worker showing up to their door. The reason I always behaved was because I was scared of my old man smacking my butt. He's not exactly a small man, Trust me I learned quick :)

[Brak]

i think its a bad idea to do that, even if they deserve it. in the movie theater, its perfectly ok, they were annoying you. but when their parents are around, i think that they are responsible and they are the ones who should do the disciplining, not anyone else, no matter how their kids behave

[-=Squid=-]

Originally posted by Brak
i think its a bad idea to do that, even if they deserve it. in the movie theater, its perfectly ok, they were annoying you. but when their parents are around, i think that they are responsible and they are the ones who should do the disciplining, not anyone else, no matter how their kids behave

So you think if a parent is ignoring the screaming child in a nice restauraunt, ignore it, its none of your business? I bet you will make for a super parent!

[joeyjoe367]

If you can't control your kids, you should't let them out in public, IMO. Screaming, annoying, tantrum-throwing children are the bane of my existance. I absolutly abhor them.

Lots of it has to do with parents these days. I honestly believe that "Physical Disipline" works. When I screwed up as a kid, I *KNEW* That I had screwed up and my parents made SURE.

Nowadays, People would rather go to the pharmacy and get a perscription for Riddlin(sp?) or Adderal instead of sitting down and PARENTING their kids. It's the whole, "It's-not-my-fault-or-medication-can-fix-this-or-it's-a-genetic-predisposition" crap that we're being fed every day.

I'm not saying that spanking works for everyone. I do have a friend who's little brother doesn't comprehend what is going on when he's spanked. There simply isn't the connection (even when he's told) that he is getting spanked because of a misbehavior.

Now, for idiot middle schoolers in a movie theatre: If they don't STFU (Shut the Frank up) I'd go to the manager and explain what happened and score some free tickets. If it *TRULY* Disrupts your movie going experience, then any manager with half a brain that wants your patrionage will give you (and likely whoever you're with) a free ticket.

[gimp]

heh, We were watching the matrix movie the other day, and there was a group of about 15 middle school kids being really loud and obnoxious. They were talking in 'outdoor' voices throughout the whole movie. Well, for the first half an hour until someone took action. That someone was me! Well, me and the dude sitting 2 seats in front of me.

These kids were sprinting up and down the aisle, just back and forth. I dont know if they were racing or what. It was really annoying. So, one kid, with a pocket full of quarters or something was really loud. I think he was the ring leader. He runs up the aisle, towards me, the guy 2 seats in front of me tries to trips him. He gets him a little bit, and he begins to stumble, so I stuck my foot out and finished the job. That shut the whole group of them up, and a lot of people laughed at the kid. Yay!

[bornl33t]

It's not so much that parents don't know how... it's more like they can't. If you spank a kid in pubilic you will have the cops at your door. Ppl are just afraid to act.

But on a positive note I think socitey is starting to realise that it's not such a great life afterall to have both parents working and the children in day care. More and more families are becoming more traditional in their homes. With the mom staying home and the dad working. Families can and do work on a single income budget.

[Tunaman]

Yea! None of this "Time-out" crap that I hear. sharp crack to the face was waht I was always afraid of. My mother was the best at it...never knew when it was coming either. Worked great for me...