**Official Girl problem thread**

[Benfica4ever]

OK there has been enough girl problem thereads now.
Post your problems here

If i were a mod i would make it a sticky

[eric]

Look about 5 threads down

[Benfica4ever]

Ahhh crap

He beat me to it....

grrrr

[penguinpunk555]

hehe i win

[eric]

Well, yours has caps and those little * thingys, so it should grab more attention.

[71 LS6]

It might grab attention, but there's still no girl problems on it. Oh well, it's still a good thread so far.

[845]

We shouldnt waist a perfectly good thread...hmmm how about the official favorite food thread.

[sharpshooter1286]

i like popsicles

[Miscue]

Well, here's one for you. This is a link to the last conversation I ever had with my exGF, in person or otherwise. It's unaltered.

http://www.automags.org/~Miscue/chat.txt

I've been trying to figure out what the hell I did wrong. I thought I treated her well. Actually, I know I did. I was hoping that her past relationships, and how they hurt her, would have made me the golden boy. I thought she would realize how good I was to her, and how she never had that. I was wrong. She wanted a puppet, and I eventually had to cut the strings for my own sanity.

I thought I had that part of my life figured out. Now there's just a big hole again.

[Jonneh]

All girl problems can be solved by following this simple phrase:

Kill her, then kill yourself

kthxbye

[-Carnifex-]

Man, that really sucks Misc.

[WicKeD_WaYz]

Originally posted by Miscue
Well, here's one for you. This is a link to the last conversation I ever had with my exGF, in person or otherwise. It's unaltered.

http://www.automags.org/~Miscue/chat.txt

I've been trying to figure out what the hell I did wrong. I thought I treated her well. Actually, I know I did. I was hoping that her past relationships, and how they hurt her, would have made me the golden boy. I thought she would realize how good I was to her, and how she never had that. I was wrong. She wanted a puppet, and I eventually had to cut the strings for my own sanity.

I thought I had that part of my life figured out. Now there's just a big hole again.

I dont really know too much about the situation but I do know a lot about girls.

And by reading that I think....

a) when you guys had that convo, she was still having a hard time, she just didnt want to show it. She maybe wanted to see you hurting like she had been.

"LISA says:
of course it's not rough for you?"

^^^thats her wanting you to tell her your having a really hard time with the break up


B) she maybe thinks that by being mean to you it will make you seem like a jerk and maybe you would even act like one so that she could justify in her mind that your a jerk and she doesnt need you.

"LISA says:
hell with you...you know nothing or care less of the hurt i have gone through"

^^^maybe if she keeps telling herself that it will come true.

c) well you know she at least liked you a lot at one point in time.

"LISA says:
i just thought i had found the right person for me"

maybe she still feels that way but doesnt want to show it. Who knows.

[Digi_Gyrl]

Awww.. Cue. Im sorry. Some people can be really mean sometimes. Looks like you just got the blunt end of that statement...literally. I know theres prolly some really good words to say right now that would make u possibly feel a little better, but you will have to forgive me cuz they are escaping me right now. All I can tell you is that not all females are like this and that I have faith that someday you will find someone that is kind to you and will love you for everything that you are.

*huggles and kizzles u*

-- Stacy

PS I applaud you for being kind to her given the circumstances and the way she responded.

[Miscue]

Thanks Stacy.

Wicked... there's a lot more background info to the story. You might find it interesting to what she finds as 'hurtful.' Of course I've never physically harmed her, I've never yelled at her, I've never poked fun at her or teased her, I've never put her down, and I sure as hell have never cheated on her. I treated her as well as I could. I can't say the same for her past relationships.

For about 6 months she was angry with me because she was "#2 on my list of priorities." "I didn't care about her." I was taking 18 credits of tough engineering classes, I was working almost 20 hours a week, and I STILL made time to see her almost every day and on weekends. I STILL took her places with what little time and money I had. Because I could only spend an hour or two with her several times, especially when I was getting hammered with school, she did not want to see me at all. It was "too hurtful."

I even once took her to a pool hall, because she wanted to go... and I brought my symbolic logic and numerical analysis homework with me to a freakin bar... with random people making fun of me... thinking that I could finish it as fast as I could and have the rest of the night with her. That was the only way I could think of being with her, and completing my work at the same time. And while I'm working on it, she's getting irritated that I "wasn't paying attention to her." I told her I finished my work, which I didn't, and did what I could to make her happy.

I did a lot of stuff with her that I did not have time for, and could not afford... but did it anyway. But it wasn't enough. I had even considered selling all my paintball gear and stuff. She couldn't understand the concept of an 'obligation.' I HAD to do my work to pass my classes and graduate. I just barely squeaked by. "You would find a way if you really cared," is what she told me.

She specifically told me that she does not want me making more than her, and I'd just about have to work at McDonalds to do that and avoid management positions. She also disapproved of me going to grad school, although she would be doing this herself. I received absolutely no support from her in anything... and only criticism.

"Hurtful" is when she doesn't get what she wants. And then she talks about how everything is so bad for her and she wants to kill herself. I decided that I didn't deserve any of this, and told her I was done.

[Python14]

Smart move Miscue, very smart. I'm helping a number of people out with relationships and can tell you now, if you had stuck with her, you'd be dead by now. I'd like to buy you a drink if I could for doing the smart thing.