ARG!!! more parents & paintball help!

[FooTemps]

ARG!!! This is getting really frustrating now. I've done almost everything you guys recomended last time and I thought it worked but then my parents went all hypocritical on my and said no again! GRRR!!!

This time they have a reason but not a very good one.

blue is me and red is my dad.
Why won't you let me play more than once every 3 months?
Because you're my kid
That isn't logical
Yes it is.
How?
Paintball is stupid and I don't like it. I don't want you to be a stupid person.

The only thing he knows about paintball is that people shoot paintballs at each other using paintball guns... I know paintball isn't stupid but he thinks it is. He thinks that shoot and being shot at is stupid. He also thinks football is stupid and barbaric.

[PigSweat]

Just do it anyways, that what I did

[Load SM5]

Take him to play. Tell him you'll go do something he enjoys if he'll go play with you. Use the father/son bonding experience excuse. He may be too set in his opinion to bother trying to relate or have fun. If he is wait until you move out and then play all you want. With any luck he'll see what a great game PB is.

Yu can always show him the Tom Kaye specrashift(is that right?) website and see if he can accuse Tom of being dumb from playing paintball.

[Miscue]

Tell them you want to go snorkel with sharks instead, since you can't play paintball.

I dunno dude... that's too bad. Bowling is more dangerous than paintball, the stats say so, and I am an excellent example. Stone Cold said so.

[FooTemps]

My dad is over 60 years old. He doesn't want to do anything but sit down, read, play mahjong, and ***** on people for fun. He enjoys pissing me off. He refuses to even go to a field.
I can't really just play paintball anyways. I need the waver to be signed. The wavers for the fields I go to are one time use only.
My dad isn't the type to do father son bonding. He never did it with my brother either.
My dad doesn't care about stats... I showed him a chart of stats comparing paintball to just about every physical activity and he still said paintball is bad.
My dad also won't do anything related to paintball because he is so arrogant and opinionated.

My dad thinks he is always right and will piss everyone off just to get his way... Him and mom got spoiled by my brother.

[Bartleby]

but football IS stupid and barbaric. Break it down to the basics, a bunch of guys running around with a ball trying to get across a line without being killed. is that not stupid and barbaric? people get seriously injured and even die from football. paintball, however, is not the same. like miscue says, look at the stats, they clearly explain it.

it just sounds like your parents are very controling and over protective. give them time and they will eventually wear-in. they aren't a baseball mit, you can't break them in overnight. give it time. you are still young my, my son, you have your whole life ahead of you.

[FooTemps]

BUT I HAVE A CHANCE TO JOIN A FRIGGIN TEAM! I CAN'T BE A NEWBIE FOREVER!!! IF I DON'T PLAY MORE I CAN'T GET BETTER! I'LL FORGET HOW TO PLAY EVERY TIME I GO BACK THERE!!!

[tsc]

Not to rub it in...

but heck, my dad DRAGGED me to the feild to get me to play!

but seriously. be happy with the times you do get.

(and, by the way, from your last post, I don't think your side of the conversation was that calm and reasoned. And I'm sure your father gave more reson than that)

[FooTemps]

Well, I tried being calm and reason with my mom and dad before I actually got a reason but it eventually turns into frustration because I know they don't have any good reason to not let me...

I tried being calm when I talk to him about it and I made it through my first 2 lines but after I said it wasn't logical my frustration set in and I got ticked off. My dad's especially good at doing that. He does it to my mom a lot too... Anyways, I was just showing his reason. The conversation didn't end there.

The rest of the convo...
:grrrs under breath: but you still have no REAL logical answer
Say one more thing and you can play twice a year
WHAT!?!? that isn't fair.
(green is my mom)
STOP TALKING ABOUT IT!!!
grrr....

ARG sarah...ARG... I wish I were as lucky as you...

[a_malfunction]

Foo, how old are you?

[FooTemps]

Close to 15...

[a_malfunction]

Well, as crappy as it is, you are still under your father's roof. You're stuck with him till you turn 18.

Perhaps you can make a deal with him. Say you'll get and maintain a certain GPA if he'll let you play more. Say you'll keep your room spotless, volunteer to scrub a toilet... anything! But dont just say it, do whatever it is you say you'll do. And do a good job too. He might see that you are very serious and dedicated and then relent. Then again he might not. Oh and kissing a little booty never hurt anybody!

[FooTemps]

Originally posted by a_malfunction
Well, as crappy as it is, you are still under your father's roof. You're stuck with him till you turn 18.

Perhaps you can make a deal with him. Say you'll get and maintain a certain GPA if he'll let you play more. Say you'll keep your room spotless, volunteer to scrub a toilet... anything! But dont just say it, do whatever it is you say you'll do. And do a good job too. He might see that you are very serious and dedicated and then relent. Then again he might not. Oh and kissing a little booty never hurt anybody!

I've tried doing that... It never worked...

[bsusigep18]

Wow, that really is frustrating. Im getting upset just for you. My advice? This isn't doing anything, my mom is just as bullheaded as your dad sounds. But she lets me play paintball...but my advice would be to just let it go. Continue to do whatever you can to play, spend the night at a friends, just go have fun with it. Don't get frustrated. Im a little frustrated myself, i just found out im 1500 in debt..basicially from paintball and my car, and my dad wants me to be out of debt before i go back to school next semester. No problem, im working enough for that, but then i won't have any money at all for living at college...aka beer and food. THEN i also have to consider christmas and my 1 year anniversary with the lady friend. THEN i have to consider spring break, the only chance i have to go on spring break with my girlfriend. So it comes down to this, i have to sell all of my paintball stuff just because of really bad timing. I love my gun, its the last thing i want to do, but its just really really bad timing. I myself was going to join a collegiate team, but thats now out of the picture. It makes me want to cry and go rob a bank, but neither of those are going to happen. Now that im done ranting...lets be unhappy together. But we've always got the Ao board! It keeps me going, and i know it will next semester at school, as i go 6 months without paintball. i feel for ya.

[deded]

Instead of telling him to give you a logical reason not to play, give him a logical reason to let you play.

I don't know your dad, but mine hates anything to do with war, (i think someone told him people die there) but he likes that I play paintball because it is a healthy alternative to the real thing. And it also keeps me away from my keyboard for a couple hours a week.

Its like any other sport, but without the injuries, or the mainstream, or anything else that is bad about a lot of sports. I'm not knocking "organized" sports, but some of the parents who force their kids to play are waaaay too uptight.

If all else fails, just tell him it'll keep you out of trouble... works for me everytime