In case anybody cares, an update on that girl I went to homecoming with...

[Sir_Brass]

Originally posted by dansim
dude shes trouble, she makes out with some guy "she doesnt like", she wants to keep you waiting around as a back up man,man if i were you id look for someone else while your waiting,it cant hurt...much, or better yet go to her house and make out with her mom infront of her, then say "how do you like them apples!"

I agree, except for the last part (I assume that was a joke anyway).

Dude, she's playing you like a well tuned fiddle. First, she knows you, so she knows you don't have a girlfriend and that (I assume) you want one. Two, she knows you like her alot. This whole thing about apologizing and saying that you swept her off her feet and all that, that's really fishy.

I think she's almost got you totally pussy-whipped without you two ever having dated.

I'm not saying to give her the "it's been fun, but see ya later" toss off. What I AM saying is don't be a fool. Don't stay hung onto this girl. Remain her friend and be supportive, but keep your eyes open. The girl that will be right for you may sometimes not be the easiest to see, but she'll be in your life none-the-less, and she'll ALSO be the girl who likes you for who you are and who cares about you. This girl who you're talking about . . . well, she sounds like she's looking out for herself and wants to keep you as a backup and knows she can manipulate poor little gullible you.

Sorry if these words sting, man, but they come from a guy who's been burned badly by girls. I love women, I think they are God's masterpieces of creation, but some (especially the ones who are very HOT and know it as well) can be very manipulative and scheming and underhanded. There are girls out there who are not like that and are some of the best people in this world. Look for them, man, b/c I bet that in one of them, you'll find the girl meant for you.

Good luck, and God Bless.

[RenagadeOfFunk]

...thats messed up...why bother with her...no futher comment...

[CaptaiN_JacK]

since it sounds like shes using you as a backup man, play hard to get. start hanging out with other girls, just try and make her as jealous as possible...shell come running back to you once she knows you arent as into her anymore.

[Sir_Brass]

or she'll just drop you. she's being lazy: she wants a man that's wrapped around her little finger. show you that you're your own man and she'll drop you faster than you can say "petty".

[-Carnifex-]

Originally posted by -Carnifex-
Where are the pics?

[InfinatyBPS]

No pics, sorry. And although it may sound like it, I'm not wrapped around her little finger. We hang out alot and stuff, and do stuff, just like any friends do. I already thought about her using me as a backup, and all that kinda stuff, but even if she is, whats so bad about that? I'm somebody's backup. If we never get together its not gonna kill me, only thing is we will just be good friends, nothing wrong with that. And what she did was jacked up because she knew i liked her, but its not like she was "cheating" on me or whatever, because we weren't together in the first place.

[-Carnifex-]

If you're a good looking guy get rid of her, but if you aren't, and she's good looking, stick with it.

[Miscue]

Ha...

What if you're average, she's good looking, but she is crazy-go-nuts?

[-Carnifex-]

If you're average and funny, or have some other good trait then get rid of her.

[sps16]

Originally posted by Miscue
Ha...

What if you're average, she's good looking, but she is crazy-go-nuts?

then go-nuts!

[-Carnifex-]

Originally posted by -Carnifex-
Where are the pics?

[TSalPaintball]

You find the right girl, they are the best thing in life. You find the wrong girl she will rip out your heart and stomp on it. (I am a lucky one who found the right one)They can be your best friend or your worst enemy.

[InfinatyBPS]

I'm 5'7 and weigh just under 300 pounds, sure im not quazimoto or anything, but I'm not exactly anything special to look at. And honestly, I have no idea why she would like me. She says im adorable and that I always bring a smile to her face, and we are always laughing and stuff. I don't drive, I don't have much money, and theres pretty-much nothing that she would like me for, other than me. She is a chubby(bout 5'3 and 135-140 pounds) half phillipeno (That's spelled Filipino - the 1/2 Filipino Gunga)half irish girl, sure she isn't the hottest thing in the world, but she is to me. We get along really easy and I feel that she is really easy to talk to.

Also, you guys act like I'm hung up over her and stuff, sure I like talking to her and it would be great if we're together, and actualy we do hang out alot, but its always her that calls me, its her that comes and says hi to me and asks if I'll go places with her, and I just usualy agree to go is all. I told her I liked her once, its not like I'm constantly telling her I love her and can't wait for her to be with me. But still, I don't see how anything buy good could come from this situation.

Oh ya, I am a little scared becuase today she IMed me quotes of true love that she found on http://lovingyou.com . And compared a couple of the examples to us. I have no idea why she would be doing all this if she didn't really like me.

[InfinatyBPS]

Originally posted by -Carnifex-

No pics damnit lol. I'll ask her if she has a pic of herself on her comp next time she's online

[Sir_Brass]

Originally posted by InfinatyBPS
I'm 5'7 and weigh just under 300 pounds, sure im not quazimoto or anything, but I'm not exactly anything special to look at. And honestly, I have no idea why she would like me. She says im adorable and that I always bring a smile to her face, and we are always laughing and stuff. I don't drive, I don't have much money, and theres pretty-much nothing that she would like me for, other than me. She is a chubby(bout 5'3 and 135-140 pounds) half phillipeno half irish girl, sure she isn't the hottest thing in the world, but she is to me. We get along really easy and I feel that she is really easy to talk to.

Also, you guys act like I'm hung up over her and stuff, sure I like talking to her and it would be great if we're together, and actualy we do hang out alot, but its always her that calls me, its her that comes and says hi to me and asks if I'll go places with her, and I just usualy agree to go is all. I told her I liked her once, its not like I'm constantly telling her I love her and can't wait for her to be with me. But still, I don't see how anything buy good could come from this situation.

Oh ya, I am a little scared becuase today she IMed me quotes of true love that she found on http://lovingyou.com . And compared a couple of the examples to us. I have no idea why she would be doing all this if she didn't really like me.

ok, now that you give us the details, yeah, I can see that she likes you. Still, guard your heart. This should be standard for any relationship other than marriage (where opening up to each other totally is required. but NOT BEFORE!). Anyway, I think she likes you because you do bring a smile to your face. She also knows you'll be loyal. It's all about feelings. You care about her, and that's what's important to her.

Still, take it slow. Guard your heart and hers. Remember, true love is VERY much based in friendship. Dating is like haveing a best friend, but with a few perks. Keep the friendship strong and the dating relationship will have a solid foundation.

Now, I also believe in keeping God in the center of the relationship, but as you may not be religious, I'm not insisting on this. HOWEVER, if you and she are Christians, then keep God in the center of the relationship and let Him guide you. Afterall, He is the best one to follow as an example for anything, especially relationships.

Good luck man, I hope she is the girl for you. But be careful none the less.