I Hate Labels

[KornKamp02]

Ok, I'm talking about the kind of labels that people go through in High School, I am what you would call a goth I suppose and I gate stared at by some people and sometimes people whisper about me. I hate labels and I have friends of every label imagiunable as long as i get along w/ them they are my friend and they all accept eachother. Well, today on the bus ride home I overhear two kids taht are in my grade talking about me and how "Freaky" and stupid I am. Now, I can take freaky but I can't take someone insulting my intelligence, now for the record I am an A-B student, I am in the gifted and tallented program, and I used to go to Purdue University for special classes, and this person is judging and saying I am stupid because I look different. So, I turned around and said "Dude, you don't know me, why would you say something like that? It makes no sense to talk about someone you don't know and judge." really calmly. So, i continue to listen to my headphones and I feel something hit my head, I look back and they are flicking paper airplanes in my hair (which is really tall) taht say freak on them, I get up and walk back there and this time (in a slightly loud voice because I hate getting mad at someone, I'm not an angry person and I'm not easily agitated) say "You think this is funny? Well, it isn't. What would you think if I jsut assumed you were stupid because you wear those clothes?" and started to sit down, he yells "Shut the <B>*POOF*</B> up , FREAK!" so, I sit down and shake my head and walk off the bus (like I said, I'm a nice guy and I don't get easily agitated) Anyway, this really hurt me and this was my first encounter w/ labels ever. So, where do you stand on this issue?

<B>*Warning: No Cussing*</B> -Miscue

[KornKamp02]

Originally posted by Torbo
not to be un-simpathetic but.......it sucks, its life, get used to it. I mean what can you do?

I realize this, I was just tryinmg to tie in a storie with the main question..... Where do you stand with labels?

[Lone Wolf2]

Yeah labels do suck,But only certain ones,Im concitered a punk sorta because of the music i listen to and the clothes and the extra caricular things i do,But im also in special classes to.

[Konigballer]

I'm with Torbo, you live in friggin' Indiana an you go to highschool dressed like Robert Smith and wonder why others pick on you? Wise up kid, alot of common sense will make school alot easier.

[gamarada717]

Yeah, I know what you mean. A while back, I decided to try and fix it. I looked at the labels that I could be, and in my head basically did a pros and cons list. I came to the conclusion, that humor is the way to go. If you say something funny enough, they can't help but laugh. Just try to make friends with EVERYONE, and you should never have much of a problem again. Now, I'm not saying that you won't have enemies, because that's impossible to get rid of. But, the more friends you have, the more respect you get, the less people will want to mess with you. It's a back up system. It's made life alot easier, and I almost like myself more. I don't think you should have much of a problem....you seem like a perfectly cool person....on here at least.

[edweird]

Yeah lables really suck. But I think its part of human nature to subconciously seperate and classify everything into seperate groups. So when I was in your shoes I never got that worked up about it, cause I knew in the superficial world they live in it is all they got.

Think about it this way... In 10 years when your living how you want to and feel the urge to get your oil changed or want some fast food you can visit some of the very same people that singled you out for ridicule. (In school I used to think that was BS also but honestly I see examples of it being true everyday)

[-Carnifex-]

I hate Goths.

[KornKamp02]

Originally posted by -Carnifex-
I hate Goths.

Wow, could you atleast give some reasons for this? I bet you can't come up with 3 reliable reasons to back yourself up

[frost]

ok i know this maybe off the subject but KORN RULES!!!! i love them favorite band ever!!!!!!


almost the same thing happend to be but i wasnt nice about it and i kicked the little freshmas a$$ the next day in the hall way (i dont mean girl fight push him i mean i kicked the **** out of him broke his nose) who say fighting doesnt end the problem i look at as if u win it sure as he!! does

[shartley]

[painball]

Just face it most people in high school are morons. At least in my high school. And about how you said you are a nice guy and not easily agitated. Man thats hard to hold back like that. Just today some short pre-puberty kid punched me in the neck. He was lucky the coach was right behind me and that I dont wanna start a fight because that would lead to paintball being taken away from me. damnit!

[Branchvillian]

Probably not the best action to take, but i would have kicked the <B>*POOF*</B> outta him. I'm just that kind of person, and don't stand for that kind of stuff. I must say though that you knew you would be labeled before buying those clothes and weraing them, so there's not much sympathy I have for you. It was well under your control to not wear those clothes, but you decided to wear them. I'm not condoning judging, but it's school, people are mean, and you got labeled. Happens every day, and there's nothing you can do.

<B>*Warning: No Cussing*</B> -Miscue

[Eric Cartman]

Yeah this is a phase that most people go through as they grow up. I hated being labeled and I figured that I'd keep my stylin' denim vest with the home made Def Leppard backpatch and my rather large mullet forever. I was never cutting my hair (at least not the back of it LOL), and would never require any other pants than those made by Levi Strauss. Lumber jackets and construction boots were cool! Now I find myself laughing my *** off when I see pictures of those days, but back then it actually meant something to me. It's important to realize that as people grow up, the vast majority (although certainly not all) tend to conform to a more regular appearance (probably even you) and all of that ceases to matter. I'm not saying that's a good thing, but that's the way it goes.
I love that commercial where the guy wishes he had all the hair he had in highschool back, and the next thing you see is him in his suit at a meeting with the wicked flock of seagulls 'do. That's the greatest.

One question to ask yourself, are there any people out there that you put labels on? People that you maybe laugh at, even if it's only to yourself? I think we must all be guily of that every now and then despite how open minded we may try to be.

As other have said, just be happy with how you look and who you are and ignore those who can't appreciate you for who you are.

[-Carnifex-]

Originally posted by KornKamp02
Wow, could you atleast give some reasons for this? I bet you can't come up with 3 reliable reasons to back yourself up

One: They worship Satan, and though I am not the least bit religious, I believe it to be idiotic.
Two: Generally speaking they're whiney and depressed.
Three: They have some sort of compulsion to lash out against society (Please do not tell me otherwise, I was Gothicish and still hang out with Goths.)

[Python14]

If you are goth, or think you are atleast, then here you go....

Goths are a misnomer. You are not Goth. No one is Goth anymore. Goths were a germanic tribe, much like the Vandals, Visogoths, and to a lesser extent the Vikings(who followed the Goths). They were mostly limited to Southern Scandanavia(Finland and Sweden).

You are not from Western Europe. You have never pillaged a small town and raped the women. You also do not wear pre-victorian cloths. You dress in all black because that's what your friends do and you want to fit in. Gothic clothes are made of patent leather, latex, plastic, cotton, and steel....all materials that did not exsist in the Gothic period. If you are trying to be "different" like they say to me whenever I ask, then wear coveralls to school with pictures of Roman Gods on them. Otherwise, you are not different, you are not new, you are not Goth, you are just lashing out for stupid reasons like you get made fun of for liking Grindcore(which you should be made fun of for).


Rergardless, labels are a part of life....Just like Taxes and Death. If you don't want to be labeled, then buy a shovel....dig a grave, and get started on dying early because frankly, you will be labeled for your entire life based on your opinions, actions, characteristics, and :::gasp::: APPEARANCE!

Sorry to tell ya, but that's how it goes.