Some stuff hit the fan this morning.....need some help

[SpongeBobSquarePants]

Alrite, my mom and my step dad go into a fight this morning. No big deal rite? Well, this time it was differnt. After he left my mom was still crying and started talking about wanting to pack up and leave. This isn't a first for me. My Mom left my Dad when I was about 7. I have become really close to my step father, he has been more of a father to me then my real father. Sorry I just wanted to get this out and get some advice, being as I can't tell anyone I actually know. Any help is appericated.

[TraXeR]

I know how this feels, my parents are divorced and the screaming and verbal fighting took a hard toll on me, I made it through ok. My REAL mother has been gone a good 7 years now and my dad's fiancee has been living with us for 2 years. She's an awesome person and has also been a better mother than my real one. So yeah, I hear ya man, times are tough for ya, my heart feels for you, good luck!

[Latchkey]

[graycie]

this is never a happy situation to be in,first off try to keep sane! adults can really act like kids sometimes, but sometimes there really is an underlying problem. you may have your own selfish reasons for them to stay together as you well should, but in the end its their decision if they want to work out.

the parents of a very dear friend of mine are going through a turbulent situation (dad has a gf), and are staying together because of her younger brother who is still in grade school. so they are pretty much sweeping it under the rug but everyone knows what the deal is and keep up the facade eventhough its making the family suffer even more.

your parents have to consider if they continue their relationship the way it is, will it be happy or constant stress. you can not make your parents stay together, but don't think its any of your fault either. maybe your parents just need some time apart like a seperation to really evaluate things, and if it leads to a divorce hope that they can maintain a healthy friendship since your step dad has been such a prominent figure in your life.

[Toranaga]

I'm really sorry to hear about that.

I was reasonably lucky, in 4th grade (I guess I would be 10 years old then- 15 now) my parents dropped the bomb on me and my older sister, they were getting seperated. My dad soon moved out to an apartment VERY close by. So my sister and I spent weekends there. Then my mom met a few guys, eventually she found one she really liked, and they have been going out for around 2 years. MY dad has also met someone and has been going out with her for around a year and a half. My parents and their respective partners are on very good terms and often go on vacations and places together.

I slowly moved into the idea that they would divorce when we are both in college (even though they dont really talk about that).

It's all good as long as they try to leave on good terms and stay connected, whether it be through the children or through common friends.

I feel for you man, hope things get better and my ramblings have some how helped.

[breg]

I've been there. There is not a lot that you can do. It was hard to keep it together. But, you just have to bear in mind that everything is tempoary, and tomorrow is nothing but what you make it. It doesn't help for you to get mad either. Because in the end, parents are just as human as you are, and with human faults.
I guess the best thing to do is just tell them both that you love them and you don't want thing to go south like this.

[Warewolf50]

Well my parents split up when i was around 8 years old, they meade it very easy on me and my sister. If they ever did fight they didnt do it around us and my dad still lives very close so i get to see him alot.

For the past like 6 years my mom has been dating this one guy, and their relatioship is probably the most difunctional thing EVER. They have to see a shrink every wek an fight alot. When they fight it is big screaming and such. I am 16 now about 6'4 and 230. I have had to throw this guy out of the house before when things were getting bad. So do i what do just talk to your mom let her complain etc, and when she finally talks about it all she will fell better. You will be amased by howmuch talkiing to your mom will help the cituation out.
Ryan

[jjraf]

i understand where you are coming from. I was born when my mom was 18, and my dad left a couple years later. he stuck around for a while about until i was 10, then he moved to florida (all the way across the country).When i was 2 this guy(who is now in jail for 2 murders) beat the crap otta me and threw me in the dryer. well guess what happened 2 years later: my mom had a child with that guy(my sister). Now my step dad is my father figure. he is awesome. but the good thing is my dad sends me $200 every birthday and christmas.