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  • Commissar_Loki
    6-shootin SOB
    • Jul 2003
    • 438

    #1

    Gal Problems

    Ok i'm not one to ask for help, for anything but I'm clueless and I want outside opinions about this. Heres the scenario: The Girl I like dumped her now ex boyfriend, for me. Now that'd be all fine and dandy, but I ask her out and she says maybe, no biggie I figure it's b/c her ex is bugging her still. So now we're basically a couple (unoficially) and I hear from various sources that she may be going out with him again. Now heres why i'm confused, she's never met the guy before. He's a friend of a friend of her sister and they've never met in person before. I don't wanna lose one of my best friends. I'm not sure where to go from here. I'm gonna talk to her today after school if all goes well, but I'm worried that my paranoia may be rightfully there....I WANT to be wrong that she's with him. I have never felt this way about anyone in my entire life, and well I'm out of ideas about how to handle this. Any comments/suggestions/whatever are more than welcome. Thanks in advance.

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  • Butterfingers
    PhD in Automagology
    • Jan 2001
    • 2263

    #2
    Yeah dont worry about it figuing girls out is easy...

    Put your ego aside cause this may sting a bit.

    GO by thier actions not thier words.

    There is a rule that proves true all the time... ANYTHING OTHER THAN YES MEANS NO!!!

    When she said maybe you should have known right then and there. If she had a genuine intrest in you she would have said YES.

    I hate to tell you but why would it make sense that she would refuse your offer to go out if she in fact dumped her BF for you?

    If she dumped her boyfriend for YOU she would be going out with YOU! Jee golly its that simple!

    Makes sense if you put your ego aside...

    Now you arent going to want to beilive me because us men have egos that do anything to prevent hurt.

    Im trying to get you to look at women OBJECTIVELY not SUBJECTIVELY.

    Over time you will realize that pursuing her now is just gonna be a waste of time.

    Move on with your life... If she is in fact ready she will come to you.

    Right now the best thing you can do is nothing. If she has genuine intrest she will let you know.

    I never said you dont have a chance but NOW is not the time.

    So my adivce is sit back relax and watch the sparks fly. When shes ready to dump the loser shes with now she will let you know.

    Remember patience is bitter but its fruit is sweet.
    Last edited by Butterfingers; 03-15-2004, 06:07 AM.
    Did you hear about the new european weapons contracts? France is going to make the wooden sticks Spain making the little white flags

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    • frenchman309
      Registered User
      • Feb 2004
      • 240

      #3
      That was deep butterfingers

      Originally posted by AGD
      "Our products are like a woman, most are good enough for one night, only one is good enough for a lifetime."

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      • virus
        AO's dirty little secret
        • Oct 2000
        • 1524

        #4
        Originally posted by frenchman309
        That was deep butterfingers
        i couldn't have said that any better.....

        all i can add is i'm glad i'm wearin boots right now
        as it is gettin pretty deep in here =)


        but alas butters is right...
        Virus, King of the Basement Trollz has spoken

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        • paintbattler
          Mags > Cockers
          • Nov 2001
          • 2754

          #5
          If you go beat the X up, then he will know to back off. I know this from experience...
          Last edited by paintbattler; 03-15-2004, 09:07 AM.
          Someone took away my cool sig. *cough*mod*cough*

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          • -Carnifex-
            Registered User
            • Jan 2003
            • 1434

            #6
            If she's not hot don't bother.
            "What we have to accomplish at this time is all the more clear: relentless criticism of all existing conditions, relentless in the sense that the criticism is not afraid of its findings and just as little afraid of the conflict with the powers that be."
            - Karl Marx

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            • paintbattler
              Mags > Cockers
              • Nov 2001
              • 2754

              #7
              Originally posted by -Carnifex-
              If she's not hot don't bother.
              HAHA, words of wisdom. Send me a picture of her and a picture of you and I'll tell you if she's good for you or not.
              Someone took away my cool sig. *cough*mod*cough*

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              • Butterfingers
                PhD in Automagology
                • Jan 2001
                • 2263

                #8
                Shes obviously hot... otherwise this guy would not be head over heels for her when he dosent even know her that well.

                Sometimes guys think they are attracted to personality, that what thier ego tells them... in reality they are attracted by beauty.

                Thats what reality tells them.
                Did you hear about the new european weapons contracts? France is going to make the wooden sticks Spain making the little white flags

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                • Jonneh
                  A nice fellow.
                  • May 2001
                  • 990

                  #9
                  Lock her in the tool shed till she admits it.

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                  • Commissar_Loki
                    6-shootin SOB
                    • Jul 2003
                    • 438

                    #10
                    Hmm, well I have taken the words to heart, and well I am attracted to her personality. I believe she likes me, since well to be honest i messed things up today, and we're both trying to piece things back together I think. I took the words of ppl (her friends and mine) before I even talked to her, so now i'm in deep. But like I said, I think we can work thru this. We talked earlier, and well, basically she says she does like me. I just hope she forgives me for acting like a complete @$$hole earlier. And as it stands we're going to prom and this are ok...as best as can be expected for me saying mean things...I feel like I should be shot. But anyway, thanks for your tips, I'm taking them to heart. Thanks all, I owe ya.



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                    • r1champ529
                      Registered User
                      • Jan 2004
                      • 80

                      #11
                      Dude, just lay the root to her at prom (all girls put out at prom) and she will be so in love with you that she will forget all about this other guy. PROBLEM SOLVED!
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                      • Butterfingers
                        PhD in Automagology
                        • Jan 2001
                        • 2263

                        #12
                        My advice is chill out during the prom don't come on heavy. In fact don't come on at all. Be friendly and have fun. By the end of the night she will be going nuts wondering why you havent made a move on her yet.

                        At the end of the night go for the kiss. Move in slowly and deliberately... If she kisses back your golden for the next date.

                        If she turns away shes playing you like a banjo. It means she went to the prom with you because she didnt want to stare at the ceiling all night. If it were up to me drop the girl shes not worth the time.

                        From the info you provided:

                        If her intrest were rated from 0-10 I would say shes floating around a 6. Maybe even less...

                        WHY?

                        For the reasons I mentioned. If she was really intested she would have jumped on the oppurtuinty to go out with you. She didnt.

                        If she was really intrested in you she wouldnt be oggling her ex. She Did.

                        Take my advice patience is bitter but its fruit is sweet.

                        A man's high intrest is his death knoll. You come on too strong, you try to be her daddy, you make your move too soon, you touch her too much. Her intrest will drop faster than Howard Dean's poll rating.

                        The trick is to keep her guessing and get her to chase YOU!

                        Remember be a GENTLEMAN but don't be a whimp.

                        Reality sucks, but keepin it real is the key to success because you make decisions objectively not on a preconceived fantasy.

                        Disclaimer: Don't get mad at me get mad at reality... If you go against reality things tend to go against you.

                        Things are the way they are and if you dont take things the way they are things WILL work against you.

                        Accept reality for what it is and make your moves around it. Magically everything starts working your way.
                        Last edited by Butterfingers; 03-16-2004, 08:49 PM.
                        Did you hear about the new european weapons contracts? France is going to make the wooden sticks Spain making the little white flags

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                        • Commissar_Loki
                          6-shootin SOB
                          • Jul 2003
                          • 438

                          #13
                          No worry, I'm workin on your advice Butterfingers. Thanks in all honesty it gives me a bit of a new look on things. In all honesty, I can't just drop her, she's one of my best friends now. as for Prom, technically she asked me to go, don't know if that matters or not to your explaination. Anyway, thanks man.

                          -Rabbit
                          Mango= Hero

                          Moods mango creates:
                          :clap: :tard: :rofl: :cuss: :dance: :rolleyes:

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                          • -=Squid=-

                            #14
                            Now all I personally need to know is when is an oppertune time to move in for this so called "kiss"

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                            • Butterfingers
                              PhD in Automagology
                              • Jan 2001
                              • 2263

                              #15
                              Its when you make it... the most important thing is to stay in control. When you take control you control the situation.

                              Remember that. Never become so weak in the knees from her that you loose your self-control.

                              Now im NOT talking about controlling women. Im talking about controlling the STITUATION. Its is simple as stepping back putting your ego aside looking at the situation OBJECTIVELY and making decisions based on your objective assesment.

                              For example: Say you see her dancing with her EX.

                              THE WORST thing you can do is to let her know it bothers you. In this case you lost control of the situation and you are basing the night on the hatred/jealousy you have for her ex. You are now driven by emotion which is IRRATIONAL. Irrational feelings tend to drive you to make decisions that go against reality.

                              This is the way you SHOULD handle the situation: Step back relax don't let it bother you. Be confident in yourself and your control of the situation... CALM COOL COLLECTED like ICE!

                              Think...OBJECTIVELY... now if this girl were truely intrested in me she wouldent do anything that would hurt me. If she does shes not inrested. And I am not going to bother with a girl that lacks respect for me. If she is truely intrested she will come back... If she dosent shes a waste of my time...

                              In her mind you have passed her test... she's going crazy wondering why you arent getting jealous like any other guy would. She wondering why you are being so cool about it. While shes sittin there second guessing you trying to figure you out she becomes more and more intruigued by your actions.

                              The result you get brownie points...


                              Now if your objective assessment tells you that shes just not intrested and shes playing you like a banjo all you got to remember is tht Kitty Cats Compete...

                              Start talking to other girls, you dont need her. Not only will you meet other women you will make her realize what she missed. Then when she comes crawling back it will be too late.



                              See the diffrence.

                              In short...

                              Usually the most conveneint time is at the end of the night.

                              If she turns away, its best you stay away and try not to milk the pain.
                              Last edited by Butterfingers; 03-16-2004, 10:32 PM.
                              Did you hear about the new european weapons contracts? France is going to make the wooden sticks Spain making the little white flags

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