Well I am not thinking about getting married or anything, just have to write this pointless paper for theology class. Basically we have to pretty much talk about our views on marriage. But I still dont get when you know you are really ready for marriage. How can you tell for sure that the person you are with is the girl for you? Most of the paper is quite straightforth (what we are looking for in a spouse, etc), but this seems to stump me. I know that I don't want to get married til I am out of college. I want to also have a secure job with a steady, well-paying job. I am just so confused. Any REAL advice would be appreciated. Thanks
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what i like to do with boring papers is to make them exciting. take an extreme view on the subject and extrapolate from there.
heres an example: you think that marriage is a totally un-needed part of human life. we are animals, and we have a need to reproduce and continue the bloodline of our species. therefore, you see no need to get married, but you do see the need to nail every chick you see. child support? just move to another country and chagne your name.
this isn't my view at all, i just made it up to make your paper interestingSIG RULES SUCK REAL BAD AND THEYRE STUPID AND DUMB AND THEY STINK AND ARE STUPID AND I HATE THEM AND THEY SUCK REAL BAD -
The thing is , that when you are ready for marriage you just know.
I met my wife and just knew that this was the girl that I wanted to be with forever. I can't explain it.Comment
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Sure you can explain it... you just did a marvelous job of it.Originally posted by punkncatComment
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I know that marrage for me was the biggest waste of 5 years of my life.Comment
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I just dont know what to do for this paper. Like I have serious opinions on marriage and relationships in general. I have only told one girl that I loved her and that is my current girlfriend. I can tell you that I honestly do. I have gone out with lots of other people, just haven't loved anyone else. I have been with her for close to a year and we have never gotten in a fight. I have thought about us being together and honestly want that to happen, but with college being in my near future it will put a serious strain on our relationship. I don't know...........
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It's easy to tell when it's time to get married. Your future wife will tell you...Originally posted by paintballrulzsComment
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My girlfriend has actually told me she wants to marry me.Originally posted by Kevmag
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did you know right away, or did it take a little while to know her before you finally realized this?Originally posted by punkncat------------------------
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Originally posted by paintballrulzs
Well, you just kinda know. Hard to explain. As for the rest, I'm going to take the advice my grandpa and my mentor's gave me on marriage.
1) First and foremost, marraige is not a financial decision. However, financial strain is one of the main problem areas in marraiges. Therefore, if you can have no debt, that's great. If not, do your best to get there. It'll help in the long run.
2) You are now the head of a household and a partner in a relationship. Act like it.
3) Wait a few years to have children. Establish yourself as a married couple before trying to establish yourself as parents.
4) Expect to have family issues. Everyone has strange family members you won't like or that won't like you. Set up a way to deal with this BEFORE it becomes an issue. Keep in mind the number one person in your life is now your spouse.
5) Even though you are married, people still need a little alone time. Set up a weekly/daily period when each person can have a little time to themselves.
6) Always sleep in the same bed after an argument and never withhold sex, it can lead to lingering resentment.
Pretty good advice I think.Comment
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When you're ready to get married, this type of reasoning will go out the window. It's very easy to say, "I'm not getting married under conditions X, Y, and Z," but you'll forget all about that when you find the right woman.Originally posted by paintballrulzs
You'll know it's time once your girlfriend starts pointing out how pretty all her girlfriends' engagement rings are, or brings home a bridal magazine from the grocery store and starts selecting wedding dresses.
When it comes to marriage, women are about as subtle as a brick to the head.Comment
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Get her to sign a pre-nup, which is easy if she's mail order because she wants citizenship foremost, and initially plans on getting rid of you afterwards anyway and pre-nup's are fairly normal for mail order situations. If she doesn't speak English, she can't talk back - actually, I suppose she could yap at you in her language, and even though you don't understand it exactly - the message gets across. Perhaps beeyatching is a universal female language regardless of what tongue is used - on second thought, scratch the "perhaps," I'm sure of its existence. Maybe a deaf/mute mail-order girl would be best. But you know what, she'll figure out how to sign at you in a way that will hurt your ears, and develop that keen 6th sense stuff - particularly ESP projected from the "evil eye" that makes you feel ill.
Maybe it's just hopeless.
Well, if she's real domestic-like, cooks good, and is obedient, try to hang on to her for a few years - especially if she's good-looking, and even more especially if you landed a mute one like I mentioned. Mail-order or not, get the tubes tied and don't tell her about it. Child support is expensive - it will cut into your paintball fund. After you're done with her, there's plenty more.
Ditch her. Repeat process.Last edited by Miscue; 05-13-2004, 10:10 AM.
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Oh come on man! Do you have ANY idea how much of a premium you'd have to pay to get a mail order bride like that? You'd be looking at 10-20X the normal price!Originally posted by Miscue
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Interest rates are low right now.Originally posted by ShooterJMOh come on man! Do you have ANY idea how much of a premium you'd have to pay to get a mail order bride like that? You'd be looking at 10-20X the normal price! Comment
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Hehehehehehehehe good point! I'm gonna be a loan broker for mail order brides.
Gives a whole new meaning to the phrase, "What kind of deal would I have to give you to get you into this new model...."
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