My daughter is 11 years old and is in 6th grade this year. This year was the transition to middle school , with different classes instead of a single class/same teacher.
This year started off well with her grades but quickly she stopped trying to succeed or learn in school. Her whole attitude this year has been one of uncaring and disintrest. We have had numerous meetings with her teachers , put her in tutoring , gave her special help at school , with an adgenda book to help her keep track of her assignments. Also to help us know what she actually has for homework and to follow what goes on at school.
Her grades at school are so low it is incredible. She turns in papers with nothing done on them with a smile. Makes less than 50% on open book reviews. Its not a problem that she doesn't understand or anything , it is a sheer lack of any type of effort.
Top this off by the fact that she is lying about EVERYTHING. Not just things that she could be in trouble for or fantasys , everything! We catch her every time and explain to her why she shouldn't lie , but she continues to do it.
She has social problems with the kids at school because she like to be in their buisiness so much. In fact she is this way with everyone. Always worrying about them and what they are doing rather than minding her own affairs or taking care of what she is to be doing.
We have taken her to counselors , therapists , etc , had her tested for ADD , the works. They all say she is a perfectly normal child for her age.
Her grades in school have led to restriction from most everything except breathing. She has lost TV, phone, and special privelages. We will not allow her to do anything extra or have treats. We have tried positive amd negative reinforcement. Several tactics described by her counselors and doctors.
ABSOLUTLEY NOTHING WORKS!!!!!!!!
It is so frustrating . We have tried everything. She has every opportunity of help that can possibly be available for her. We all have busted our balls trying to accomidate her and help her get motivated.
This all has led to her failing 6th grade and she couldn't care less. She doesn't care that she has no privelege. That all of her toys are taken away....none of it has made any effect at all.
What can I do to turn this around? What do you as parents do , or as kids what do your parents do to get you motivated to face your responsibilities?
I am stumped and at the end of my parental rope. Moments away from calling Dr. Phil.
I know its sad that I am asking on a paintball forum about this , but honestly the professionals can't even help , so I have nothing to loose.
This year started off well with her grades but quickly she stopped trying to succeed or learn in school. Her whole attitude this year has been one of uncaring and disintrest. We have had numerous meetings with her teachers , put her in tutoring , gave her special help at school , with an adgenda book to help her keep track of her assignments. Also to help us know what she actually has for homework and to follow what goes on at school.
Her grades at school are so low it is incredible. She turns in papers with nothing done on them with a smile. Makes less than 50% on open book reviews. Its not a problem that she doesn't understand or anything , it is a sheer lack of any type of effort.
Top this off by the fact that she is lying about EVERYTHING. Not just things that she could be in trouble for or fantasys , everything! We catch her every time and explain to her why she shouldn't lie , but she continues to do it.
She has social problems with the kids at school because she like to be in their buisiness so much. In fact she is this way with everyone. Always worrying about them and what they are doing rather than minding her own affairs or taking care of what she is to be doing.
We have taken her to counselors , therapists , etc , had her tested for ADD , the works. They all say she is a perfectly normal child for her age.
Her grades in school have led to restriction from most everything except breathing. She has lost TV, phone, and special privelages. We will not allow her to do anything extra or have treats. We have tried positive amd negative reinforcement. Several tactics described by her counselors and doctors.
ABSOLUTLEY NOTHING WORKS!!!!!!!!
It is so frustrating . We have tried everything. She has every opportunity of help that can possibly be available for her. We all have busted our balls trying to accomidate her and help her get motivated.
This all has led to her failing 6th grade and she couldn't care less. She doesn't care that she has no privelege. That all of her toys are taken away....none of it has made any effect at all.
What can I do to turn this around? What do you as parents do , or as kids what do your parents do to get you motivated to face your responsibilities?
I am stumped and at the end of my parental rope. Moments away from calling Dr. Phil.
I know its sad that I am asking on a paintball forum about this , but honestly the professionals can't even help , so I have nothing to loose.
Hope you get it resolved.
and genrally its just more healthy and rewarding to atleast do it, so the sub par effort I give still gets me A/B Honor roll and NHS, and all that costly, "FUN" stuff, Ive never had to be forced to do so, or frankly or I wouldnt do it, I have issues with athority I guess, and to be stright forward, its my way or no way, I could careless about threats or actions... perhaps she does too? Oh and I do occationaly have issues minding my own buesness too I guess, more so to play with peoples minds and emotions in nondamageing/noticeable ways for the most part...Its a challenge
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