i need some opinions........women

[Miscue]

Strangely enough, I am at the receiving end of pickup lines more often than not... I'm kinda shy and don't ask people out very often. Things I've been told:

"Do you like girls?"

One outright sat in my lap and said, "Hi."

"Do you have a girlfriend?"

"You have pretty eyes."

"Maybe sometime you can come over and teach me how to use my computer." (I kid you not)

"What's your name?"

There was one girl in an English 101 class that made sure we were partners... she kept giving me papers she wrote about sex and how it's ok before marriage so long as the couple loves each other... and stuff like that. She followed me around one day and asked me to lunch. Musicians...

Pinched from behind, I turn around to see a big smile. Two or three times that's happened... Although I really don't appreciate that... girls can get away with that stuff...

Most girls aren't so foreward... they'll try to say things with their eyes... mannerisms... tone of voice. (it's called flirting ) I caught one of my sister's friends standing over the stairway watching me play the piano all smiling and stuff... black lacquer reflects almost like a mirror...

Personally, I do not like girls who get touchy feely right off the bat. Trying to hug you, sit in your lap, grab your arm and stuff... that irks me. I have to really know someone first... CLOSE friends first and foremost, that's important.

If there's one bit of advice I'd could give... that would be to look for an authentically good person. A kind and honest person. Similar interests... thoughts... goals... at least something in common... that's a good thing. Realize that you can be attracted to someone for the wrong reasons... physical or psychological reasons (like you're lonely or something)... it's important to shut that out. If you want a healthy relationship, you have to know the person - understand them. What are their thoughts? Their desires... aspirations... What makes them sad or happy? Find a way to connect with that person at a deeper level. Don't hurry things, you have lots of time. Relationships are give and take for both persons. Don't expect anything.

I have no 'pick-up' lines to offer because I do not believe in them... but I think I could share how I initiated what I hope to become a wonderful relationship.

I met this most remarkable girl where I work on campus. Brilliant, kind, beautiful... in touch with herself and her emotions. Someone I can talk to, relate with, completely trust... I could tell her anything... and just about have. The moment I met her I knew she was something special. The more I got the chance to know her, the more I wanted to be with her. I'm a complete chicken when it comes to this kind of thing, but I forced myself to say something... I just had to. I picked out something simple, something that would not put her on the spot, be uncomfortable, or imply anything. I simply asked her if she might ever have the chance to go out for ice cream... we ended up going for coffee instead because it was cold. We talked for a couple hours at least... shared some things about ourselves... I was scared to death. Numerous awkward silences... I'm a lot more comfortable now though. I think at this point, both of us are trying to get closer to each other... but neither of us really knows how. We are both somewhat insecure. I really hope this will go somewhere... I think she's the one I've been looking for.

Ok, now you guys know WAY too much about me. But for reals... be careful in what you do, and really evaluate yourself... what you are looking for. Be very careful that you do not like or even love someone for the wrong reasons. A happy life-long relationship is what I'm looking for. I hope you look for the same, know how to, and are lucky enough to find it.


-Brian

[udtseal]

Wow very well said miscue! I hope it works out for you.

[graycie]

man....this made me feel like i was in high school again

[Miscue]

Not for me... nobody had anything to do with me until college... I was a dork.

[TheBigRaguPB4L]

whoa, that was pretty deep, almost brings a tear to the eyes..... ...........no. anyways, no, i'm most absolutely not looking for a relationship. even if i were, it owuldnt' be with someone older than my sister. and i know she isn't either. stuff like that only work out for one thing.........i'm sure you all know what i'm talking about. but i don't know, she's mad cool, and i don't like using girls/women like that. i did it once and it just wasn't worth it. very aggrivating. everyone seems to say go for it, but i'm really not that kind of person. hahaha, i feel like the only guy that just doesn't want to get ____. oh well. we'll see, she's forever trying to come on to me. she just tones it down at work cause she doesn't want rumor's going around. she swears she wants to hang out just the 2 of us but we both work 2 jobs. oh well.

miscue- i met that one person once before. still to this day remember our first kiss and what it felt like. i thought she was the one. i never felt like that ever before and i still haven't. what happened? she left me for this little pretty boy. did i mention i hate pretty boys? hahahhhaha. chicks suck.

[Cha0tic]

left you for some pretty boy....that sucks. now go beat the crap outta the pretty boy and get your woman back!!!!!

[TheBigRaguPB4L]

naaaaaaaa, that was a while ago. plus i realized she was just a stupid little girl. but i can't blame her, i was a stupid little boy(at the time). oh well, i learned alot from here(well, more like because of her) so at least i gained from it.

[Cha0tic]

it kinda reminds me of a song...."stupid girl".....hmmm

[wyn1370]

Yep, I found my one. Screwed it up big time, and I mean BIG TIME. I hurt her bad. I still kick myself for it now.
She got engaged to one of my fraternity brothers. Guy is the biggest headcase (no offense) ever. They fought and broke off the engagement a few dozen times. After he graduated he moved out of state and she followed a couple months later. Now I figure that she's gone for good and I can forget about her. They lived together for about 4 or 5 months. And go figure they have a big fight. She came back in town about two weeks ago, and showed up to a party I was at, complete surprise to me. Of course I realize that I'm still in love with her, I didn't say anything that night though. A few days later I called up my buddy that had been talking to her while she was gone, I was mad that he didn't warn me that she was back in town. But he had no idea she was back. But he did tell me that she's not engaged anymore and it is supposedly over for good between her and the idiot. Now I've got to figure out where I'm going with all of this. It's been three years since we where seeing each other and we aren't the same people we where back then. I'm not sure she could have the same feelings she had for me before, unfortunately I've still got feelings for her.

anyway this is a seriously abbreviated version.

OK I'm done crying on everybody's shoulder, just felt the need to share.

[slateman]

I say go for it... Just make sure she isn't married

[covadsucks]

Miscue- I applaude your sense of values, but this isn't what was being asked.

Ragu- Date the woman. Enjoy time spent with her, and let her teach you all she can and will. When I was 17 I was dating a 16 year old and a 32 year old simultaneously. While the younger was my girlfriend, and still is currently, the older was taking me here and there and teaching me the ropes to living and having fun. I miss her still and it's been 9 years.
Point is, age is nothing but a number. Do what you want to, especially if you find her attractive. Hell, she may end up buying you an SFL Emag...who knows...

[Miscue]

Whoops. You're right. I confused this thread for the 'pick-up lines' thread. Oh well.