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  • Target Practice
    irc.zirc.org:6667 = chat!
    • Nov 2003
    • 3180
    #1

    A Second Chance?

    Well, this may be the wrong environment to ask, but here goes.

    Say your girlfriend/boyfriend cheated on you (not holding hands type of cheating, but the BIG cheat, so to speak), but were honest with you (after you sweated the information out of them) and, more importantly, truely sorry for what they did. Do you think they deserve a second chance?
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    Yes, everyone deserves a second chance?
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    No, they already blew it.
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    12
    Maybe, I need more information.
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    "Every normal man must be tempted at times to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats." --Henry Louis Mencken.
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    • Fanatic
      Hey yo! You talkin to me?
      • Dec 2001
      • 488
      #2
      oh yeah...second chance indeed...but only after you make it even

      but seriously....the decision is if you will be comfortable with the second chance

      IMO...your trust is already broken

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        • -=Squid=-
          #3
          Not unless your married.

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            • Target Practice
              irc.zirc.org:6667 = chat!
              • Nov 2003
              • 3180
              #4
              Originally posted by Fanatic
              oh yeah...second chance indeed...but only after you make it even

              but seriously....the decision is if you will be comfortable with the second chance

              IMO...your trust is already broken

              I know this. She knows this. The question is, is it irrepairable. And, if it can be fixed, is it worth trying, only to get the shaft (no pun intended) again?


              "Every normal man must be tempted at times to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats." --Henry Louis Mencken.

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                • davidb
                  Understandable
                  • Jul 2001
                  • 555
                  #5
                  I'm with Squid on this one. Ryan, give me a call when you get a chance, aright?
                  Your head asplode!

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                    • Restola
                      Certificated Cloud Buster
                      • May 2001
                      • 2230
                      #6
                      no

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                        • Target Practice
                          irc.zirc.org:6667 = chat!
                          • Nov 2003
                          • 3180
                          #7
                          Originally posted by davidb
                          I'm with Squid on this one. Ryan, give me a call when you get a chance, aright?
                          David, you don't think I'm going to off myself, do you?



                          "Every normal man must be tempted at times to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats." --Henry Louis Mencken.

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                            • ZapTheMad
                              The local MADMAN!
                              • Jan 2004
                              • 709
                              #8
                              I'm 35 years old and been in many relationships and 2 divorces due to cheating. Some of them cheated on me and some were cheating on others to be with me.

                              Just when you think you are getting over it and starting to trust her again, she will cheat again. It's best to just move on and start over new.




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                                • davidb
                                  Understandable
                                  • Jul 2001
                                  • 555
                                  #9
                                  Originally posted by Target Practice
                                  David, you don't think I'm going to off myself, do you?

                                  Hadn't crossed my mind, no, but getting back together with her is about the next best thing!



                                  Your head asplode!

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                                    • Mister Sinister
                                      Crop circle designer
                                      • Dec 2003
                                      • 143
                                      #10
                                      No, If it was me I would kick her to the curb and start dating her best friend.
                                      You can go a long way with a smile. You can go a lot farther with a smile and a gun.
                                      -Al Capone

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                                        • Target Practice
                                          irc.zirc.org:6667 = chat!
                                          • Nov 2003
                                          • 3180
                                          #11
                                          ...

                                          Her parents own a restaurant. I don't have to pay to eat there! Free fillet mignon. Hello! But seriously Dave, she made a mistake. How much stupid crap have I done for as long as you've known me?


                                          "Every normal man must be tempted at times to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats." --Henry Louis Mencken.

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                                            • Target Practice
                                              irc.zirc.org:6667 = chat!
                                              • Nov 2003
                                              • 3180
                                              #12
                                              Originally posted by Mister Sinister
                                              No, If it was me I would kick her to the curb and start dating her best friend.
                                              I did the first thing, now I'm wondering if I should help her up. Besides, all her friends are PITAs.


                                              "Every normal man must be tempted at times to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats." --Henry Louis Mencken.

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                                                • Restola
                                                  Certificated Cloud Buster
                                                  • May 2001
                                                  • 2230
                                                  #13
                                                  Originally posted by Target Practice
                                                  I did the first thing, now I'm wondering if I should help her up. Besides, all her friends are PITAs.
                                                  Yeah, "break up", but never actually break up. Nothing but good written all over that one.

                                                  Those are the best relationships. But hey, I'm sure your's will work out.

                                                  You want to do the "right thing", because you still care for her in some way. Fine, do it. But it only leads to one place.

                                                  You start spending time with her, and I see you going back to her as soon as she asks.

                                                  Good luck playing the door mat role.

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                                                    • Target Practice
                                                      irc.zirc.org:6667 = chat!
                                                      • Nov 2003
                                                      • 3180
                                                      #14
                                                      Originally posted by Restola
                                                      Yeah, "break up", but never actually break up. Nothing but good written all over that one.

                                                      Those are the best relationships. But hey, I'm sure your's will work out.

                                                      You want to do the "right thing", because you still care for her in some way. Fine, do it. But it only leads to one place.

                                                      You start spending time with her, and I see you going back to her as soon as she asks.

                                                      Good luck playing the door mat role.

                                                      She made a damn mistake. I'm not trying to justify anything, but at what point do you stop and say, "I forgive you." I forgave her, but I probably won't be able to forget it. Why hold it against her forever? What good will become of that. If nothing else, shouldn't actions be taken to try to establish at least a cordial relationship?


                                                      "Every normal man must be tempted at times to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats." --Henry Louis Mencken.

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                                                        • Miscue
                                                          Super Moderator

                                                          • Oct 2000
                                                          • 7105
                                                          #15
                                                          Originally posted by Target Practice
                                                          She made a damn mistake. I'm not trying to justify anything, but at what point do you stop and say, "I forgive you." I forgave her, but I probably won't be able to forget it. Why hold it against her forever? What good will become of that. If nothing else, shouldn't actions be taken to try to establish at least a cordial relationship?
                                                          I dunno. A mistake is when you come home way later than expected, forget to do something you were asked, accidentally let the cat out and it gets run over.

                                                          Cheating is something very different. It's a breech of all trust of one of the worst kinds in a relationship. "Oh, I learned from it - it will be better now!" Yeah right. People don't change on a dime like that. It was a choice, not a mistake. The mistake was getting caught or fessing up to it.

                                                          If someone were to punch you in the face, and say "It was a mistake!" You're just an idiot if you let it go. Oh, I forgive you!

                                                          I wouldn't.

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