Sometimes I get screwed over......and it kinda hurts

[Tbone]

Just wondering if this happens to any of you other guys.....

I have a really cool bunch of friends that I hang out with alot, sometimes together, sometimes individually. I spent the majority of the past 4 or 5 days attempting to contact any member of this group. I was unsuccessful up until today. The reason I was after them was to find out what everyone was doing for New Years.

Of course, I call one of my friends today and he tells me he's going up to Vermont to go skiing. So, I think to myself, that's fine, I'll just hang out with everyone else. Then I find out that everyone else is going too. Were does that leave me? Alone....stranded.

I don't mean to whine, but I seriously feel like crap now and I'm just venting my emotions I guess. I haven't done anything to them, and this isn't the first time it's happened that I've been kinda "screwed over" like this. I confronted one of my friends and he assured me that it's not me. But I still feel like poop!

I have many other groups of friends that I hang out with, but this one inparticular has one person whom I really like (in the really liking way, and yes, she's a girl). So you can see why I enjoy being with them.

It was probably the worst phone conversation I've had in a while. When I found out, my stomach kinda just sunk way, way down....

Anyone else ever get screwed over like this?

[ThePatriot]

I do know the feeling, but not in that exact context...u see I, back in NY was the kid who was the butt end of everyones jokes. I got made fun of by them all the time, they said "we're just joking" and i knew they were, but i still felt like a pile of crap, and they all went skiing and did stuff together as well, or perhaps went to parties or stayed together on field trips....and sometimes i was left out, its ok to feel like you do....its normal

[covadsucks]

They are jealous or scared that yer gonna end up with her. Or they are pieces of *edit* cussing not allowed. Army

[irbodden]

Why not make a comment like "Gee.. thanks for asking (me, if I want to go)" when you talk to em' about the trip, see what their reaction is, and base your feelings toward them on his reply.

[Arman/XPM]

Tbone,
Donot let this get to you. It has happened to me to, I just shrug it off, and keep to myself. But, I understand where you are coming from. If it helps, donot take them paintballing - .

[Paintballer86]

This has happened to me before. I got really upset, when my friends all went to Flordia at my friends beach house. They did fun stuff too. I felt exactley how you did. My mom asked me why I was so sad, and I told her, so me and her went down to flordia ourselfs, and rented a condo for like 4 days. It was so crazy, so last minute, it was great. I also saw my "Friend" break his leg pretending he knew how to water ski trying to impress a girl. Best of all We were only 2 blocks from a piantball place, and I played there 2 times!! IN 4 DAYS!!!!!!

[udtseal]

Yo i got this group of "friends" that I know from High School, one of them is kind of like my best friend. We've known eachother longer than anyone else in our old HS "clique". So when they all come home for holidays as they are now, I call and call and call and call cell phones and houses and such to get in touch with them to hang out. Meanwhile they are all hanging out together and I am sitting at home as I am at this very moment. I know exactly how you feel dude. Why the heck cant they just CALL???? Or return a phone call??? WTF!!!! If college has taught me anything, family is all you can really count on...

[Tbone]

Thanks guys, I'm feeling a little better, but I still feel kinda crappy I guess. udtseal - that's exactly the situation I'm in

I call and call and call. They don't answer or return my messages. I'm trying to just shrug it off, I'm sure I'll get over it eventually, but it's times like these when I guess you find out who your true friends are....

[Turbo]

Just a quick question, when your friends called you (assuming they did) to do things, did you turn them down a lot? If you did, that may be why they don't call you anymore as they think you never want to do anything. If thats not the case however, they don't sound like any kind of friends at all, more like aquaintances as they never ask you to do anything, etc. IMO the best thing to do is to start getting new friends. Don't let them stop you from hanging out with other people. Find some new friends to hang out with and such and have fun, maybe you'll even bump into your old friends, err aquaintances, and they will see you having fun with new people

[omni]

IT might not be all that bad, I often sometimes just forget to call people assuming others call them.

My friends do the same thing as well, we just forget to call other friends sometimes.


Like for instance, A bunch of us were gonna go see LOTR last weekend and I invited my friend Lisa when we were all over at my friends house. " I said ya you should come were gonna go see it" she just got back from Unvirsity for the Xmas holo-days. When it was time to go, I just forgot to call her becuase I hadn't talked to her in SOO long since she's been away and I haden't talked to since then.

I felt bad, so I'll go see it again with her if she wants

[pumpamatic]

Yeah, I've had it happen before, too. Maybe sometimes you should be the one to plan stuff, I mean I had the same problem cuz you can't always just go over to their house, have them come to your place and hang out to, otherwise you ain't going nowhere with nobody.
Like covad said, maybe they are jealous, maybe you and this girl shouldn't always go together with the group.
But anywho, I know what you're saying, I mean I hardly ever go to parties cuz nobody invites me, but that's when I hang with my group of friends that doesn't party too often either, and we just do other stuff.