Ok, I'm hoping I'm going to be a be able to have a friendly and helpful thread, so no flames please. So I've been friends with this girl Julie for like almost a year. We always have fun when we're with eachother. We are able to keep conversation going pretty good. We can relate about alot of stuff emotionaly. All of her friends and even her sister say that she acts really different around me. Shes really hyper and weird and stuff around me. She always says I'm hella funny. She's complimented my looks a couple times. I kinda want to hook up with her but, I don't know how to go about doing it because we've been friends for so long and I don't want to like scare her away. And another thing, I don't think she has me carved in stone that I'm just a friend YET, but that is a concern that I'm moving into that direction, is there a way that I can show her that I'm willing to be something more than a friend, without making it too obvious? Should I ask her out like to the movies or something? Alone or with my friends?
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She acts really different around just you?
Find out what she's like around her friends and her everyday attitude when she's not around you and realize that is what she will be like once you two get in a steady relationship.
I'm not saying she is going to be unlikeable if she acts how she normally acts around other people than you, just realize that she's only going to be "charming and cheerful" around you until your relationship gets more involved or her crush on you wears off.
That's all I have to say about what you've said thus far. My real advice would be to not even worry about girls until you're about 25 and in the meantime focus on building a career for yourself so you're financially stable and you can get a girl and start a family. Then again, most people don't want to hear that... -
That is the brain talking, not the penis.Originally posted by BlackVCGLove Will Tear Us ApartComment
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I'm pretty simple and straightforward.
When I want to know what a girl thinks, or somehow convey to her a message. I just come out and say it. Not exactly "smooth", but it gets the point across with no chance of misinterpretation.
If she just wants to be a friend after you ask, well, you'll still have a good friend (if she bugs out and leaves she's not worth it anyways). If she likes the idea, well, have fun you got what ya wanted.
Not much to it. Takes all the guesswork out of it from your end and SHOULD get you a straight answer.Comment
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i don't know what to tell ya man, i had the same problem. but i lost a good friend when i told her what was going on. so good luck but don't wait to tell her, cause it can just turn worse.Hard work never killed anybody...but why take a chance?
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Just come out and say it.
The shy beating around the bush stuff is only gonna get you more confusion.
I ain't the smoothest guy in the world but girls respond alot better to honesty.Fall Seven Times Stand Up Eight.
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Originally posted by RevBrown
no joke here bro, if you just come out straightup and tell her that you think you guys can be more than just friends, it usually ends up better that squirming around saying it. Go for it, it will work...
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Heres my take on it and I may be off base. You say you have been friends for a year. That seems to me like the relationship is already somewhat established. Its just been my expierence that when i meet a girl it doesnt take very long for it to either develop into a relationship or a friendship. I have tried to take friendships and turn them into relationships and been unsuccessful. but this is just me your situation may come out all different. Just maybe take a deeper look into your sitauation to find some clues as to where to go with it. Like do either of you see other people currently? How does she act twords other guys? Does she talk about other guys with you? Stuff like that can give you an idea. BTW BlackVCG's advice is good advice. The problem i have is just telling that to my hormones. And in the end their is nothing wrong with having a friend.You can go a long way with a smile. You can go a lot farther with a smile and a gun.
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If she hasn't showed that she likes you more as a friend i honestly wouldn't count on it being anything more than that in my opionion.Germany's Most Wanted Balla is sponsored by:
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i'm currently in the same situation right now, i've been friends with my rachel for aboue 3-4 years, were awsome friends and stuff every once in awhile she'll come stay with me (she lives 27.3 miles away) but like we've never had a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, she is literally my best friend, we've tried to have a relationship but things just kept getting weird
i'll marry her one day though.
its gonna happen.
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When is someone going to have a problem other than "How do I ask a girl out?"
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Originally posted by -Carnifex-
Starting right now.
My problem is that I need a few dollars from my friends.Fall Seven Times Stand Up Eight.
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this is happening to a friend of mine and he screwed up hopefully they can still be friends but this girl has everything exept a few misshaps like flirting with guys way to much and puffing the magic dragen
a lot, her name well i dont really want to say. but dont mess it up find out how she acts around other guys first try and go to a party with her or something be social with her and other guys, if you think its going to screw up your relaionship then dont try its not worth the hard ship what gos on and it sucks big when the two break up. my freind thought that thats the way she only acted around him and he was wronge(sp?) then he got really jeliouse of it and they broke up it was very hard to watch becuase they were perfect for eachother they have alot in commen but dont go out with her if it will screw you up and remember all girls are diffrent the bigest mistake he did was not just comeing out and saying dont be a wuss say what you mean im sure she wont dump you becuase you asked her out she will either 1.LIE and say she cant or 2. she will say yes and everything goes as planed, good luck and hopefully you wont be like my friend tell us what happens.
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You can come right out and say something and still be tactful about it. Tell her that you really enjoy your friendship, but lately you get the feeling that there might be something more between you. Then take the conversation where it goes. You might loose a friend, but if she can't get past the fact you might have feelings for her how great of a friend was she in the first place. If you don't you will always regret it.
I don't know about the advice of "see how she acts towards other guys." I have been dating my girlfriend for over 3 years now. We have a great relationship and I am going to propose to her shortly. I was friends with her for nearly 3 years before the two of us got together. At the point when the two of us got together she had ended the relationship with the guy she had been dating and was flirting with several other guys. She would tell me all about it as well. There were 3 other guys that she was interested in but it wasn't working out with any of them. She let it slip one evening that there were 4 guys dangling in front of her. Later that evening I figured out that the 4th guy I didn't know about was me. The rest is history.Comment
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damn it black where were you when i need that advice 6 years agoOriginally posted by BlackVCG
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