Another advice thread

[paintballrulzs]

Well my girlfriend and I just broke up after almost a year and I am hurting. The reason we broke up because I am going to college 2 states over (1 hr 20 min away) and she is going to be a senior this year and high school. She is the first gilf I have ever loved or ever told that I loved. We hung out practically everyday for the past year and all my friends and her both used to say how we were destined to be married, which i highly believe, or well used to. We broke up 2 nights ago and since then i have gotten a total of 5 hrs of sleep and have thrown up twice. I also haven't eaten on almost 24 hours. I honestly don't know what to do. I ask her what i should do she says she doens't know. She says she still loves me, but it just hurt lately. Its all because her friends tell her stuff that isn't true. I dont know if I should keep trying or just give up. I asked her if I should just give up and she even told me I should right now, but said that "who knows maybe in 3 months it will be us again." I dont see that is being a possibility with myself going to school so far away. My friends are split on their advice. Some are telling me to give up and there are going to be plenty of new girls where I am going and the rest are saying that as long as I love her I shouldn't give up. I just don't know what to do at this point. I am trying to get over her, but it is ridiculously tough because we were so close. I am not making this thread for pity, but rather hoping for some good advice from people who may have experience with a similar situation or know someone who has. I don't know if I am just wasting my time, like if we get back together will it even work when I am at college. I am so very confused right now it is ridiculous.

[ZSigErik]

I just had to break it off with a girl because I am leaving for the Marine Corps. Though I wasnt as close as you were with yours, I know the pain. My girl was turning out to be the only girl I felt I could love again(*Last big relationship was 2 years long*), but her and I were only together for a few a monthes.

Its hard man, to let go, especially when someone means that much to you, but you have to move on, and only time will heal. There is almost nothing you can do to hasten the process of mending a broken heart. Hang out with good friends alot, do what you guys do for fun. Thats what I did, just hung out with the fellas for awhile, and some of my closer girl friends. Theyd usually take me out to a movie or play some Walleyball. Its good to get your emotions out constructively, like working out or running or playing a sport.

It has to hurt before it heals my friend, and it will hurt alot. Because in time you realize your love for her was merely an inch wide, but a mile deep. Just know everything will be ok, and if it werely truely meant to be, it will be. You guys seemed like the perfect couple, just not in a perfect situation.

Hope I helped.

[mcdkid]

i sugest get some stephen lynch cds, but for every 1s safty, don't listen to the RDC song just yet.

[paintballrulzs]

She always used to tell me how we would always be together and how she would never hurt me. I am not like most guys, well most of my friends atleast, when it comes to relationships. I don't date girls just to "do stuff" and am also waiting til I am married to have sex. I am a very emotional guy and care more about holding hands with her and havning her in my arms then "doing stuff" I just don't know how to get over her. I went out with a girl for 2 years and never told her I loved her, but it took me only months to realize i love this girl, and that is what hurts the most. Anyone that knows us says how amazing our relationship was and are completely shocked it ended. I think 99 percent of it is the fact that she is scared about me going to college, and I try to show her I won't hurt her. When I went to orientation (2 days 1 night) I called her all the time to show that I wont just forget about her or move on when I go to school, but I guess that didnt help.

[paintballrulzs]

i sugest get some stephen lynch cds, but for every 1s safty, don't listen to the RDC song just yet.

LOL I have all of his CD's. The best one is "big fat friend." That is one of the reasons why things went sour. Every good looking girl has one as a "bodyguard." This one liked to put thigns in her head that weren't true.

[Brownie]

i had the exact same situation once. she still says she loves u and blah blah blah but itll turn out to be bull ****. just move one dude. i dated mine for a year and a half and 2 weeks after we broke up my bestfriend started dating here..... thats why it was bull****. the wierd part is i still love her..... wanna have a pitty party???























please?

[mcdkid]

my SL top 3
1.half a man
2. got down to the old pub instead/ u caught me spankin it
3. bowling song


anyway don't give up on her, i u wana stay to gether you can ask for help, or GET YOUR A** OF THE CHAIR AND GO OVER TO HER HOUSE! be cause the closer it gets to school time the worse your chances are gonna be.

[paintballrulzs]

Hey brownie guess what???




YOU'RE A ***GOT! I wasn't looking for pity, but rather advice. Why do I want pity from people I don't even know?





mcdkid - She is at her friend's house right now, but she works tonight 6-9 so I was debating if I should go see her at work or not. I vaguely asked her and she said that if I did she was more than likely start crying instantly. I am considering going to see her, but wait til she is off the clock to let her notice me. I don't her that I dont think we could realisitically be friends. I don't see how u can go from holding and kissing to being friends. I know it wouldn't be a smooth transition if it did ever happen, but I don't see it happening at all as it is.

on a side note the song about ginacology (definately spelled that wrong and could careless) is hilarious.

[PissedGodzilla]

Best Stephen Lynch:

1. Kill a kittem
2. She's a month dead
3. Special Olympics


Stephen Lynch always brightens your day... Best of luck to you bro!

[PissedGodzilla]

What was her reason for breaking up with you?? did she have one?

[paintballrulzs]

Best Stephen Lynch:

1. Kill a kittem
2. She's a month dead
3. Special Olympics


Stephen Lynch always brightens your day... Best of luck to you bro!

I also enjoy mitch hedgeberg (SP??) and Dane Cook.

[paintballrulzs]

What was her reason for breaking up with you?? did she have one?

She claims she didn't trust me all of a sudden because I have been acting differently, but it is just because I have been stressed out working 50 hrs a week and getting more loans to pay for college. Basically it all does down to the fact that she is scared and she won't even realize that herself really, but will admit I am right.

[PissedGodzilla]

She claims she didn't trust me all of a sudden because I have been acting differently, but it is just because I have been stressed out working 50 hrs a week and getting more loans to pay for college. Basically it all does down to the fact that she is scared and she won't even realize that herself really, but will admit I am right.

I think that if you say to her that you believe it is her that is having the commitment issues within the relationship... you need to say all the things you have done in your relationship and that you have remained faithful (that is, as long as you have, of course) all this time. There is no reason for her to think otherwise. I have seen many relationshiups make it through college. There is no reason why yours can't.

Dude the reason she has given is not a reason to give up on a relationship. It is a reason for her to be more understanding, at least that's what it should be. If my fiance' is stressed about work, I'm not going to dump her, I'm going to do my best to make her feel better, that's what couples do.

I think what I am trying to get at is that you might have to throw this all in her face, ALMOST accusing her of being immature, but doing it in a repectful and serious manner, and come off not angry, but hurt. That way of looking at things has helped me in the past.

You need to say that she needs to trust you, that she has trusted you for about a year now and you have not let her down; so why would you do so now??

I hope this helps, I'll keep checking in and adding what i can along the way.

Here to help,
PG

[UltimatePaintballer]

when she is close to getting off of work sit out by her car waiting for her

then spend as much time as you have left with each other till you leave

then just keep talking while your in college and you will still have a friendship with her that would be stronger then how it seems it would end up now.

better to keep her as a friend then to totally lose her.

[paintballrulzs]

Ya I am pretty sure I am going to go see her at work. I wish I knew what was going on. I am going to talk to her and tell her how I feel one last time before I give up hope for now. I hope things get better, but if they don't I will just have to slowly get over the fact that we wont be together.