my little brothers mistake

[dwab3000]

well he is living here..and everything he doesnt like...he calls my mom about

hes now 16..and able to drive...


Now, i am his legal guardian...im supposed to care for him

well the other night "he goes to a freinds house" and when hje gets back..4:30 in the morn...he reaks of bad whiskey..

and he DROVE him in my car...

and i have no way to teach him this is wrong

then i found some valuum, vicoden, and marijuana in his room....

then in the car a bottle of xanax

i am showing him less than zero for the drugs...(let him see that)...

i am trying to show him this is wrong, ive taken away his liscence, his car key, his house key (someone is usually home to let him in..unless they are asleep..IE at about 5 in the mornin")
no more computer, tv, or music....he is let out of the house only when an adult is with him..

[eNder159]

if he gets worse you can send him to the desert out in western USa..my friend was very defiant with his parents...so they sent him out to the desert to fend for him self..he had to **** in a hole he dug...eat whatever they gave him...take 10 mile hikes in the sun...build your own shelter..basically he's supervised by some mormons...so they dont commit suicide...and they fend for themselves without life's amenities....you have to spring for a large amount of money to do this..but its worth it...my friend came back a bit more humbled...

[chairman_mao]

Nothing says "I love you now stop being a retard" like a good *** kicking.

Or if all else fails turn him over the cops for the drugs. I would check on manditory minimum senteces and what not before hand but it would definately scare some sense into him. There is a place that all this should be done and it's called college. That's just my opinion

[Lumberjack]

It must just be me, but if I had pulled any one of those stunts my dad would have beat me within an inch of my life. It may take you calling the cops on him. Hand over his drugs and him to the law. Make him understand that there are indeed consequences to his actions.

This may sound morbid but a friend of mine had this used on him by his parents. They purchased a grave site at the local graveyard, put up a head stone with his name on it, and then took him there to show him. His dad handed him a shovel and told him that if he kept up with the lifestyle he was currently living he would need a head start. It scared him so bad he went to rehab the next day.

Just my $.02.

[eNder159]

wow...id so do that to my kid if i had one...that's a great ploy

[dwab3000]

well right now, i know i cant buy a headstone and everything....

damn....im trying to minimoze costs


as for th drugs...i do marijuana, i can admt that, then he tried to justify using it by saying i do

well im responsible when i use it

and i dont pop pills

[chairman_mao]

I'll start by saying I like the ganja myself.

That said being his leagal guardian you have a responsibility to set a good example. If that means no more bong hits then so be it. I'm really not trying to be preachy but bear with me. He sees you do it and figures that it hasn't caused a problem for you why can't he keep doing it.

Unfortunately weed does lead to other things for some people. Maybe should have a serious talk (I'm sure you've done this) with him but tell him you realize you may have been a bad example and offer to quit TOGETHER. This way he has someone to lean on and help him with his issues. I'm not suggesting that you never ever smoke the boo again but while you help him through this trying time for both of you it may be a good base to build a solid decision making future on for him. I don't know you or your brother so these suggestions may not work they may have already been tried but if not give it a whirl. The important thing is that your brother gets his stuff together.

[dwab3000]

well, if it means that i can do that..for awhile...i mean ive been doing it since i was younger than him (he doesnt know that)

but i will quit with him...untill he is all clean and sober...

hes being forced to watch less than zero right now

[splatattack33]

i like the gravestone idea i would be liek ahhh and run around in circles i am a pirate or you can make him wlak the plank or you can rent a helicopter and fly over water and puch him into it that would be fun

[devildog]

well, if it means that i can do that..for awhile...i mean ive been doing it since i was younger than him (he doesnt know that)

but i will quit with him...untill he is all clean and sober...

hes being forced to watch less than zero right now

using "do as i say, not as i do" tactics will never work. if you want him to stay away from drugs, you have to stay away from them too. otherwise he will always have a justified reason to use them.

if you use them yourself, i dont understand why you dont want him using them? any reason for him must be good enough a reason for you as well....

[dwab3000]

well first off,

im not popping pills,

next

he smokes more than i do

last

i am responsible when i do it...he goes for a drive when he does

anyway i am an adult, who likes to treat himself to a nice big bowl once and awhile

[Warewolf50]

hmm howabout every time he comes home drunk or whatever and passes out u get a perm marker and highlight all over his face, that should teach him

On a serious note, it is pretty hard to ask someone to stop doing something that u do. So i think u should try the whole quitting toegeather thing.

[dwab3000]

well we are quitting together...

but my problem is, i cant trust him AT ALL..hes been lying to me like this for awhile now

[SMG]

Treatment

Get him some help at a drug treatment program or maybe some counseling. Alot of kids experiment wiht booze and marijuana, but the combination of all the things you found would really worry me. More than likely the people he surrounds himself with are not helping the situation. Just my 2 cents - good luck.

[REDRT]

Does he like paintball? A teammate of mine WAS a big time drug addict. Paintball has helped him turn straight. Point is he needs to be free of that environment and those piss ant friends. Activities that doesn't include those same friends and places will help greatly. Although he is going to need firm support by you, family and close friends. But you and bro is going to have to want to change. That is the hardest part. You need to set the example. He needs to find self-reliance, self-worth, self-respect, and some pride then he will be cured. You need to find that together. Good luck friend in your quest.