Verbally abusive bosses?

[Automaggin2]

Today was my 3rd day on my new job at a golf course and had a huge problem with my boss. I was doing my job just fine, going around the golf course and taking out the trash. Well the gator i was using was overflowing with trash, so I went back to the maintence building todrop off the trash. My boss comes flying around the corner, gets out of his truck, and gets in my face. His exact words "ARE YOU F'IN STUPID? WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU YOU ARE SUCH A F'IN IDIOT LEARN HOW TO DO YOUR JOB YOU MOTHER F'ER I'M TIRED OF DOING EVERYONE ELSES F'IN JOB, YOU WORKED HERE FOR A F'IN WEEK AND STILL DONT KNOW HOW TO DO YOUR F'IN JOB (I worked there for 3 days)." So I'm looking at him like what is he talkin about, then he starts complaining that I didnt pick up the trash in the parking lot , which is what i was about to do after I was done droppin the trash I already had. So he jumps in his cart and goes like 50 feet and gets out again and starts screaming again calling me a jerk off and an idiot and such. I was so close to punchin him in the face. What the hell am I supposed to do? I don't want to curse him off, I am good friends with the son of the owner of the golf course. I want to just walk out and quit but can't cause it pays way to good. Can't curse him off because I don't want to put a bad image on myself for my freinds dad to see.


Next time I think I might just punch him in the face, even those hes like 45 and I'm 19. What can he do? Press charges?

[Lohman446]

Next time I think I might just punch him in the face, even those hes like 45 and I'm 19. What can he do? Press charges?

Under the vast majority of cases if you swing first you are screwed either way. They can resort to retaliation, and if they loose the fight they can then press charges. Never swing first... I would discuss it with him once, and do so after the fact when he has calmed down and do it calmly. "I don't curse you, I don't raise my voice with you, and I would appreciate the same courtesy returned" tends to be the rough idea. Talk to him first, if it continues write a letter to him outlining the events (with dates) that you have complaints about by registered mail and keep the receipt, this holds as documentation later. Then, if it continues after you have asked him politely (the best way), and then in writing to not abuse you, go up the chain of command - first verbally and then in writing again. If it doesn't work, I'm sure you can figure out the next step.

[Warewolf50]

so is this guy your friends dad, or does the guy work for your friends dad casue if he works for him go talk to your freinds dad bout it, if it is your friends dad I really dont know what to tell u here, put up wiht it or quit.

[oldsoldier]

Eh, he'll have a coronary one day yelling at you. Then, you'll be the one yelling "ARE YOU DEAD?!?!?"

[Hexis]

Don't waste any time or effort on a job like that. Quit and find a decent job.

[desslock]

Try catching one of his temper tantrums on tape, then show the tape to his boss (if he has one) if he is THE BOSS then quit, call a lawyer and show the lawyer your tape...golf courses make a lot of money. I know it would be tempting to knock his teeth in, but people like that will sic their lawyer on you and sue you into non existence. If all else fails quit, then sneak into the couse at night and pour tar or black paint into all the ball washing stations.

[Boski51]

Life is too short to work for *POOF bosses. fact is that this guy is the lowest stop on the boss food chain, so keep in mind that this guy suffers from little penis syndrom that many *POOF bosses have.

Usually some gets promoted that have no clue how to lead or be a decent human being...

I am a boss and I get pissed when I hear how other treat the blood of a company or organization.

A company can run without bosses but not without its peeps.

Don't bother with the legal thing or the vadalism thing, just go work somewhere else. Good people are always needed.

My2cents

You are not exactly new here, so you know to NOT circumvent the filters. This is your ONLY warning, next time is a temp ban. Army

[CLEARUSH]

I would say that it falls under verbal assault and if you can get anything like that on tape I would just go press charges with law enforcement for assualt, but you would need either recorded proof or eye wittness testimony on his verbal assault.

[HOMOCIDAL2]

Its not assault, it is a hostile work environment. Which one do you think comes with a higher price tag. Everybody has to answer to somebody, go up the chain and tell his boss you don't appreciate that kind of abuse. But warn him first, just to cover all bases. If you can't get satisfaction out of his boss, then go to the next level.

[Alley]

Eh, you havent been there for too long. Perhaps maybe he was having a total bad day and you just happened to be there one there to take it out on. Just give it a few more days or so maybe your work ethic will kick in and he'll notice that your trying or if not, then you can try to make the situation better. I wouldn't go off on one confrontation.

[Maggot6]

Yeah, I'd wait a few days(weeks) until you actually do something. As said before, everyone has a bad day and maybe you were just in the wrong place, at the wrong time. If it keeps happening, consistently; then do something. Video taping is always fun..

[Crighton]

I'd just talk to the owner and then I'd quit.

[Jeffy-CanCon]

Violence is not an appropriate response in this case.

Hopefully it was an isolated incident - he had just gotten a blast from someone else, maybe. Since you have an informal connection to the ownership/management, ask if the guy has a history of verbal abuse, or a bad temper. If it happens again, you can stand up to him, tell him you are not going to take that kind of treatment, and formally complain to your employer. Your complaint will have added credibility if you have established some history of his abuse, or have proof.

[SlartyBartFast]

Stay cool. Stay calm.

Once he's finished:

"I haven't completed my work. I know what is left to do. That being said, I don't appreciate being talked to in that tone. It is completely inappropriate.

Next time you talk to me in that tone, I'll report it."

I successfully dealt with a boss who was verbally abusive in staff meetings in a similar manner.

Actually, I got fed up with his snide comments, so during one meeting I matched him comment for comment which resulted in him angerly telling me to remain after the meeting.

Once alone, he tore into me verbally. When he stopped, I calmly said:

"Are you finished? We're professionals in a proffesional setting. I expect respect and give it only to those that respect me. If you stop disrespecting me, I consider this case closed. If you do not, this WILL escalate to the next higher level."

The issue never resurfaced.

But, tking him on in public was not a good idea. If it had escallated, my public behaviour ould have been used against me.

[Lohman446]

I agree 90% with Slarty on this one. Though do not tell him you know your job, yuo've been there a week, he has an issue with what you are doing. Tell him you would like to gladly address any issues he has with your performance, but that you expect respect in dealing with you... Even if you are an idiot and doing it wrong (not saying you are) you deserve respect until you prove that you don't by being disrespectful back.