Yet another dating question

[BlackVCG]

I'd look at the girl first as an expense. Figure out a ballpark monthly fee and then see if she'll fit in your budget. You'll also have to add the total of the amount of groceries you'll have to buy, which you really don't need, but do need to create a conversation of an acceptable length.

Okay, so that's the perspective I have anymore when it comes to women. I guess to help you out I'd say avoid at all costs the "Want to go out for lunch, coffee, etc" approach. I think these types of dates are full of nothing but superficial BS. You're sitting there with someone you've had a few instances of small talk and now sitting face to face trying to get to "know each other." You're both trying to impress each other and it's just a poor way of learning more about someone.

Gather from your conversation with her things in which she's interested. Say jogging, hiking, flying kites, etc. If you're interested in the same thing and don't think it will be too akward of something to do with someone you know little about, go for it.

I highly recommend only going about this approach with someone you can, at your leisure, seize to ever see again. Not recommended for the girl that works down the hall and you see in passing 3-4 times a day.

[Cameo]

dude, i REALLY hate to break it to you. i work in a grocery store. we are supposed to do that. smile. greet the customer. "how are you? find everthing ok?" does that mean i'm hitting on the 80 year old dude who is on oxygen who comes up to the customer service desk to return cereal? no. it's just part of the scheme of getting customers to come back cause this store has better customer service and friendlier people than the other store. i hear it all the time being at the desk. "oh that jonny/suzie checker is so great. always so friendly. more stores need people like that."
once again dude, sorry to break your bubble, i'm just trying to save you from a really hard letdown.

Does that go for waiters/waitresses/and bartenders too?? If so I have been getting it all wrong all these years... Here I thought all those freinds I made were really and true. sigh..

[Enraged Monk]

I know how ya felt, I asked out a girl who works at the sub-base here as a manager of the grocery store (shes 17, Im 16)...

So heres how i would go about this situation...
rules
1) I do not suggest becoming her friend.
2) dont think of anything else when you ask her out, you may end up stuttering
3) When she says yes, crack a smile but not too big, name the place and find out when she gets lunch.

when you ask her out, do it first thing when you go to her checkout...say something like "Well I was gonna use this stuff to make lunch, but I actually wanna go out for something. Wanna come with me? I would really like that?" (this will only work if you have food in your cart, thats if you wanna be serious, but if you wanna make her laugh, put like soap, shampoo, face wash whatever!)

OR

You could say something as you were leaving like "Actually you know what, theres been something bugging me, I think its that I have this urge to ask you out to lunch, but dont know how"

then again, you could get slapped with a no, or IM ENGAGED!!!!OMG111 and get slapped and ban from the place for sexual harassment

[Alley]

Ok, well my advice to find out if she is single or not..... Have a friend someone you know..etc etc. That is a girl. Have her go get some groceries when chit chatting with the clerk have her complain about her boyfriend ... if the chick agrees and says "yeah my boyfriend is the same way or what not." then you will know for sure if all the hassle is worth it. Make sure the girl knows what to talk about to get this cashier to talk to.

[SCpoloRicker]

Brian is God. That is all.

/particularly with the older ladies

[Alley]

see thats the thing im 15 shes 13 i was born in dec of 89 she was in march of 92??

i think that its kinda weired but i really like her and we know each other for a year and she acts and looks like shes a short 16 year old.

Your 15....dating is just hanging out with friends. Dont get serious with anyone..your 15!

[AGDlover]

just go up to her and take it slow and like the first time be like "Hey so you doing anything tonight?" and like take her to the movies as friends. then you know take her out a coupple more times then ask her out if she doesnt bring up she has a bf then your in the hole my man allelse fails just stick your arm out and grab her boob lol no i dont recomend that

[sbpyro]

Your 15....dating is just hanging out with friends. Dont get serious with anyone..your 15!

Around my neighborhood, about a 3rd of the 15 year olds were pregnant. So 15 ain't as innocent as it was when I was growing up.

But then again I'm old and the neighborhood has gone down the drain (damn yuppies)

[Cameo]

Around my neighborhood, about a 3rd of the 15 year olds were pregnant. So 15 ain't as innocent as it was when I was growing up.

But then again I'm old and the neighborhood has gone down the drain (damn yuppies)

Me thinks that your schools and parents need to be doing a better job at teaching safe sex and birth control...
15 is wayyy to young to have a child, those babies will end up as "grandma's kids". wow I just can not imagine that, and I was a young mother at 17.

[SCpoloRicker]

Me thinks that your schools and parents need to be doing a better job at teaching safe sex and birth control...

Or some faith based abstinence pledges?

/troll
//sorry

[Kevmaster]

how about some parental *** whopings...

that'll do the trick.

and yeah, when asking the chck out...keep in mind...even if you go 1 for 1000 in asking chicks out, you still got a date, right?

if ya go to the bar, and ask ten girls, all that mattesr is one says yes. anything over that is gravy.

[BobTheCow]

When the time is right, make sure to reference AO's most informative thread, "how to kiss." Just ignore the bickering the last few pages and the disgustingly annoying posting habits of some of us from more than two years ago.

e: oh god please ignore in reference to a 13-year old

[Jakedubbleya]

dont date a 13 yr old. i think thats messed up (my little sister is 13 and if i knew she was with a highschool guy id freak). but, you can date a 15 yr old when ur 17... so give it a few yrs.

[atm743]

dont date a 13 yr old. i think thats messed up (my little sister is 13 and if i knew she was with a highschool guy id freak). but, you can date a 15 yr old when ur 17... so give it a few yrs.

ya thats what i was thinking

if she was 14 i wont mind

well ill jest be friends i guess.

[Miscue]

I'd look at the girl first as an expense. Figure out a ballpark monthly fee and then see if she'll fit in your budget. You'll also have to add the total of the amount of groceries you'll have to buy, which you really don't need, but do need to create a conversation of an acceptable length.

Okay, so that's the perspective I have anymore when it comes to women. I guess to help you out I'd say avoid at all costs the "Want to go out for lunch, coffee, etc" approach. I think these types of dates are full of nothing but superficial BS. You're sitting there with someone you've had a few instances of small talk and now sitting face to face trying to get to "know each other." You're both trying to impress each other and it's just a poor way of learning more about someone.

Gather from your conversation with her things in which she's interested. Say jogging, hiking, flying kites, etc. If you're interested in the same thing and don't think it will be too akward of something to do with someone you know little about, go for it.

I highly recommend only going about this approach with someone you can, at your leisure, seize to ever see again. Not recommended for the girl that works down the hall and you see in passing 3-4 times a day.

Last I heard... BlackVCG can afford a 21 year old blonde hottie that likes to eat out a lot and get flowers weekly. Must be nice to be making the big bucks!