OMFG I am about to FLIP the hell out

[psychowarden]

Im gonna have to agree with fishy. Although I have never done anything bad that I really regret, and that shocks alot of people this day and age. I dont do anything, no sex (still proudly a virgin) no drugs, and no alchohal. I dont have the money to, I spend it all on paintball. But in most cases, if people are gonna flip out and tell me not to do something, chances are, Im going to do it just to piss them off. So, a calm, easy approach will most likely have the largest impact. And every kid knows that the worst thing that a child wants to hear is "Im very dissapointed in you." It almost made me cry when my mom figured out I failed math 3 years ago

[geekwarrior]

How can people say that she was just curious and didn't know better? Come on, at 13, you didnt know what porn was? And you didn't know it was wrong?

I suggest talking to her, and judge her reaction. If she shows guilt or shame than you probably don't have to take to extreme of measures...chances are she wont do it again. But if she shows no guilt...you may have a problem.

I would talk to the parents of the kid..i know if I was the parent of that boy, I would like to know. ( the cleaning the gun is a nice idea to, but I would probably not let my daughter hang out with a boy that is already, from the sound of it, talking freely about sex with your girl) Maybe you should take him paintballing and bunker him.

It's interesting to hear peoples opinions on this(as scary as some of them are). You can tell who is a parent and who isnt. Like it has been said, having your own kids changes your viewpoint entirely. I'm sure the non parents roll their eyes when they read that.

thats my 2 cents....

[tropical_fishy]

How can people say that she was just curious and didn't know better? Come on, at 13, you didnt know what porn was? And you didn't know it was wrong?

I suggest talking to her, and judge her reaction. If she shows guilt or shame than you probably don't have to take to extreme of measures...chances are she wont do it again. But if she shows no guilt...you may have a problem.

I would talk to the parents of the kid..i know if I was the parent of that boy, I would like to know. ( the cleaning the gun is a nice idea to, but I would probably not let my daughter hang out with a boy that is already, from the sound of it, talking freely about sex with your girl) Maybe you should take him paintballing and bunker him.

It's interesting to hear peoples opinions on this(as scary as some of them are). You can tell who is a parent and who isnt. Like it has been said, having your own kids changes your viewpoint entirely. I'm sure the non parents roll their eyes when they read that.

thats my 2 cents....

And why, pray tell, are some of our opinions "scary"?

[geekwarrior]

sorry tropical....scary was probably not the right word...didn't mean to offend, and wasn't saying it in reference to anything you said....

[tropical_fishy]

sorry tropical....scary was probably not the right word...didn't mean to offend, and wasn't saying it in reference to anything you said....

Ah, don't mind me, I'm sick, grouchy, and itching for a fight.

[-=Squid=-]

well i dont know what girls talk about these days but she mabey had a friend tell her to go check out these type of site.

also mabey she wanted to know what something looked like or something and after searching she just found the so-called-nasty sites.

i remeber my school doing this programe about sex ed and there dont show picutures or really show how it works. they just show the basics.

now i dont know if her school did sex ed or not but i did when i was in 5th grade and i think learning at a younger age will answer some of kids woundering questions about sex




now i have an other thought and im preaty sure this has happen to her allready.

she may of been at her friends house for a slumber party with a bunch of girls from school and mabey one of her friends started to talk about masturbation.

you never know but i would talk to her and talk to her about this stuff NOW. I honstly thing that you and your wife should both talk to her at the same time. and then after both of you talk your wife can have a girl talk with her and see whats going on.

if you dont have these talkes many things can happen and i bet you will totaly flip if you found your girl doing soo called things with her self.

Mabey you should learn how to spell, pollock.

Why doesn't everyone just cool their jets?

[Target Practice]

well i dont know what girls talk about these days but she mabey had a friend tell her to go check out these type of site.

also mabey she wanted to know what something looked like or something and after searching she just found the so-called-nasty sites.

i remeber my school doing this programe about sex ed and there dont show picutures or really show how it works. they just show the basics.

now i dont know if her school did sex ed or not but i did when i was in 5th grade and i think learning at a younger age will answer some of kids woundering questions about sex




now i have an other thought and im preaty sure this has happen to her allready.

she may of been at her friends house for a slumber party with a bunch of girls from school and mabey one of her friends started to talk about masturbation.

you never know but i would talk to her and talk to her about this stuff NOW. I honstly thing that you and your wife should both talk to her at the same time. and then after both of you talk your wife can have a girl talk with her and see whats going on.

if you dont have these talkes many things can happen and i bet you will totaly flip if you found your girl doing soo called things with her self.

Clearly you have all the answers, and will make a wonderful parent someday.

[Automaggot68]

And why, pray tell, are some of our opinions "scary"?

Jebus.

[Automaggot68]

Clearly you have all the answers, and will make a wonderful parent someday.

Sometimes you scare me even when you humour them, Ryan.

[Eric Cartman]

I dont do anything, no sex (still proudly a virgin)

\sorry man I had to

[eric_503]

as much as i hate nortons internet security/anit virus try the internet securty and the parent thing it blocks everything type in msn and you get like page is blocked cause its under chat i guess you can try that

[Miscue]

Parental supervision is a myth... you're fooling yourself if you think this can "really" be controlled. All you can do is limit what they can view at your house to an extent. I'd worry more about helping them develop a strong mind that can handle whatever reality throws at them.

Before the Internet... 10 year old kids cut out stuff from Hustler and sell the big pictures for $0.50 and the small ones for $0.25. Every young male here knows what I'm talking about. By 12-13 you've already seen it all... and have a VHS dubbed copy of 70s pr0n that the 6th grade entrepreneur pr0n peddler has been selling in the school bus. Where did we get the money at that age? Mom. We'd use our lunch money for that instead of eating.

If you ever see a bunch of young boys... maybe a dozen even... at the playground in a huddle... with looks of amazement on their faces... and looking around to see who is watching... it's a pr0n huddle. And guess what... they don't grow up any differently than they would have.

On the flipside... you want them to develop sexual frustrations and all sorts of problems later on? Make them feel ashamed/embarassed about the subject by grinding into their minds how wrong and dirty it is. You want to really screw someone up? Do that. You see... that's when your daughter sleeps with anyone and everyone... becomes a low-budget pr0n star... just to get even with you... that's how she can somehow hurt her parents.

This is my personal point of view on this: If I had a kid about that age that I caught... I'd be more disappointed that he/she did not know the computer well enough to keep me from knowing about it.

"Gosh dang it... you know that I'm not supposed to know that you have this... and I'm supposed to tell you to not do it again."

Now if it was drugs... then I'd definitely flip out and kick their arse. That's a whole different ballgame.

[B.A.M.]

\sorry man I had to

owned

[Miscue]

Have our kids become so numb to the real evil in this world that they don't even know what it is anymore?

Why is it evil? It might be obvious to you and others, but from a categorical imperative point of view... I don't see it.

My thoughts are: The wrong kind of repeated exposure at an early age can result in a person being too comfortable with the idea - replicating before the offspring can be fully supported - or developing unhealthy habits. However the counterbalance is an education on what the consequences are. Help teach the child to be reasonable. "Don't do this." is far inferior to "This is why you don't want to do this." They can understand for themselves what they should or should not do for their own good. "Because mom and dad told me so," is not nearly as effective as: "I understand on my own why this is good or bad for me."

[turtlepaint]

im just suprised nobody asked for the addresses to the sites yet