Divorce-got any info?

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Parents are people too. They deserve to be happy. NO marriage should occur because of children, and no marriage should NOT end "for the sake of the kids". Living with miserable parents is a bad experience for the children. Living with parents who hate each other is just as bad for kids as divorce. People change. Just because people become parents, that doesn;t mean they suddenly become saints who are perfectly in love until they are 90 and die together in their sleep. Just as a boyfriend and girlfriend can feel like their relationship is no longer healthy, people can feel a marriage is. No one should have to stay in a relationship they're unhappy in.

When a kid is born into this world, they desire parents who love each other and love them. Period. Anything from there on out is an issue with the parents. Abuse, incompatibility, flavor of the month...I call it being idiots.

[Cow hunter]

found a good quote for divorce.......

Ah, yes, divorce......., from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man's genitals through his wallet.
-- Robin Williams.

[Lohman446]

When a kid is born into this world, they desire parents who love each other and love them. Period. Anything from there on out is an issue with the parents. Abuse, incompatibility, flavor of the month...I call it being idiots.

I think your judging something you have had the fortune of not having had to deal with. And its easier from the outside.

[Rudz]

rights

i kno in california the children have a right to decide where they go, i chose, but in some cases the mother doesnt win, in my case...and in alot of cases the mother doesnt deserve to win, and does..the sytem is all screwed up, and having seperated parents really affects a kid, but nowadays its extremely common, i dont kno the actually precentages, but marriages just dont last, i just hope your parents can lean to work together for the sake of your brother..with equal visitation rights and atleast try to stay in the same general community, so the chid gets to see both parents often

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I think your judging something you have had the fortune of not having had to deal with. And its easier from the outside.

I'm not judging jack squat. I have deliberately left out any personal experiences from this thread so you wouldn't have the liberty to make that call.

All I am saying is that kids want mom and dad to not suck! Comprende?

If you disagree with that, fine, but that is the way I see it.

How can you say that kids DON'T want their parents to be happy TOGETHER?

[68magOwner]

So you're saying that some kids want their parents to be idiots and get a divorce?

Honestly, i feel it would have been easier growing up if my parents had divorced earlier. Not having to comfort my mother while shes crying and threatening suicide after an argument, not having to sleep on the hardwood floor in the living room because my mother took my bed *parents havent slept in the same room for as long as i can remember*, not having to do my own grocery shopping, not having to buy ALL my own stuff, as well as being responsible for taking care of my siblings, not having to spend night as a child crying in my bed listening to my parents fight, ect. Yeah, i think that would have been nice. Now, im just scratching the surface here, butbottom line is, yes, i wish my parents had been "idiots" and gotten a divorce when i was younger.

[Lohman446]

How can you say that kids DON'T want their parents to be happy TOGETHER?

You started with not being idiots and not getting divorced. You have now define that as being happy together?