18 yrs old, getting ready to move out.

[AssassN]

I turned 18 in October an sense then I have been ready to move out with a good friend of mine. The plan wasn't to move out to be rebeluous teenagers but because I only have 1 class this years in highschool and I have ahrdly anything to do so I wanted to be moved out before college came. My mother has tought me well about how to live on my own, I practically have been for the past year cooking my own meals and paying for many of my own expenses. I have been tracking my budget with Microsoft money and feel taht I am able to take care of myself.

Recently something has happened in my life that is going to get me in A LOT of trouble with my parents. It is something that won't ruin my relationship with my parents but make it much harder to live with them. I have decided to go ahead and move out ASAP. Today I applied for a job at Costco (hopefully to work in the meat dept. I have prior meat dept. experience). My friend is also applying for a 2nd job, (we bot already have one).

I have found several 2 bedroom appts. in my area for about $600 a month. They are centrally located near my highschool and my soon (hopefully) place of employment.

I am posting this mainly because this is a big step in my life and I would like to get as much input as I can from anyone that I can. I would appreciate anyones opinion that wishes to spend the time to type it, whether or not you think it is helpful I would like to hear it. My roommates and I's combined income should be around $4,000 a month, with both of our jobs included. My college tution is already paid for and I have plenty of time to spend working and taking care of myself.

Thanks to all those who reply!

[Evil1]

If you and your room mate are both responsible with your finances and income then it shouldn't be a problem for you guys. I moved out young as well, but didn't have the maturity to make it easier on myself. I've lived in a car and a friends garage and a friends basement at times in life. Things can be rough if you and your room mate don't have enough maturity and good work ethics to be able to keep a job. I hope you know your room mate well and trust him/her. I lived at a place in upstate NY for a while with a bunch of retards once and believe me it sucks not having electricity because none of us paid the bill. It was pretty much a party house that got us all into some trouble. If I were you, I'd try to stay at home as long as possible. Things would have been much easier if I had done the right things when I was younger. I am going to college now at almost 24 years old and working the 2nd shift full time at an awesome job, but it would be much easier on me if I had done the right thing out of high school. If you don't mind my asking, what happened that will make things so bad at home?

[AssassN]

Thanks for the reply!

I do know my room mate well and I am fairly comfortable with our maturity to handle the finances. I have had 2 jobs in my life, Both of wich I had for over a year and one of them (State Farm Insurance) I am still employed at.

[Dharma punk]

Staying at home longer is good advice. If there isn't a reason to move out other than you want to like a bad family life and it doesn't sound that way. There is the flipside of that as well. I learned quite a bit about myself and the world after I went out on my own. I lived in my car as well. That crap gets old after a bit, especially when it gets cold outside. Been in the party house scene quite a bit as well. I wouldn't change it even if I could, but I've seen some crazy **** and done things that probably should have killed me.

One thing that I have learned over time is that you never truly know someone until you live with them. I always thought that was bull****, but I've gotten into fist fights with people I once called best friends after a few months of living with them. As long as you both are willing to compromise it can work, but it won't be the easiest thing you have done by far.

Best of luck with whatever you decide.

[SCpoloRicker]

Sounds like you have a decent idea of what this entails. I guess my only comment would be that there is no real good reason to rush towards 'adulthood' or whatever.

Glad I read you were planning college. I'd consider living near campus so you can minimize how often you move. Moving sucks.

$0.02

[AssassN]

Sounds like you have a decent idea of what this entails. I guess my only comment would be that there is no real good reason to rush towards 'adulthood' or whatever.

Glad I read you were planning college. I'd consider living near campus so you can minimize how often you move. Moving sucks.

$0.02

I am going to college about 30 minutes away. I would like to be a little closer but the appartment I believe I will be moving too is close enough.

My college tuition is already paid for and when I go to college I have about $15,000 saved for books and other expenses so I don't really have much that I need to save my money for other than to have a nice nest egg.

[kosmo]

Be sure you have adequate transportation that is paid off and gets good mileage. Be sure that you can afford to pay for a 600 dollar apartment yourself for a shortish period of time if need be. And be sure you have a decent home brew kit capable of supporting a demanding and rigorous college life. Moving out of my parents house was the best thing Ive ever done for myself. It also made me get along with my parents a lot better. Enjoy it.

[AssassN]

Be sure you have adequate transportation that is paid off and gets good mileage. Be sure that you can afford to pay for a 600 dollar apartment yourself for a shortish period of time if need be. And be sure you have a decent home brew kit capable of supporting a demanding and rigorous college life. Moving out of my parents house was the best thing Ive ever done for myself. It also made me get along with my parents a lot better. Enjoy it.

I have a RSX that my father pays for including insurance because I made Eagle Scout so transportation isn't a problem.

That is an interesting comment about your relationship improving. I hope that happens for me too.

[REDRT]

I'm finally rid of roomates! You get a good one it is ok, but you get a bad one and life sucks everyday. My last one tried to move in a girlfriend(washed up stripper) and all her kids. She neglected the kids, made a mess, ran up all the bills I paid for and when I tried to put my foot down she would do things that made me even more upset. One night she she lined the bath tub with baby oil. I almost slipped and hurt myself bad going to take a shower! She left me a nasty gram calling me everything but good and dared me to kicker out since she really didn't live there. Pretty dumb since by kicking her boyfriend out she'd would be out to. I wish you luck! I've never had any myself. I just don't get along with anyone at that level. I find I'm better off alone even though it cost me a small fortune due to the fact I have 2 dogs. Living on your own can be liberating, but it is a daily chore. If everything fails for you and I hope it don't you could look into the Armed Forces. That is where I went to after high school when the chips were down and I had nothing. Those years changed my life and it hasn't been all that bad since.

[AssassN]

I'm finally rid of roomates! You get a good one it is ok, but you get a bad one and life sucks everyday. My last one tried to move in a girlfriend(washed up stripper) and all her kids. She neglected the kids, made a mess, ran up all the bills I paid for and when I tried to put my foot down she would do things that made me even more upset. One night she she lined the bath tub with baby oil. I almost slipped and hurt myself bad going to take a shower! She left me a nasty gram calling me everything but good and dared me to kicker out since she really didn't live there. Pretty dumb since by kicking her boyfriend out she'd would be out to. I wish you luck! I've never had any myself. I just don't get along with anyone at that level. I find I'm better off alone even though it cost me a small fortune due to the fact I have 2 dogs. Living on your own can be liberating, but it is a daily chore. If everything fails for you and I hope it don't you could look into the Armed Forces. That is where I went to after high school when the chips were down and I had nothing. Those years changed my life and it hasn't been all that bad since.

I would MUCH rather live alone than with even the best roommate but at this point it isn't possible.

I'm sorry to hear about your buddy and his stripper, that's a pretty lame situation.

Hopefully it doesn't get so bad that I need to join the armed forces but it's not something I would HATE to do.

[Vex]

Hopefully it doesn't get so bad that I need to join the armed forces

If you have the means for college, I recommend it over the military. If after college, you still wish to join, at least you can become an officer.

I served 8 years in the Air Force, by the way.