K, so I had some reconsideration thoughts about doing this one, but after talking to her, it just seems like I should bother to do this.
Guidelines for the everyday "Nice Guy Schmuck that seems to get himself into bad relationships that end worse.
Part 1) The hang outs
-If she seems eager and happy to hang with you, forget about it. She's just looking to destroy your every happiness.
-If she is cool with whatever you decide and doesn't care where the two of you hang out, run in the opposite direction. She's out to make your life a living nightmare later on
-If she texts you early the next morning after you've just enjoyed laying in bed till 10 am, and she sounds too chipper and wants to wish you to have a great day at work, home, with friends, whatever, she's not worth it. She just wants to make sure that you do the same and she will keep you in check the whole way through
-If she compares you to her old boyfriend and you measure out better, drop it like its hot. She shouldn't compare you to anyone, because you are unique and that means she's got issues
-If she said she had a great time, she doesn't necessarily mean it couldn't be better without you.
Part 2) The dating
-Drastic mood swings are one thing, but when she's got a different face for everyone, throw her out. She's a)trying to please too many ppl and b)has no clue where her priorities lie and who she's living for
-If she whines and complains about something the two of you did the night before but falls into the same hole the next night, she should be old news. She can't control herself and feels guilty about her actions but likes to blame them on you
-If she asks you for what your thinking about, the stuff you say better not be the truth, because she can't handle your lusts as a man, she can't understand that there's more to thinking than just the present and she won't ever understand that guy's thoughts and girl's thoughts are completely different. (apples and oranges, its like descriptions. Girls describe with traits and colors, guys describe with attributes, and you can figure out the only attributes we remember)
-If she wants to talk every night and makes you feel bad about when you don't talk, she can't handle the matter of space. Everyone needs space, thats why she retreats to her hideout of her bestest friend, who she confides in, schemes with, etc...
-If you are unexplainably happy around her, always have a smile and a warm feeling in your heart whenever you are near her, end it. Its not worth the heartache that you will feel. Nothing lasts forever, and if your heart never experiences it, it won't miss it
-If she has done things in the past that she gets OVERLY defensive about and those actions lead you to think she needs something from you or she will find it elsewhere, this is usually a good sign things aren't going to work out.
Part 3) Meeting others
-If her parents, brother(s), sister(s), relatives like you, its over. No parent can be that comfortable with you dating their daughter, and siblings should know better.
-If her parents, brother(s), sister(s), relatives like her, its finished. Its never a good sign when your parents approve, and family members just bring heartache when she's gone and they inquire about her
Part 4) The overall.
-Overall, happiness doesn't last long. Things you hold dear can come crashing down in an instant, and a confused girl is like playing with matches while you're drenched in gasoline. No girl will ever have her mind made up and by the end of a discussion, she could be holding a completely 180 degree opposite stance than when she started.
Part 5) Note to girls
-You dont want to know what we're thinking, so don't ask
-If we say you don't wanna know something, it usually means that a)we're gonna get in trouble for saying it, b)you really dont want or need to hear it, and c)we're looking out for you regardless of what you think our reasons are
-If you're gonna tell us something you dont ever want us to bring up, cry when you talk about it.
-Karma works a lot in relationships. For instance, if you lead us on, make us believe you care and then completely destroy us after some of the best nights in our lives, you better believe you're gonna feel pain. And with an experienced nice guy, direct quotes are our best friends
-Just because you say you never lie to us and are always honest doesnt mean you are open. Open and honest are two very different things. Being open is being vurnerable, being honest is just admitting things you're asked about
-If you think its our fault, it might be, but just because you admitted stuff taht was your fault, dont expect us to do the same
-If you dont even bother to give explanations as to why you did stuff until a week later, you better believe that we are gonna think you made it up. After all, what else would you be thinking about all that time
-And here's a key part. If you broke up with us and we're just trying to make it through the day without you, its usually because we had misplaced trust. So things we say are just to reassure us we're better of alone, not necessarilly true at all and definitely not how we feel. A break up is not embarassing, its not demeaning, it just leaves you vurlnerable, because someone you trusted and cared about enough to ask out just gave you the shaft, and in the moment you don't really see anyone else you could be like that with.
end rant
Guidelines for the everyday "Nice Guy Schmuck that seems to get himself into bad relationships that end worse.
Part 1) The hang outs
-If she seems eager and happy to hang with you, forget about it. She's just looking to destroy your every happiness.
-If she is cool with whatever you decide and doesn't care where the two of you hang out, run in the opposite direction. She's out to make your life a living nightmare later on
-If she texts you early the next morning after you've just enjoyed laying in bed till 10 am, and she sounds too chipper and wants to wish you to have a great day at work, home, with friends, whatever, she's not worth it. She just wants to make sure that you do the same and she will keep you in check the whole way through
-If she compares you to her old boyfriend and you measure out better, drop it like its hot. She shouldn't compare you to anyone, because you are unique and that means she's got issues
-If she said she had a great time, she doesn't necessarily mean it couldn't be better without you.
Part 2) The dating
-Drastic mood swings are one thing, but when she's got a different face for everyone, throw her out. She's a)trying to please too many ppl and b)has no clue where her priorities lie and who she's living for
-If she whines and complains about something the two of you did the night before but falls into the same hole the next night, she should be old news. She can't control herself and feels guilty about her actions but likes to blame them on you
-If she asks you for what your thinking about, the stuff you say better not be the truth, because she can't handle your lusts as a man, she can't understand that there's more to thinking than just the present and she won't ever understand that guy's thoughts and girl's thoughts are completely different. (apples and oranges, its like descriptions. Girls describe with traits and colors, guys describe with attributes, and you can figure out the only attributes we remember)
-If she wants to talk every night and makes you feel bad about when you don't talk, she can't handle the matter of space. Everyone needs space, thats why she retreats to her hideout of her bestest friend, who she confides in, schemes with, etc...
-If you are unexplainably happy around her, always have a smile and a warm feeling in your heart whenever you are near her, end it. Its not worth the heartache that you will feel. Nothing lasts forever, and if your heart never experiences it, it won't miss it
-If she has done things in the past that she gets OVERLY defensive about and those actions lead you to think she needs something from you or she will find it elsewhere, this is usually a good sign things aren't going to work out.
Part 3) Meeting others
-If her parents, brother(s), sister(s), relatives like you, its over. No parent can be that comfortable with you dating their daughter, and siblings should know better.
-If her parents, brother(s), sister(s), relatives like her, its finished. Its never a good sign when your parents approve, and family members just bring heartache when she's gone and they inquire about her
Part 4) The overall.
-Overall, happiness doesn't last long. Things you hold dear can come crashing down in an instant, and a confused girl is like playing with matches while you're drenched in gasoline. No girl will ever have her mind made up and by the end of a discussion, she could be holding a completely 180 degree opposite stance than when she started.
Part 5) Note to girls
-You dont want to know what we're thinking, so don't ask
-If we say you don't wanna know something, it usually means that a)we're gonna get in trouble for saying it, b)you really dont want or need to hear it, and c)we're looking out for you regardless of what you think our reasons are
-If you're gonna tell us something you dont ever want us to bring up, cry when you talk about it.
-Karma works a lot in relationships. For instance, if you lead us on, make us believe you care and then completely destroy us after some of the best nights in our lives, you better believe you're gonna feel pain. And with an experienced nice guy, direct quotes are our best friends
-Just because you say you never lie to us and are always honest doesnt mean you are open. Open and honest are two very different things. Being open is being vurnerable, being honest is just admitting things you're asked about
-If you think its our fault, it might be, but just because you admitted stuff taht was your fault, dont expect us to do the same
-If you dont even bother to give explanations as to why you did stuff until a week later, you better believe that we are gonna think you made it up. After all, what else would you be thinking about all that time
-And here's a key part. If you broke up with us and we're just trying to make it through the day without you, its usually because we had misplaced trust. So things we say are just to reassure us we're better of alone, not necessarilly true at all and definitely not how we feel. A break up is not embarassing, its not demeaning, it just leaves you vurlnerable, because someone you trusted and cared about enough to ask out just gave you the shaft, and in the moment you don't really see anyone else you could be like that with.
end rant
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