How do you get your Girlfriend to play paintball?

[Danimal82]

I think it really just depends on the girl. You might be able to bribe, drug, or drag her to the field, but is it going to be worth it if she's hiding in the back and not having a good time. My fiance gets nasty out there. Sometimes she is beating me to the front. She has a great time playing and likes to get aggressive. In return I have a great time. If you are totally set on getting her out there, try to get a pump only game going. Over shooting turns girls off to the sport quickly. Also, try get as many girls to play as possible. Girls can get pretty competetive amongst the clouds of estrogen.

[sixtoes1313]

yea, if she truely doesnt even want to try it i wouldn't force her. Atleast tell her to try it once. After all, you gota try everything in life atleast once! more than likely she'll love it. Mine really wants to play because she knows i love it. However shes affraid of the pain..but we all were at one point werent we? I got her to go with us last week however she got sick that morning and had to leave once she got there. Right now i picked up a spyder xtra, tank,hopper, and flexforce mask for $40 for her to play with. HOwever im worried about her getting it in the face with that mask. Its almost too flexy. Good luck. Just tell her if she doesnt like it you wont ever make her go back! Friends of hers going will also be a big help.

[jenarelJAM]

That's exactly my position. I don't want to force her, but I also know that if she goes and tries it, she'll love it. I don't really want to bring other people, I was thinking it would be easier if we went just her and me the first time(and other random people at the field) so that if she didn't like it, we could just leave.

[Toll]

My girlfriend and I play every now and then. Shes a bit timid still, and didn't play for a very long time after she shot herself in the forearm pointblank (I still don't get how it happened) but I picked up a few things :

1) Girls love to dress up. I don't get it, but letting them primp and personalize (depending on your particular girl) may help the chances of her playing. Mine refuses to wear paintball pants because she finds them ugly.

2) They like pretty things. If you have a gun they find pretty, they will be more likely to shoot it. The little lady refuses to shoot my mag/matrix/viking because they are "ugly". I showed her how to sweetspot the trix so she has less objections.

3) If you can get away with it, get yourself and a few of her close friends and take off to the field. The closer environment means when she does get shot out she will laugh about it more so than if it was a bunch of people she didn't know. By the same logic she will probably be more aggressive than if it were strangers. If you want to put the interest up a notch, you might be able to get different fill colours for her paint. That way she can gloat.



Sam managed to stay a good 20 feet behind me when it was walk on day. She was up trying to bunker a couple of my friends she hates when it was just the 10 of us and she damn well made it known on the walk back that it was her that got them. Basically it's just an area of comfort. Guys like paintball because you are shooting eachother with guns...as guys we tend to <3 war related stuff...Women aren't on that same side of the spectrum. You just have to get them used to the idea.

[Loco_AEXY]

Getting my wife to go the first time (it was long before we were married) did take a little convincing but in the end she loved it and is now more agressive on the field than I am most of the time. I have heard women have higher pain thresholds, it is just a matter of getting them past that first hit.

I don't know how possible this is, but the first time I took her out to the field we arrived really early because my buddy had a brand new marker to setup. We were sitting there talking to one of the refs and she mentioend it was her first time out and she was a ltitle nervous and so he asked if we wanted to head out, just the two of us (and him), and play a 1 on 1 game to get her feet wet. So we went out and I shot a few close by her but made sure to let her get the first "kill". She was so excited that when the in the next game I quickly ran up and got her in the side she was more upset at me winning than actually being shot.

It really helped to get her over that first hit anxiety in a safe setting. I also find that if you can get a small group of friends together, that is usually a much more inviting place for someone who is new to the sport than joining a bunch of walk ons. Just my 2 cents...

[PumpPlayer]

You guys are missing something, I think.

JAM claims that he's been dating this girl for a little less than 2 months.



Here's what you do, JAM:
Ask her -ONCE- if she wants to play. If the answer is "No." then the discussion is closed.


She knows you play and she knows that the option is open. Don't make it an issue. Don't feel bad about leaving her for the weekend to go play either. She knows she's allowed to come along. Oh, and understand that shooting each other with paint just isn't something that's particularly appealing to most people.

[ransomMAG]

when i asked my girl friend to try paintballing with me, i let her use my matrix and told her that it doesn't hurt as much if you wear bagy clothing. also to asure myself that she wouldn't back out i also invited one of her friends so she didn't feel that she was the only girl going with, and some of my friends that i know she wanted to get back at from the jokes they play on her at school and believe me, she made sure she got her revenge.

[jenarelJAM]

You guys are missing something, I think.

JAM claims that he's been dating this girl for a little less than 2 months.



Here's what you do, JAM:
Ask her -ONCE- if she wants to play. If the answer is "No." then the discussion is closed.


She knows you play and she knows that the option is open. Don't make it an issue. Don't feel bad about leaving her for the weekend to go play either. She knows she's allowed to come along. Oh, and understand that shooting each other with paint just isn't something that's particularly appealing to most people.

Thank you

[Warwitch]

1:Tell her it doesn't hurt as much as the time that you got overly enthusiastic and hit the back door.

or
2: you can blindfold her and tell her that you are going to look at engagement rings

1: Which might initiate a random act of violence in itself....because she rembers

or
2: Her disappointment when she finds out you have duped her may again iniatiate an act of bloody violence!

[Molls]

I have to agree with the two month thing. I wouldn't push to hard. What i found the most helpful when i went the first time was the guy i went with was very understanding and didn't use the big words that i didn't understand. there is nothing worse then someone trying to explain things when you have no idea what they are talking about. im not saying that he was by my side the hole time but i don't think that he was balls to the walls either. Seemed like he took it just a little easier the day that i went. I think that it would have been totally different if he was out of control and played hard that day. And dont get mad. if she goes and is a little hesistant let her get confortable by herself. you may need to push her... but dont push too much!

[slateman]

Tell her its like hockey with guns

[buzzboy]

What we found effective(has worked a couple times) was when the girls were at the field their guys took off their uniforms and just game them to the girls and said, "PLAY". Of course though that only lasts a couple games. We so far haven't gotten anybody to play for more than a couple games.

[neppo1345]

What i found the most helpful when i went the first time was the guy i went with was very understanding and didn't use the big words that i didn't understand. there is nothing worse then someone trying to explain things when you have no idea what they are talking about. im not saying that he was by my side the hole time but i don't think that he was balls to the walls either.

Well yeah, I mean someone had to be there to grab your gun, spin you around and say "the bad guys are over there"

[FlawleZ]

I was lucky to have my ex interested in playing with me. She only really played that one day but she did have fun. I think she did it moreso to do something with me instead of actually dieing to play paintball.

[Aslan]

Why?

So... my question for all you AO'ers is, how do you get your girlfriend to play paintball?

...

Why would you want her to?

Oh...wait...let me read your thread again...

...she's into sports...okay, makes more sense I guess...oh, there it is. "Dating for two months." That means either you want to show her off to your paintball friends or can't stand to be away from her for more than 6 hours at a time (or both). Both urges will wear off over time.

Don't get me wrong, I guess it would be cool to have a significant other that shares the same interests...but does she really need to share ALL of the same interests? You say you know she'd love it...how do you know? Because she played soccer? I've run into very, very few females that have enjoyed paintball. No "hidden meaning" in that comment, just a very reproducable observation. Why it is like that....I neither know nor care to rattle the cages of the sleeping PC giant by speculating.