Question for parents

[PolishSausage]

Heres a moral question for you parents out there:

Your son, now a senior in High School, accepted to his top three colleges has had plans to play in a Paintball Tournament for a little over two months. Every week me reminds you that on (whatever date) he will be playing in a paintball tournament with his team, and will be home around 8pm that night, after leaving at 5am that morning.

Your son has cleared his schedule, made the money to play, and is really excited. He still reminds you at least twice a week.

It's now a week before the tournament and your son reminds you that the tournament is coming up, as well as mid-term exams. He studies for at least 4 hours a day after school and work for his exams.

It's now Thursday and the Tournament is on Sunday. Again your son reminds you that the tournament, only now you think that because exams are on Monday and Tuesday(two each day), you don't want him to go. Despite the fact that he has clocked well over 30 hours of study time this week.

This was my exact situation and is the reason why I'm not in Long Island playing paintball right now! As a parent, would you have let your son play? And I'm serious about everything, including study time, and I was planning on coming home at 8 and studying until 12 or so.

[-Carnifex-]

Man that sucks. I'm sorry. I probably wouldn't have done the same thing in that situation, but then again I've never studied for a test in my life.

[Gitaroo Man]

I'm not a parent and I know how they feel but..

I think it is totally up to you. If you think you did enough studying for your exams and such then sure they should let you go. It will be your own fault for failing if you didn't.

[PolishSausage]

Originally posted by Gitaroo Man
I'm not a parent and I know how they feel but..

I think it is totally up to you. If you think you did enough studying for your exams and such then sure they should let you go. It will be your own fault for failing if you didn't.

Thats the way I felt, but of course my mom has to be an *** about it...

[irbodden]

Originally posted by PolishSausage


Thats the way I felt, but of course my mom has to be an *** about it...

Did you tell them 2 monthes in advance that it was the day before midterms?

[PolishSausage]

Originally posted by irbodden


Did you tell them 2 monthes in advance that it was the day before midterms?

Yup

[irbodden]

Originally posted by PolishSausage


Yup

Did you ask why the changed their mind?

[PolishSausage]

Originally posted by irbodden


Did you ask why the changed their mind?

they said "because they felt that I needed to concentrate more on my mid-term exams because colleges would see them"

My moms just an ***...about everything, can't wait till I'm outta here..

[irbodden]

Originally posted by PolishSausage


they said "because they felt that I needed to concentrate more on my mid-term exams because colleges would see them"

My moms just an ***...about everything, can't wait till I'm outta here..

Yeah, hearing your side of the story, makes it seem like it was a tad unfair.

[PolishSausage]

Originally posted by irbodden


Yeah, hearing your side of the story, makes it seem like it was a tad unfair.

Thats the way I feel, all along they knew I planned to study my arse off the two weeks before, and all along they knew I was gonna study afterwards, and for 2 months they were fine with it, suddenly 3 days before the tourney it IS a problem?

[Tunaman]

You will have the rest of your life to play in Tournies. Dont fret it much, she is just looking out for you. Just do what she asks of you. It will be better foe you in the long run anyway...

[LittMag]

There's plenty of other time for paintball. You only have one real shot at school.

[PolishSausage]

Originally posted by LittMag
There's plenty of other time for paintball. You only have one real shot at school.

But its not like I have much school left. I've got a 3.7 GPA, First Marking period grade I had nothing less than a B+, its not like I really needed to work hard at school this year, espically when I've been accepted to my top 3 schools.

Tuna: I know what your saying, which is why I'm whining here and not to my parents...hell, I probably would've been back by now, already talked to someone who went today and hes home...grrrrr

[RamboPreacher]

School first, play later.
It's too bad that they "changed their mind", but you are still living at home.

I could post a book about why I feel the way I do, but will not because this is not the forum to do that.

Once again, it's too bad that they changed their mind, but they are the parents. I have a feeling that the other side isn't as "cut and dried" as has been described to us. Attitude, responsability, maturity are all qualities that can be negative or posative when parents make final choices in these matters.

[PolishSausage]

Originally posted by RamboPreacher
School first, play later.
It's too bad that they "changed their mind", but you are still living at home.

I could post a book about why I feel the way I do, but will not because this is not the forum to do that.

Once again, it's too bad that they changed their mind, but they are the parents. I have a feeling that the other side isn't as "cut and dried" as has been described to us. Attitude, responsability, maturity are all qualities that can be negative or posative when parents make final choices in these matters.

I totally understand, I just don't appreciate being told at the last minute that I couldn't go. If two months ago when I told them that it was the day before finals they had said "no" I would've understood completely, but waiting until the last minute was inconsiderate, IMO