Depression Advice......

[nospmas311]

You don't have to say that.

You can do some research of your own. I slit my wrists once and that didn't solve anything. The second I did it was the second I wished I hadn't. Anyway, the hospital assigned me a counselor and it wasn't working becuase it was forced upon me. I came home and for maybe 4 months I was fine. Then I started getting urges again so I started looking for counselors in my area without my parents knowledge. I just told them I want to go see a social worker by myself without your help so I took a cab twice a week to talk to this guy. It has helped alot. Now I go once a month and just update him on things. My advice to you is to go find a counselor you can talk with. It took me three sessions with different people to find the right one becuase each has his/her own unique style. Trust me though, don't try to kill yourself. It is not worth it. If you want to talk more at all just Immer me at Dsampson01106 or e-mail me and [email protected].

[CRog075]

IMed you

[SpongeBobSquarePants]

Yea bro same here you can reach me via aim DownwardSpiralXS or via email [email protected] or hell if you fill the need to call me then do it 704-477-6856

[Smoke]

If you need to talk to somebody, talk to rambopreacher. Brent should be able to help ya out.

[RTMAGBOY13]

hey dude u can talk to me too
sometimes i feel the same way but ihavent done ne crazy stuff and hopefully i wont

im me if ya wanna talk H3LLRAIZER469

[InfinatyBPS]

Ok, your depressed, welcome to the club, now, IM me when you have time and I'll tell you about my life and trust me you will be glad you have your life... think its not possable, I've talked to about 3 people that thought their life sucked so much it couldn't get worse, I told them about my problems, and hey... their life isn't that bad after all. Trust me my problems are pretty much gonna make yours look like nothing...

[-=Squid=-]

Meh, im 15, dont do it. Just...umm...play a violent game Im not going to get sympathetic, not because I m an ***, but think about it...why would you do it? Anyone who would kill themselves must be retarded anyways...But Im sorry you feel crappy.

[einhander619]

Alright, man, time for some tough love. If I'm not mitaken, you were the one who bought a $200 necklace for a girl you'd been going out with for a month or something, right? Jebus, man, get your priorities straight! I've battled with depression all my life, but I did eventually beat it. I still get down sometimes, but it goes away, just like everything. First thing you need to do is get over this Casie girl. Even if things are going well, don't get too attached, and keep yourself open to other options. If she is like any 15 year old that I know, she is simply testing her wings(or boobs)and at 15 the phrase "I love you" holds suprisingly little weight. Next thing you need to do is whenever you feel down, go pump iron or go running. Exercise releases endorphines, making you feel better, it'll get your mid off whatever was bothering you, and you'll get ripped, which will help with Step 1. The last step is, be reasonable. At 15, you haven't lived long enough to think about ending it. Things get better.

[Jack_Dubious]

Originally posted by CRog075

AND LOL yeah, they say these are the best times of our lifes. Well, only if you the "popular" jocks of the school, who have it all. Its sad though. I live in a fairly rich neighborhood, have alot of stuff, yet the popular jocks live in poor neighborhoods, yet have higher self esteem? lifes gay like that

Well for one thing, I really dont think your early teen years are the best of your life. You dont make any money, dont have your own place, probably have to follow your parents rules...and everyone still treats you like a kid. (cause you are...no offense). Life gets much better once you get around college age and become more responsible and self-sufficient.

And no its not sad that kids who are poorer than you have more self-esteem. Did you ever think that perhaps the "popular jocks" who live in poor neighboorhoods, dont gauge themselves by the amount of "stuff" they own? Maybe it was hard work that got them to the level of "popular jock".


JDub

[845]

Don't commit suicide. Play paintball. I have tons of school friends too but I have only 1 close friend. You have better luck with the ladies than I do so no reason getting down on yourself for that. If anyone should be suicidal its me I go to an all boys school.:)

[Miscue]

A lot of people don't know a whole lot about "depression" in the clinical sense and really have no idea of what they are talking about or how to help someone along with this. There is no easy fix.

If it's not something you've lived with for a large portion of your life, it's probably "mild" depression... as opposed to major or manic... which is a good thing. Now, "mild" is not really so mild when you're going through it. It sucks royally.

Often times, there is some other psychological disfunction to go along with it. Low-self esteem, anxiety, panic attacks, etc. Sometimes, something like low-self esteem is the root of the depression problem.

I personally have had issues with mild depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and a psychotic episode/mental breakdown (super panic attack). This stuff had negative effects upon my daily life and school work. I've had a few throw away semesters in college, and went from life long straight A's to C's, D's, and F's.

When I mention things like "self-esteem, anxiety, etc..." I'm talking about the hard to imagine variety that most people really aren't aware goes on in people. Self-esteem where someone ALWAYS thinks bad about him/herself... and this person could be beautiful, intelligent, etc... have everything seemingly going for them... but they are miserable (Thin anorexics thinking they're fat come to mind? Why they do this? Something's twisted in their head...). Anxiety... prone to hyperventilation... has to replace clothing often because of profuse sweating... avoids wearing white... has to use strong anti-perspirants (women may wear men's antiperspirants)... can lead to panic attacks... passing out... psychotic episodes... People who have these issues are not "crazy..." they're usually pretty "normal" people and often times you would NEVER guess that they deal with this. No idea... hidden so well.

I personally don't have most of those problems, but my anxiety has taken me to the point of psychosis where when I was conscious in the middle of the day, lots of things went wrong, I went from sitting at a table eating dinner... getting super stressed... and then on the floor in another room pinned down by someone as I was hyperventilating. I had NO idea what had happened in between or how I got there. I was later informed that I threw stuff, was screaming like I was on fire, damaged walls, and tried to jump through a window but I didn't get a good enough head start. I thought they were lying until I saw for myself... I could not believe that my body would do that on it's own without my permission, and with ZERO memory of it.

Losing your mind can scare the hell out of you. I never thought it possible... not me. It came out of nowhere.

My recommendation: Talk to people. Get to a therapist - insurance often covers this. What about parents? Better off dealing with them than being dead. Realize that fixing yourself is going to be your job, nobody can do it for you... they can only be of help. Learn... learn... learn... about yourself... read about what's going on in you. Figure out how to help/treat yourself. Get help.

[bornl33t]

Originally posted by Miscue

Often times, there is some other psychological disfunction to go along with it. Low-self esteem, ...

[beam]

Originally posted by InfinatyBPS
Ok, your depressed, welcome to the club, now, IM me when you have time and I'll tell you about my life and trust me you will be glad you have your life... think its not possable, I've talked to about 3 people that thought their life sucked so much it couldn't get worse, I told them about my problems, and hey... their life isn't that bad after all. Trust me my problems are pretty much gonna make yours look like nothing...

You, my friend, are not helping things.

I personally don't think you have that bad of a life.

[Timmee]

My advice is to talk to a friend, a classmate, or a teacher, then talk to your parents and/or other family. A classmate of mine (I considered him a friend) killed himself over his girlfriend (he'd found her in bed with another guy). He was 20 (IIRC), and he threw his life away. I've also thought about ending my life, but then I think of the sorrow it would bring to others, and I realize I don't want them to feel that pain. It's tough to deal with life sometimes, but if you learn to handle it, you will become stronger for it. Just remember, you don't have to do it alone. You can rely on others if you need to. Like I said, friends (where you live and here), classmates, teachers, parents and family can help.

[yeahthatsme]

like miscue said, often depression is caused by another underlying problem.

i have battled self-esteem issues for a while now, i honestly have gotten to the point where i dont care about living. i have gone through different personal methods of dealing with it. the worst thing you can do is believe nobody cares, while you may not realize it your parents freak out becuase they care.

i have just recently began to get over my problems by doing things that make me feel worthwhile, like joining clubs and helping where i can, i also have formed a strong friend base that i can always rely on.

i suggest you go out and get involved, join some clubs at school, join clubs outside of school. be outgoing and dont seperate yourself from others.