It's not my duty to entertain you, woman!

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you are involved in a lot of things? i believe you meant to put paintball on that list of yours, before that other stuff like........school. and guys i think he might have meant that he will beat the person that says "lol" in his post in person, not beat someone if they say it to him in person. pppfffffffftt. learn to understand your standard text. get it together grouch, get a job grouch.

[Mango]

Originally posted by Ov3rmind

Nope, phone conversations with girls are probably one of the most pointless things you can do.

Hahaha this is SO not true!! You guys just don't know how to have fun. I love it when they call and just do that cause then I can mess around with them on the phone and if they are that bored I can really confuse them. Sometimes they call back, sometimes not. Usually If they are that dull on the phone I will just say "Hey I'm coming over and we're going out, be ready soon." and we'll go out.

You just have to be creative guys! Come on!

[Miscue]

Let me introduce you to my Basement Theory.

A good-looking girl gets treated differently than other people while she is still young. Now, she does not realize this but becomes accustomed to it - it becomes normal. She unconsciously learns early on that she has the power to manipulate males, and get the kind of attention that she wants, regardless of her personality or lack thereof. She develops a keen sense of self-centeredness because she can get away with it and is used to getting what she wants without penalty. Attention becomes a lifelong addiction... her drug.

She does not have nearly as many female friends as males because they are not attracted to her and all of a sudden her personality becomes important. It is much more effort to gain and hold on to female friends, and it is very effortless to be friends with a lot of guys who want to bang you. And yes, unless they are gay, they all want to bang you.

Males have understood for thousands of years this need for attention, and use it to their advantage when courting females. When you think about giving someone flowers, expensive gifts, paying for fancy dinner, etc... this is something the male does for the female, and not the other way around. It is the female that is supposed to be coddled, spoiled, and put on a pedestal... and they get used to it and learn to expect it.

An attractive female does not need to develop a sophisticated personality, or be career-oriented and waste time working hard when she could be going out, and getting her fix of attention. Instead, she can be social and at the same time look for a male who can both provide for her and supply her with attention.

Now, these females put themselves into the situation where they lack skills and cannot financially support themselves very well, and the personality of their male companion comes in last place compared to their ability to provide. The male initially provided attention that she liked during courtship. However, after he has her and she becomes dependent upon him, he no longer needs to spend his time providing her with attention... and he never will once he stops.

Eventually she will look elsewhere. It's very easy for her to find someone else because of her pre-existing network of male friends and/or the ease in which an attractive girl can pick up another guy very quickly. You can easily foresee pinball action going on during her life.

A common strategy for her before taking action to remedy this, besides complaining, is to withhold physical contact from her companion. But, he can counteract this by simply cheating on her if he hasn't done so already. Or, maybe he could buy something nice for her... maybe something shiny, expensive, and utterly useless.

So now she is stuck in a situation, and will go to her other male friends to complain about her companion, as well as seek their attention in substitute. I've been this guy before - many of us have. Eventually she may cheat on or leave her companion, but she'll just be trading him in for more of the same. The new guy doesn't have control over her yet, so he'll temporarily provide attention she wants that her companion stopped providing.

My solution to the problem is: Get a real job and leave him. But of course I would never dare say this because they would not want to hear it, and their lack of marketable skills would make it hard for them to get a real job anyway.

So, I think you can see the dilemma in that they will have problems because of their lifelong development of bad habits that they cannot easily grow out of because it has been so deeply instilled. Here's where the 'basement' part of my theory comes in.

Now, keep in mind what I'm about to say is tongue-in-cheek... and it should be taken metaphorically.

Attractive girls should be locked up in basements for their own good when they are young... so that they are not exposed to the attention drug. They will necessarily learn how to entertain themselves and will not be dependent upon the attention of others. She will not be used to feeding her self-centered desires by manipulating males. She will not need superficial friends that she uses for attention.

During this time in the basement, she needs to develop her mind, so when she gets out she will be able to properly evaluate which males are completely full of crap (99%), and which ones are actually good, caring individuals who could truly dedicate his life to her and maintain a lifelong quality relationship. She will be able to find the best guy of them all... because she does not need her attention fixes, can support herself, and then can focus on just the man himself... with no other external factors coming into play.

She will not have to play this game of pinball where she bounces from one guy to another, or gets stuck with some guy who doesn't deserve her. The girls who did not have the basement experience will inevitably be hurt time and time again and will tell you all about how men are pigs. I get irritated with this statement, because the person telling me this made the decision on her own to be with those kind of guys.

As far as your phone call goes... in her mind... in her reality... it IS your job to entertain her.

[1stdeadeye]

Interesting post Miscue.

*me checks his profile to see if he has a daughter and then calls DYFS*

[ERut]

Re: It's not my duty to entertain you, woman!

Originally posted by gamarada717


I think that the whole idea of "going out" at this age is stupid. I think that I'm still a kid. But it seems that every girl that I have gone out with is the same. Always wanting to talk on the phone, bugging you when you finally get time with your friends, and not letting you be free for 5 seconds to finish your homework or go to a practice or anything. I do have quite alot of stuff to do, as I'm involved with lots of stuff. Soccer, drums, scouts, and school of course. I'll start to consider dating when I'm in highschool. Right now, it seems pointless and a waste of my time. Does anyone agree that "dating" at this age is stupid?

I agree, but most jr. highers don't like to hear you say thatespecially when it comes from someone older than them.

Miscue... wow you think a lot, I think you're dead on, and thats why its so hard to find a good looking girl with a good personality.

[Digi_Gyrl]

Okay miscue.. there IS an exception to every rule. ME!

-- Stacy

[MiniMag84]

Originally posted by Digi_Gyrl
Okay miscue.. there IS an exception to every rule. ME!

-- Stacy

You're the exception to every rule? Even, "Never eat cheese before noon?!"

[Miscue]

Of course there is! Everything I've said is based from observations of failed/failing relationships that I've come across... and I've noticed a pattern... searched for explanations... and these are some of the ideas I came up with that help me understand the process.

Many exceptions obviously... but everyone is smart enough to figure out what they are. Like I didn't mention the case where a girl goes through bad relationships and finally wakes up and figures out what is going on. Or, the girl who is just a remarkable person... brilliant... and just has this stuff figured out on her own despite what the world has exposed her to - that's the kind of girl I like.

And when I'm talking about this basement stuff... it's kinda like when mom tells her daughter to be home by 9PM or something... she's trying to put her back into the basement. Giving her things to think about when choosing a partner... I mean, just give her some tools to be prepared for the people in this world... let her be aware of the bag of tricks that guys like to use. If shes unprepared, she's going to be used and abused by guys who smile at her, give her gifts, and would be in her pants upon the first opportunity.

The basement means... a controlled situation where good things can be learned and fortified... so that the bad things do not have as much of an effect... and don't develop.

Make sure she's career bound... make sure she can do something with herself. Make sure she can be self-sufficient and take care of her own self. Don't let her be a slave to her situation. If she's not too bright, that's one thing... but it's a damn shame when intelligent girls don't use their brains and do things to better themselves as a person... and screw up their lives when they didn't have to.

[Miscue]

Here's a recent conversation:

Some chick: "Why do guys look at me like that?"
Me: "Turn around for a second. Nice orange G-String."
Some chick: "You can tell?!"
Me: "Of course I can, and you already knew that. Now, what do I have to look at to read your shirt? I have to stare right at your chest to read what it says, and you know that. You're wearing tight pants, a tight low cut shirt, I can see your belly button, and you don't know why guys look at you like that?"
Some chick: "That's not what I'm trying to do... I think what I'm wearing is cute."
Me: "You know exactly what you're doing, if you didn't want guys to look at you like that then you would wear something different."

She was mad at me... but I think girls should know better. She's the one that asked the question... dunno why she did if she didn't want to know the answer.

[MantisMag]

haha! the response she was fishing for was some variation of "because you're so damn sexy. "

[Miscue]

Originally posted by MantisMag
haha! the response she was fishing for was some variation of "because you're so damn sexy. "

Yup.

[Mango]

Wow Miscue you have a lot to say about this topic. Uhh...maybe I'm old fashioned but I just go and talk to the girls I am interested in and usually by that I can tell if they think they are too good for any guy. Rejection sucks but aww well, today I'm 3 for 3. LOL uggh...

[1stdeadeye]

Originally posted by SprayingMango
Wow Miscue you have a lot to say about this topic. Uhh...maybe I'm old fashioned but I just go and talk to the girls I am interested in and usually by that I can tell if they think they are too good for any guy. Rejection sucks but aww well, today I'm 3 for 3. LOL uggh...

And if that doen't work, you can always cuff 'em and stuff'em into your patrol car?

Or if they are really annoying, can you mace or taser them?

[Miscue]

"Put your hands on your head and spread your legs!"

[trevorjk]

i read most of miscues post and well miscue if i have any questions im coming to you you nailed that one right on the head...\


and i say "LOL" not "laugh out loud" but actually "L" "O" "L" to my paiontball partner just cuase it pisses the hell out of him. same with brb bbl wtf and fts but i usually say F that <B>*POOF*</B> of course useing the actually word for F thats probably my favorite phrase so if any one sees me in real life please dont kick the crap out of me just a nice tap to the nose will do actually make it a love tap "l" "o" "l"

<B>*Warning: No Cussing*</B> -Miscue

sorry miscue didnt think s witha few stars would get me a warningmy bad