i dont know if its due to my heritage ... but in our family you do not talk back to your parents, you dont disobey them and you respect them. and strangly enough all of my cousins love their parents. i love mine also. i have never been beaten by my parents ( though i have been slapped god knows how many times).
another thing is that my parents have always been open about the effects of drugs, they never sheltered me from the world. the tought me what was bad.
and because i respect what my family does for me, and myself i do not do any drugs ( well i drink and parties and such).
my family set rules...
- keep your grades up
- respect us
- get a job
and if i was doing all three of those , i could go to parties whenever, go out with friends. when everi screwed up i knew it was my fault i never resented my parents.
... because i know if i ever screw up it will be my fault and they said while i am under their roof i will obey the rules they set down.i have never felt like they wherent letting my have fun. and you know what, i have never had my grades drop below a 3.5 gpa. the few times i have talked back to them i have payed with a swollen cheek and privilages taken away , the would tkae the computer away, no new cloths, no money .... make me work with my dad.
and i have always had a job since i was 13.
this has lead me to believe that parents dont have to watch over their kids every move. thye have to set the rules early, and always enforce them, but at the same time give their kids leway when they are doing everything right, so that the kids dont resent them.
i have smoked weed 2 twice... i am now in college, and i dont think i will do it again. i respect myself, and i know doing it will only affect me in bad ways ( it may be fun for a night... but then try to do school the next day ... or play soccer with your team) its not worth it. and i am glad my parents where always open about its affect.
after saying that, i dont think those cops stopped anyone from doing anything, maybe that day .... but thats it.
after someone starts doing it, they cant stop him like that.
another thing is that my parents have always been open about the effects of drugs, they never sheltered me from the world. the tought me what was bad.
and because i respect what my family does for me, and myself i do not do any drugs ( well i drink and parties and such).
my family set rules...
- keep your grades up
- respect us
- get a job
and if i was doing all three of those , i could go to parties whenever, go out with friends. when everi screwed up i knew it was my fault i never resented my parents.
... because i know if i ever screw up it will be my fault and they said while i am under their roof i will obey the rules they set down.i have never felt like they wherent letting my have fun. and you know what, i have never had my grades drop below a 3.5 gpa. the few times i have talked back to them i have payed with a swollen cheek and privilages taken away , the would tkae the computer away, no new cloths, no money .... make me work with my dad.
and i have always had a job since i was 13.
this has lead me to believe that parents dont have to watch over their kids every move. thye have to set the rules early, and always enforce them, but at the same time give their kids leway when they are doing everything right, so that the kids dont resent them.
i have smoked weed 2 twice... i am now in college, and i dont think i will do it again. i respect myself, and i know doing it will only affect me in bad ways ( it may be fun for a night... but then try to do school the next day ... or play soccer with your team) its not worth it. and i am glad my parents where always open about its affect.
after saying that, i dont think those cops stopped anyone from doing anything, maybe that day .... but thats it.
after someone starts doing it, they cant stop him like that.
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