Gal Problems

[Morally0Confused]

whats this unoffical crap? if she doesnt want it offical she is just keeping you around till something better comes along

[Butterfingers]

EXACTLY!!!

If it were up to me she would be on the back burner.

Also is she REALLY one of your best friends or are you just blinded by your lust for her?

What has she done for you in the short time that you've hung out with her that qualifies her as best friend material?

Let me help you...

Picture her with 50 extra pounds is she your best friend now?

REMEMBER be OBJECTIVE.

Beauty often causes men to think irrationally irrational behavior leads to pain.

Thats why beautiful women are the most dangerous creatures in the universe.

I suggest you just go with it... dont expect anything have some fun and always be in control... If shes intrested she will let you know.

If shes not don't be afraid to have a line of women waiting outside your door. Which should be your first priority not her.

Remember, dating is a numbers game the more you date the better chance you will find the "ONE" and be happy forever.

Remeber this addage:

Men do the picking but women do the choosing.

If she dosent choose you you're out.

[-Carnifex-]

If she's not hot in the conventional sense go and find a new one who is and has the personality you're looking for; especially if she's giving you the run-around.

[i like tictacs]

Originally posted by Butterfingers


Picture her with 50 extra pounds is she your best friend now?

oh my god, don't do that to me

[MagMan5446]

Just remember whos the woman in the relationship and keep it that way.

[Brak]

Butterfingers, i know you are taking that out of something, and i read it too so i wont get mad at you. what hes saying is right. and squid, the opprotune time to to 'in for the kill' as i like to say is basically any time when shes NOT talking... eye contact is the key, and make sure shes going in too, not just you, and once the eyes close youre golden

[Commissar_Loki]

Butterfingers, an extra 50 lbs? done, no problem. I like her, hell in all honesty, 50 lbs I dont care. We originally connected by her helping me with my drawings, and we clicked that way, not by me being like "Damn.....now that fine" no I dont look at women like that...a mistake according to some.
-Rabbit

[dre1919]

Ok, did I miss something here? I was reading the original post and I believe you mentioned this girl was going out with a guy, then broke up with him for you (supposedly). But then you also said she'd never met the guy? How was she "going out" with him if they've never met?

Anyway, listen to Butterfingers on this deal..he's shooting you straight. The biggest advice I can give you is to be as calm and cool as possible about everything. Remember, women love confidence so you have to step up to the plate always. However, women also like mystery...don't tell them everything about yourself on the first date because then they get bored...there's nothing left to learn so to speak.

When you play it cool, like you could care less how the date works out or even if she gets with you at all is when they practially come running. It's reverse psychology...she's thinking "Why hasn't he been drooling over me? What's wrong with me? I'll show him...he's GOING to see how sexy I am!" All the while, that's what you want to but she doesn't need to know that right away. It's all about maintaining a level of prepardness...act like you knew this is the way things would pan out.

[WicKeD_WaYz]

if she doesnt want to commit to you right now, SHE could be doing what people here are telling YOU to do. She could always just be playing hard to get. Ill tell you to do what I do when girls do that to me.

Back off of her a little bit. Make her jealous, even something simple like walking to class with another girl(pick a pretty one) or something more than that like take another chick to the movies. If she really likes you she will flip out, but the thing is, if shes the type of girl to play hard to get, shes also probably not the type that will show jealousy. She will probably act like it doesnt bother her. Thats when you move in again and give her another shot. Ask her on a date or something, if she really likes you, her jealousy will kick in and she will jump on the oppurtunity, if she blows you off again or doesnt give you a straight answer, she may not like you. Time to back off and leave her alone for a while, but still be her best friend and try to work that angle.


And while your at it, dont show your jealousy, it probably hurts when she says something about her x bf, just brush it off and act like you dont care. She will be somewhat turned off if you get mad about it, you'll seem controlling.

And the rule you should never forget...above me they called it stay in control of the situation. I call it dont be whipped, dont give in to her every request, dont act like its up to her whether or not you too end up together.

[lord1234]

ok

butterfingers: get a couch cuz u could be a psychologist...

Loki:

This girl sounds like one of those "popular" girls i knew in high school. They would be all downlow about liking someone and then if someone found out "naw i dont like him..." drop the chick, find someone who cares for you for real, and be done with it. If you can get some 'tang at the prom while you are at it, good for you

[Patron God of Pirates]

If it's this tough in the begining I would bail and bail hard. The begining should be the easy part.

[Commissar_Loki]

Lord1234- One of those popular girls, no not at all.
as for not being jealus of her and her ex, hell Iv said to her numerous times that I'd like to meet him actually, in a non-fight to the death way.