Whymillywhy's Girl Problems Thread with Pics

[SlipknotX556]

Grow side burns, the ladies dig them, thats why I have them...

[Glickman]

i dont mean this in a mean way but please i like get 98 % grades in health on sex

That made me laugh

lol... me too...

i got a 121% final in health unfortunately that doesnt apply to real life




picking up my sister and hearing middle schoolers talk about sex, pot, and alcohol just makes me sick.

[WickeDKlowN]

I didn't really feel like reading the thread, but whenever I see a thread with "Girl Problems" and "Pics" in the title, I'm generally kinda scared to click on it

[peewee]

Hi, I'm a dad of a 14 year old girl. I can honestly state this as fact. They are clinically insane as are you. Dude I remember those days , true hell.... Save yourself some pain stay friends. Tell her that you care about her & leave it at that. The feelings that you have right now are about 80% hormones. Telling you to not think about sex is like telling you to stop breathing. It wont calm down all at once by the time your 17 or 18 you might be in control of yourself. Find other things to distract you schoolwork, sports. Girls at that age can be heartless & mean. Guard your heart & sanity. Easy to say hard to do.

[Miscue]

Well, as any other 14 would have, I got girl problems, that leave me confused, I figured the Intelligent crowd at AO could be nice and help me out.
Well, I got this female friend, we have been aquantinces for the last few years, but this year things are getting different.
She added me on MSN and we started talking more, and talking elsewhere. She seems to be treating me a lot better lately, and being ubernice, and all that shiz. I had one of my good female friends tlak to her and she said that she just wnats to be friends with me, and I know that. I've been thinking she might want to go farther (I helped her break up with one bad boyfriend) than be just friends, and well me, not being the most popular kid, has no girl skills, so what I am asking you AO'ers is
1) Think she likes me? or am I bad at reading girls
2) Got any advice for picking her up?
3) We aren't exactly a match, could that be bad?

I really have fallen in love with her, and I am afraid of failure. I had bad experiences before with girls.
Also, coming up in April is State FCCLA and well, I am going to have my room (To defend my sexuality..long story) Think it would be a good time to make a move? Im not nescessarly saying Sleeping together..or sex(I would feel kinda guilty) But being able to talk alone face to face (we usually only talk on MSN)

Any Questions, Comments, or Advice is welcome, also if you want to talk to me via AIM or MSN, you may, and sorry, I'm not the best typist in the world

And I promised pics:
She looks a LOT better in real life, the School Mug shot is Relaly bad but

School Picture:

Stolen DP of hers

Dude. You're all 14. From personal experience - you are too young and stupid too worry about relationship stuff. I was too young and stupid until I was about 19. I personally don't think I really had a good idea of what was going on until I was about 21 - I didn't know who I was looking for, what to look for - and in general had no clue. When you're about 18-20, you'll understand what I'm talking about. Just think of things now, like when you were 9-10 (which isn't long ago) - and how stupid you think you were. When you're about 18+, you'll see yourself at 14 much the same way.

You can't have a successful relationship (which is something you guys cannot have anyway - you're too young, serious)... unless you can be good friends - ideally best friends. Right now, I classify you in the "infatuation" category. This type of infatuation doesn't go away, I get like that still... and I'm 10 years older than you. There are some girls that just never leave my mind - it's a daily torture, I know. It's all you can think about.

Over time you learn how to recognize that, and not confuse it for love. It can sure feel like love though - and in a way it is - but a stupid kind of love, more of the idea and not the person.

My suggestion: Keep it as friends - don't try to get too serious, because you'll just be fooling yourselves really. Do the movies and stuff like that... and stuff friends would do.

Don't touch her or anyone else. You gotta believe me - neither of you will be seriously ready for that for a while. And believe me - if she's not mentally ready and mature enough (which she's not) - it is mechanically NOT going to work. They are emotional time bombs, and there are certain fuses you want to stay clear from - especially at your ages. No matter what she says, she really doesn't want to. Stress, embarrassment, etc... that's all you'd both get outta it... serious.

Quite frankly - my favorite thing of all with a girl, is holding her. Nothing replaces that. The other stuff provides physical satisfaction -> but holding someone is real happiness... which is so much better. Enjoy that all you like.

Most of what I said, you won't believe. But you'll understand eventually. Everyone's gotta make their run of mistakes - that's growing up.

In another life... if I could have my way... I'd wish that, the girl I fell completely in love with at 15-16 would have been the one - soul mate hocus pocus. That innocence at that age, let's you love differently... so blindly... with so much energy... and so completely. The rest of the world disappears... and there is only her. I remember quite well... what it's like to be your age. After you get older, and learn to be jaded... learn to not trust... and learn about a whole new world of things to be afraid of... and skeptical of... it's hard to ever love again, like you could when you had that innocence.

[Arrival]

"Quite frankly - my favorite thing of all with a girl, is holding her. Nothing replaces that. The other stuff provides physical satisfaction -> but holding someone is real happiness... which is so much better. Enjoy that all you like."

Miscue, that's very well-said and has put a smile on my face. My sweetheart n' I have been going out for a year now, and what you said made me think allll the way back to when we first walked to the park and I held 'er for the first time while we had a nice conversation.

I myself am 16, she's 17, and is the first girl I've been genuinely in love with. The first relationship didn't work out, but hey; that's why this current relationship is going good; learned from mistakes. Don't gimme that "too young for love" or "immature" crap, it's gotta be somethin' more than simple infatuation and immaturity on both parts to last for a year n' still be going strong. I do, however, realize that we're still young, and something could happen that will drive us apart; I'm a better person than to let it destroy me if that is the case.

Anyway, it's good to get reminded of things like that; it's things like that is what counts in a relationship. Although the body may say otherwise at times, sex is not the foundation of a good relationship, and a steady relationship cannot be maintained by only that.

Lots of people had some smart advice here, I'm amazed at the improvement of maturity over what I'm used to (ughh... PBN). As far as my two cents go, I agree that it's a great thing to find other activities to get involved with and get enthusiastic about. It's when my first real relationship was broken off and I was seriously depressed that I got very much involved with kickboxing and got my mind off all of the bad things. It's when I got to the point of not really having any interest in girls that I ran into Meg, my love.

Summing my tale up, I've grown up a lot in a short time due to several years of kickboxing and having my trainer as a mentor/father-figure, along with experiencing at a young age what heartbreak can do. What I can say is, until you're mentally ready, don't even worry about girls. Find some hobbies to get involved with. You'll most likely go through some relationships before you're even mentally ready, so learn form each of them. When that one special girl does come along, use what you know to make it work.

It's when you fear rejection/failure and yearn after girls is when you'll actually drive them away. When you actually get involved with something else and stop caring, they're much more likely to come to you. It's hard to explain, but it's true. The same idea can be carried over to a lot of other things; like paintball, since we' are on a paintball forum. When you think or worry all too hard about how well you'll do in a game or tournament, it'll do nothing but screw you up; but, when you walk on the field with a clear head, playing for pure enjoyment and fun, chances are you'll do a lot better. Funny how much mentality can matter

[frop]

Dude. You're all 14. From personal experience - you are too young and stupid too worry about relationship stuff. I was too young and stupid until I was about 19. I personally don't think I really had a good idea of what was going on until I was about 21 - I didn't know who I was looking for, what to look for - and in general had no clue. When you're about 18-20, you'll understand what I'm talking about. Just think of things now, like when you were 9-10 (which isn't long ago) - and how stupid you think you were. When you're about 18+, you'll see yourself at 14 much the same way.

You can't have a successful relationship (which is something you guys cannot have anyway - you're too young, serious)... unless you can be good friends - ideally best friends. Right now, I classify you in the "infatuation" category. This type of infatuation doesn't go away, I get like that still... and I'm 10 years older than you. There are some girls that just never leave my mind - it's a daily torture, I know. It's all you can think about.

Over time you learn how to recognize that, and not confuse it for love. It can sure feel like love though - and in a way it is - but a stupid kind of love, more of the idea and not the person.

My suggestion: Keep it as friends - don't try to get too serious, because you'll just be fooling yourselves really. Do the movies and stuff like that... and stuff friends would do.

Don't touch her or anyone else. You gotta believe me - neither of you will be seriously ready for that for a while. And believe me - if she's not mentally ready and mature enough (which she's not) - it is mechanically NOT going to work. They are emotional time bombs, and there are certain fuses you want to stay clear from - especially at your ages. No matter what she says, she really doesn't want to. Stress, embarrassment, etc... that's all you'd both get outta it... serious.

Quite frankly - my favorite thing of all with a girl, is holding her. Nothing replaces that. The other stuff provides physical satisfaction -> but holding someone is real happiness... which is so much better. Enjoy that all you like.

Most of what I said, you won't believe. But you'll understand eventually. Everyone's gotta make their run of mistakes - that's growing up.

In another life... if I could have my way... I'd wish that, the girl I fell completely in love with at 15-16 would have been the one - soul mate hocus pocus. That innocence at that age, let's you love differently... so blindly... with so much energy... and so completely. The rest of the world disappears... and there is only her. I remember quite well... what it's like to be your age. After you get older, and learn to be jaded... learn to not trust... and learn about a whole new world of things to be afraid of... and skeptical of... it's hard to ever love again, like you could when you had that innocence.

I bow to the master.

Who needs Loveline & Dr Drew? We got Q

[Miscue]

Don't gimme that "too young for love" or "immature" crap, it's gotta be somethin' more than simple infatuation and immaturity on both parts to last for a year n' still be going strong.

I never said that. I was talking about getting way too serious too young. At about 16-17, that's much better. But there's the college experience yet to come - that's a real shock - you grow up really fast. I think somewhere between 16-19 is where the switch in your head turns on - and actual, meaningful relationships are possible. My commentary on infatutation was based off of what he was describing - I wasn't generalizing all people in that age group of only capable of that.

[Miscue]

I bow to the master.

Who needs Loveline & Dr Drew? We got Q

I'm the kinda guy... where some girl will complain about her prick boyfriend to me... tell me how I'm an understanding nice guy - wishes he was like that... I go home alone, she goes and bangs her prick boyfriend.

They're all hypocritical dirty holes. All of them.

So in my spare time, I try to reprogram freakin' Speak & Spells with cellphone modules to keep distracted.

[-=Squid=-]

Good God, I hope you'd feel guilty sexing her, she's in 7th grade.

[SlipknotX556]

picking up my sister and hearing middle schoolers talk about sex, pot, and alcohol just makes me sick.

I pick up my little brothers from Middle School every day. I am sitting in my car waiting for them, a group of girls come up to my car, say "Hey hottie, can you give us a ride?" I just turn the raido up louder. The next day, same group of girls come up and say "Hey, if you give me a ride, ill do you a "favor". I just started laughing my *** off, I had 2 of my friends in the car and they just laugh themselves into tears. Middle school girls are skanky.

[Miscue]

I pick up my little brothers from Middle School every day. I am sitting in my car waiting for them, a group of girls come up to my car, say "Hey hottie, can you give us a ride?" I just turn the raido up louder. The next day, same group of girls come up and say "Hey, if you give me a ride, ill do you a "favor". I just started laughing my *** off, I had 2 of my friends in the car and they just laugh themselves into tears. Middle school girls are skanky.

Dude... and some of them dress up like hoochi-mama hoes. It's ridiculous how these girls act.

[-=Squid=-]

Dude... and some of them dress up like hoochi-mama hoes. It's ridiculous how these girls act.

It's the damn Bratz dolls, I tell you.

[WenULiVeUdiE]

Hehe, if he didnt include the word "pics" in the thread title this wouldnt even be a page long.

[billybob_81067]

sorry, had to see it again to believe it...


where the hell are you? im comming to live in your school

LOL... have you ever seen the movie Napoleon Dynamite? That's a quote from that movie...