need help! gift for a girl...

[Jakedubbleya]

miscue, you are so right(ish) bro, and ive said that from the beginning.

but you need to look at this from another angle:

if women are like this, and well always have been like this then this is how women are.

thus assuming that women arent succubuses by nature, you should try to find the positive family friendly (looky mommie a shauvanist!) truths that are in correlation w/ the traits you find to be so negative. Dont make them into men, and dont hold them to the same standards as you do men, because they arent men.

So am I ugly because I'm NOT a stereotypical girl?

yes?

[SpecialBlend2786]

Absolutely not.

Here's the thing: Right now, the most you can hope for with prospective males in your age group is that they have a car, and can take you to a movie or In-N-Out Burger from time to time.

"So if this were me, I'd tell you to pick a day and leave it totally empty and just go out and do stuff. It doesn't have to cost anything but gas money."

It seems to me that you've already maxed out!

Well, I'm speaking as her boyfriend....because i am.

Hey wait, i dont have a car.

I usually cant spend time with her. So i try to make it up by getting her stuff. Does it work?
Hell no. I know she would rather give up all the things i've bought just to have a weekend with me.

Q, stick with writing software.

And J dub, if you're calling my girl ugly i'll take personal offence to that...

[Miscue]

miscue, you are so right(ish) bro, and ive said that from the beginning.

but you need to look at this from another angle:

if women are like this, and well always have been like this then this is how women are.

thus assuming that women arent succubuses by nature, you should try to find the positive family friendly (looky mommie a shauvanist!) truths that are in correlation w/ the traits you find to be so negative. Dont make them into men, and dont hold them to the same standards as you do men, because they arent men.


yes?

I very much dislike this idea about holding them to "male standards." What is that supposed to mean? I also dislike both male and female chauvinism. I think that some men can see things in females that women have difficulty seeing in themselves, as well as the reverse. There are certain things about ourselves that we can learn best from the opposite sex. And that's partly what the basis was for my observations. And if you didn't know, I don't like them much at all... things really shouldn't be that way.

Just yesterday, I was having this conversation: A friend's roomate has a boyfriend in Cali that helps pay her rent. He's somehow convinced her that he is well off, says he is a lawyer, but he is neither - and the source of her rent sometimes is from the guy's mother because he is broke. She's oblivious to this, or does not want to believe it. She also has local boyfriends and several male friends that she keeps around. She goes camping with a local male friend, the guy thinks they are getting along well and asks if they could become more than friends. She says no, the guy flips out, waves a gun around, and kills himself in front of her.

She gets involved with shady characters, and values the wrong character traits. And I've seen this so many times... these girls bouncing around all over like a pinball... so very lost. Thoughts like, "Why are you doing this to yourself?" "Can't you tell that this guy is a complete jerkoff?" "You deserve so much better," come to mind. Sometimes I think, "I wish you could see what I see, from my perspective." But I suppose that it can be as difficult as me trying to view it from her perspective and really understanding. I decided that there isn't really much you can do to help them change their situation - they have to discover things on their own... and about all you can do is be a good friend.

[Miscue]

Q, stick with writing software.

That's project managing... bucko! And you keep on truckin'... err... pedalin' in your case.

[SpecialBlend2786]

That's project managing... bucko! And you keep on truckin'... err... pedalin' in your case.

LOL

[Ole Unka Phil]

im tellin you, locket

This is a good idea. Something like this. A simple heart one or something like this is always a good choice.

[Noonan]

Candlelight, a bottle of wine, chocolate covered strawberries, and good music. That's all you need. I don't care who she is...it'll work.

[Cameo]

Getting back to the whole gift thing...

Over the weekend a good (male) friend, my sister and I went to an Arts festival. We decided we were hungry and breezed by the consession stands and I saw many things I WISH I was allowed to eat. Mind you I am not that picky of an eater, it is merley the fact that my oncologist has but me on one of the "all natural, detoxifing diets". Sadness came over me when they went to one stand I a realized I could not eat anything there. Same with pretty much evry consession stand there (sigh and I love fair food). My friend was able to convince the girl at the smoothie stand to make a fresh fruit smothie in a way that I could actually eat. I later found out that he gave her a $10 tip to do so (none the less the smothie was probleby the best tasting thing that I have eaten in over 2 months). On the way home I had mentioned to my sister to keep an eye out for good deals on blenders/smootie makers so that I could go and buy one for myself.... The very next day my friend showed up with the most wonderful gift for my children, a smootie maker and a ton of fruit. He told them that if they wanted to ever do something special they should make a smootie for thier mom. It honestly made me cry. He noticed what I liked, what limitations were in tack, and knew that I DON'T much like presents from guy friends; then in turn made my kids happy by making them a part of the gift. Friends like that are hard to find.

~STEPH

ps: lol, I got a household appliance, does that in turn make me a keeper? lmao

[Athius]

A nice sexy lingerie victorias secret set. That would be a gift for her and for your amusement too.

[p u r e e v i l]

Underwear. They'll wear, but what does that matter? They'd be hot.

[Target Practice]

I'm getting my girlfriend a Savage .17HMR with optics for our anniversary.

Lemme tell you, guns are where it's at.

[p u r e e v i l]

I'm getting my girlfriend a Savage .17HMR with optics for our anniversary.

Lemme tell you, guns are where it's at.

Until they turn around and shoot you with it...

[Alley]

Amazing what a simple question turns into.......I cant imagine if he asked something in depth :)

[covadsucks]

Here's another idea:

Instead of a physical gift, take her to a Day Spa and have "worked over" -full body massage, facial, pampering and such...she'll love it and you'll get to enjoy the fruits of the staffs' labors.

[Target Practice]

Until they turn around and shoot you with it...

You just have to be a faster, better shot.