What do your parents do about bad grades?

[punkncat]

This is a poll of sorts.

I would like to know what sort of punishments, motivational factors, suggestions. etc. that your parents give for bringing home bad grades.

[personman]

My parents dont care because they know I can pretty much handle my own grades. If I start failing though, she usually grounds me until I start passing again.

Honestly punishments for bad grades dont work at all. All they do is piss me off and I dont work well when I'm pissed off.

[wimag]

if my kids are doing poorly i discuss it with them to see if they need additional help. i dont play the motivational game of paying them for good grades.
if they are slacking and that is the reason for poor grades, then i ground them. At that point i dont care if i pissed them off, because at a parent level you are more pissed than they are. The level headed kids will pull themselves together and not make excuses or point fingers for their failures.

[Fatjon]

I went through a lazy point in my school career that i didnt want to do any school work. It was my freshman and sophmor year of hs. I failed 16 classes. UGH. I wish my parents would have kicked my ***, but they never really punished me. I ended up getting my own head straight. Now that all my class mates graduated last year, Im in hs for my 5th year. I dont blame it on my parents because im the one who did it. I really sometimes think being 13 14 is to young to be in hs making decisions that effect your whole life. Now i Have a crappy gpa, and going to college is not really an option.

All A's and B's now.

[master_alexander]

i have never failed... but if i did my parents would make the only thing that i could do is schoolwork eat and sleep. and instead of grounding me, my father would come up to me and say something like "i am dissapointed in you son.." or "i know you can do better than this".

but then again i make a's and high b's so itisint a problem

[AutomagBoy]

My parents dont care because they know I can pretty much handle my own grades. If I start failing though, she usually grounds me until I start passing again.

Honestly punishments for bad grades dont work at all. All they do is piss me off and I dont work well when I'm pissed off.

Same here, then i start failing ALL my classes. So they stopped doing that and i am able to get my grades back up to an A or B on my own without any involvement.

[tropical_fishy]

They've never had to do anything about my grades. My parents think I should party more.

[Miscue]

I went from straight As to a C/D/F student almost overnight. I would do very well in the class for a while, but once I met minimum requirements to pass a class, I stopped going. If skipping a test (even if I was prepared for it) or not writing a paper dropped me from an A to a C/D... that's what I would do, fully convinced that it would not make any difference. I'd go do something else that I thought was a better use of time. Some classes I would stop going to altogether if I thought it was a waste of time... and I'd take the F. MIS 101 was one of them...

I stopped taking grades seriously when I realized how many people who I do not consider unusually intelligent could do well. If anybody can do it, then to me it is pointless to shoot for As... the grade becomes meaningless. It is also unusual for an employer to inquire about grades... it's mostly academia that cares... and maybe those looking for entry-level workers.

My parents were worried about it for a while. But I told them... I don't need "good grades" to be successful. I've got ambition, sufficient talent, and a head on my shoulders that works well enough. "As long as you know what you're doing, that's fine..." was their position.

Turns out, I was right all along... my grades never hurt or helped me, and I'm doing fine.

[WenULiVeUdiE]

Honestly, I think earning privledges with grades is a better option. Knowing that I could be barred from paintball because of my grades makes me want to excel in school. Then again, they don't do this to me; I do it to myself. I am also taking all honors courses, so getting a C in an honors course isn't as bad as a C in an on-level/CP class.

For some kids, earning privledges work well. For others, you will have to punish them. Everyone is different in how they react to different situations.

[slade]

I went from straight As to a C/D/F student almost overnight. I would do very well in the class for a while, but once I met minimum requirements to pass a class, I stopped going. If skipping a test (even if I was prepared for it) or not writing a paper dropped me from an A to a C/D... that's what I would do, fully convinced that it would not make any difference. I'd go do something else that I thought was a better use of time. Some classes I would stop going to altogether if I thought it was a waste of time... and I'd take the F. MIS 101 was one of them...

I stopped taking grades seriously when I realized how many people who I do not consider unusually intelligent could do well. If anybody can do it, then to me it is pointless to shoot for As... the grade becomes meaningless. It is also unusual for an employer to inquire about grades... it's mostly academia that cares... and maybe those looking for entry-level workers.

My parents were worried about it for a while. But I told them... I don't need "good grades" to be successful. I've got ambition, sufficient talent, and a head on my shoulders that works well enough. "As long as you know what you're doing, that's fine..." was their position.

Turns out, I was right all along... my grades never hurt or helped me, and I'm doing fine.

what field do you work in?

[tribalman]

I went from straight As to a C/D/F student almost overnight. I would do very well in the class for a while, but once I met minimum requirements to pass a class, I stopped going. If skipping a test (even if I was prepared for it) or not writing a paper dropped me from an A to a C/D... that's what I would do, fully convinced that it would not make any difference. I'd go do something else that I thought was a better use of time. Some classes I would stop going to altogether if I thought it was a waste of time... and I'd take the F. MIS 101 was one of them...

I stopped taking grades seriously when I realized how many people who I do not consider unusually intelligent could do well. If anybody can do it, then to me it is pointless to shoot for As... the grade becomes meaningless. It is also unusual for an employer to inquire about grades... it's mostly academia that cares... and maybe those looking for entry-level workers.

My parents were worried about it for a while. But I told them... I don't need "good grades" to be successful. I've got ambition, sufficient talent, and a head on my shoulders that works well enough. "As long as you know what you're doing, that's fine..." was their position.

Turns out, I was right all along... my grades never hurt or helped me, and I'm doing fine.

that is my stance on grades. with out really paying attention in class, and with out spending hours (or even minutes on homework), or hours cramming for tests, i got atleast a B or higher on tests. now i could remember stuff from the beginning of the semester and could recall it and apply it to various problems and yet i was considered "stupid" or "dumb" cause i didn't do homework, and got a high ACT score.

[Warewolf50]

My parents never offered to giv eme anything for good grades, it was jsut punishment for bad grades, the biggest factor for me was i had to have a certain GPA to stay at my high school ( it was private) and my dad said if i didnt take it seriously he wouldnt pay for me to go there.

And that is pretty much the same motovation here at college my dad says as long as i maintain a good gpa he will pay for me to go out of state, but if i start slacking off I have to transfer back instate.

[SCpoloRicker]

/had to walk uphill to school too
//both ways, etc, et all

[bam wannabe]

my parents dont really do anything. i usually maintain A's and B's... but then when i do eventually fail, i BS the whole thing and say its the teachers fault

[Lohman446]

My child gets good marks ebcause she knows its important, and it makes her happy. She also knows that daddy will help her with anything, and we usually study material more advanced than her schoolwork at home anyways.

// of course she's five
/// grades are still smiley faces and stars
//// still not sure about the use of the //