OMFG I am about to FLIP the hell out

[Coralis]

Well you could enable the content content advisor in IE (tools section) not sure how good it is though .... Also it sounds like you need to set some ground rules for internet use and finally it sounds like its time for that "TALK" unless of course you're ready to take a chance on being a grandparent soon.

[Glickman]

i think the best way is to block all websites except those you list yourself.

its a fairly effective way, she can just write down the site she wants to access and you can approve and add accordingly

if so, make sure you block all proxy sites as well

[mag88888]

she didnt even delete the history? lol noob....but really i think your wife should talk to her and naturally she'll figure out that its a bad thing.

[Glickman]

she didnt even delete the history? lol noob....but really i think your wife should talk to her and naturally she'll figure out that its a bad thing.

please take a sec to read the above what i wrote about "social morals"

how is she supposed to "naturally know" what is bad when shes never heard nor seen it before.

but yes, shes still a script kiddie

[Soopa Villain17]

when i was 13 i rented almost 200 dollars worth of pron from my dads satelite , lookin at porn is very addicting , kind of like crack . you should deffintly sit down with her and your wife and have a nice long talk

[Evil1]

Is it real bad stuff or is it just normal porn? Most real dirty sites cost money and don't show much. Only some normal sites are free or show previews.

[Will Wood]

Is it real bad stuff or is it just normal porn? Most real dirty sites cost money and don't show much. Only some normal sites are free or show previews.

So says the expert ^^

And I agree that you have to be carefull with how you punish. Sometimes it can just lead to further acts of defiance. I know whenever I got in trouble for doing something bad I usually immediately went out and did something worse.

[Boski51]

Is it real bad stuff or is it just normal porn? Most real dirty sites cost money and don't show much. Only some normal sites are free or show previews.

NORMAL PORN!!!! For a 13 year old! There is NO NORMAL PORN. I have read this thread with much interest.

You have a Dad that is very correctly concerned about his girl getting corrupted in the worst way by some young little punk that thinks it's cool to look at that mind numbing filth.

Then you have the younger boys on this forum saying....oh be cool Dad. Becareful how you punish, its only normal porn, hey its no big deal cuz we all do it sort of thing. WHAT $#%^!

Have our kids become so numb to the real evil in this world that they don't even know what it is anymore? I know that kids today are so bombarded by sex and a youth culture that thinks the coolest things are death, sex and "being bad", I just never realized how bad it has gotten.

To the Dad, I am a father of three boys (9, 6 and 3). I am sorry that you are having to go through this is this way. I think you should drop the dime on the little #$%$% that told your girl about the sites. I think that you need to really sit down and tell her were that kind of thing comes from and goes to.

Kids today really have no idea. Just like we didn't. The difference is they have access to the stuff we never had until much later in our lives. They think they are ready, they think cuz there are HARD, that none of this willl effect them-they have no idea how wrong they are.

Sorry to sound like an old man, but I am. Sorry to sound like I know better, but I do. Sorry to voice an unpopular view, but someone has to. If you think I sound like a fool. Just wait until you have kids. Your entire view point will change. You'll see.

Papa Smurf AKA Boski

[Boski51]

looks like someones picking up cracking a little early eh?




an interesting view though, this can be seen two ways (actually discussed in a recent debate at school on porn) :

bad: they rather not talk to you (obviously natural)

good: she isnt going out and experimenting (yea, discusting but it happends)


i dont know how you would consider her "overly curious" if she never even HEARD of porn in the first place. social "morals" are taught by society and family, not something -atleast i personally see- as being given at birth.

so honestly, she wouldnt know one think from another. think about it, some of that "really nasty" stuff is probably perfectly acceptable in some other nation, so i wouldnt mad, nor dissapointed in her.


/end psychological essay
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Oh, because some other nation finds something acceptable makes it ok? Do you really think that way? Is canibalism ok, murder, genicide, rape, child labor, liberal political thought, slavery? Are those acceptable norms for a nation?

Sorry to tell you, some things are just plain wrong-no matter how many people tell you it's ok.

Truth is NOT relative.

[Glickman]

NORMAL PORN!!!! For a 13 year old! There is NO NORMAL PORN. I have read this thread with much interest.

You have a Dad that is very correctly concerned about his girl getting corrupted in the worst way by some young little punk that thinks it's cool to look at that mind numbing filth.

Then you have the younger boys on this forum saying....oh be cool Dad. Becareful how you punish, its only normal porn, hey its no big deal cuz we all do it sort of thing. WHAT $#%^!

Have our kids become so numb to the real evil in this world that they don't even know what it is anymore? I know that kids today are so bombarded by sex and a youth culture that thinks the coolest things are death, sex and "being bad", I just never realized how bad it has gotten.

To the Dad, I am a father of three boys (9, 6 and 3). I am sorry that you are having to go through this is this way. I think you should drop the dime on the little #$%$% that told your girl about the sites. I think that you need to really sit down and tell her were that kind of thing comes from and goes to.

Kids today really have no idea. Just like we didn't. The difference is they have access to the stuff we never had until much later in our lives. They think they are ready, they think cuz there are HARD, that none of this willl effect them-they have no idea how wrong they are.

Sorry to sound like an old man, but I am. Sorry to sound like I know better, but I do. Sorry to voice an unpopular view, but someone has to. If you think I sound like a fool. Just wait until you have kids. Your entire view point will change. You'll see.

Papa Smurf AKA Boski

you dont sound like an old man, you just sound cynical. and as you pointed out, condenscending.


all of you answer me this. were you told what "porn" is by a parent or did you look it up yourself?

im not saying you parents were wrong, but if the child does know what it is, they will obviously find out for them selves.

"They think they are ready, they think cuz there are HARD, that none of this willl effect them-they have no idea how wrong they are."

you think that these 13 year olds know what porn is???? chances are it was never explained to them, so they wanted to find out themselves.

you, my friend are way to cynical, its not ignorance thats "wrong" with these kids, its just pure unknowingness, and never having it explained to them.



im not gonna say this again since noone bothers to listen to me...

1. To a child who doesnt know what porn is, they dont know the difference from ANYTHING
2. Society & parents decide on these kind of morals, so DONT assume that a kid will know that its instantly bad
3. If a parent doesnt talk their kid about it, then THEY WILL FIND OUT FOR THEMSELVES.
4. How are they supposed to know whats "right and wrong" with porn according to YOU if you dont tell them. I know many friends parents who think it is fine.



whats REALLY making me annoyed is that people think that these kids are doing something horridly wrong, when they were not told what it is in the first place (or so i assume, if not, thats another case)
everyone knows kids will find out for themselves if parents dont explain first. its also not fair to think that a kid will approach you first, as you guys know thats rare to come by.

Oh, because some other nation finds something acceptable makes it ok? Do you really think that way? Is canibalism ok, murder, genicide, rape, child labor, liberal political thought, slavery? Are those acceptable norms for a nation?

Sorry to tell you, some things are just plain wrong-no matter how many people tell you it's ok.

Truth is NOT relative.

no, you didnt understand what i said, and obviously didnt read all of it before you posted. i said that morals differ from place to place, therefore they MUST BE TAUGHT you cannot assume a kid to be born and know that , according to YOU, the parent, porn in wrong, or in other cases, to another parent, porn is fine.

[SIGSays]

maybe it was spam mail.. or someone sent the link as a prank...

[tropical_fishy]

So I have a question.

Is it the fact that it was a 13 year old looking at these sites that has you all flipping your lids, or the fact that it was a 13 year old girl? If it's the former, then by all means, flip away. If you standards are different for 13 y/o boys and girls-- say, "boys are just experimenting, but when it's girls, it's just WRONG..." then I think you need to look at the thought-process again.

Then again, none of us know your daughter. Is she the kinda kid that would go out of curiousity, or the kinda kid that does stuff to be subversive and sneaky? I think that's a definite distinction that needs to be made. Oh and also, if you're not careful, you could impart the "all sex is bad" notion into her head. Which might be good while she's a teenager, but could really mess with her as she gets older. Just a thought. Be careful about what you're teaching her from this experience.

[nippinout]

(Mods, please don't ban me.)

I'M CHIMING IN!!!

It could have been something just some gross-out stuff.

You know, Bathlady kind of stuff. It still isn't right for a 13yr old to be looking at that stuff, but it is a whole different world then getting aroused by... animal loving/manwhich type of things.

Kids can circumvent most things. I wouldn't put blocker sites on there. I would move the computer into a high-traffic area of the home. Go online together, you can try to share some inturweb time with her and not just supervise her, share some common sites.

As a kid, I could have easily circumvented anything my dad tried. Password protection? Blocked sites? No problem. Just use a live linux cd. Or go to a friend's house.

I even get blocked from certain sites at work, but I can circumvent those easily past the filter. Don't let technology be the babysitter.

(My dad should have blocked sites dealing with fire and burning things.)

[B.A.M.]

Next time the kid in question stops over...just be sitting at the table cleaning your shotgun...snap the last piece in, cock that thing....give him a dirty look, and walk to the bedroom...(handguns work as well)

I'll tell you right now that set me straight(and i never did anything to deserve it...he was just messing with me)...I'm still scared of my ex-girlfriends uncle....and thats after the fact that he came out of the bedroom and told me he was just messing around...i nearly shat myself...

and tell him you have no problem going back to jail

[Eric Cartman]

It could have been something just some gross-out stuff.

You know, Bathlady kind of stuff...

I think what's changed since I was 13 (which was before the internet ) is the easy access and the wide range of stuff that's out there. When I was 13, we'd all seen stolen playboys or penthouses and I just don't think that's a very big deal, but I'm just as glad that we didn't have tubgirl, goatse and some of the really nasty stuff that's out there now. That could have messed me up. Now that I'm an adult, it's still nasty, but it's funny too

I would move the computer into a high-traffic area of the home. Go online together, you can try to share some inturweb time with her and not just supervise her, share some common sites.

Well said. Parental supervision on the internet is vital and parents need to make time to do this (as difficult as that may be).