Whymillywhy's Girl Problems Thread with Pics

[whymillywhy]

Well, as any other 14 would have, I got girl problems, that leave me confused, I figured the Intelligent crowd at AO could be nice and help me out.
Well, I got this female friend, we have been aquantinces for the last few years, but this year things are getting different.
She added me on MSN and we started talking more, and talking elsewhere. She seems to be treating me a lot better lately, and being ubernice, and all that shiz. I had one of my good female friends tlak to her and she said that she just wnats to be friends with me, and I know that. I've been thinking she might want to go farther (I helped her break up with one bad boyfriend) than be just friends, and well me, not being the most popular kid, has no girl skills, so what I am asking you AO'ers is
1) Think she likes me? or am I bad at reading girls
2) Got any advice for picking her up?
3) We aren't exactly a match, could that be bad?

I really have fallen in love with her, and I am afraid of failure. I had bad experiences before with girls.
Also, coming up in April is State FCCLA and well, I am going to have my room (To defend my sexuality..long story) Think it would be a good time to make a move? Im not nescessarly saying Sleeping together..or sex(I would feel kinda guilty) But being able to talk alone face to face (we usually only talk on MSN)

Any Questions, Comments, or Advice is welcome, also if you want to talk to me via AIM or MSN, you may, and sorry, I'm not the best typist in the world

And I promised pics:
She looks a LOT better in real life, the School Mug shot is Relaly bad but

School Picture:
Is No more, don't want you e-pedophiles to find her.
Stolen DP of hers

[FooTemps]

sorry to sound rude but... no

reasons:

1) we don't know enough about you
2) i highly doubt you are really in love since you probably don't understand love

[whymillywhy]

well, I feel like I am in love with her, I get the feeling, also, I respect your opinion.

[FooTemps]

well, i'm not saying don't try it, but I'm just saying if you really want a good opinion I would doubt coming to a forum where you aren't widely known or known well by at least a few members would really help.

If you really feel that way for her, go for it, just keep your head straight.

What from I can tell, she most likely doesn't like you but may be open to a relationship unless you're already into the "just friends" stage, which is probably the case. You might be lucky though and she would be willing to go out w/ you.

[Warewolf50]

14 years old and havent even dated her let alone talk to her much when it is not online pretty sure this is jsut a crush. But that is beside the point.

1st of all your 14 u shouldnt even be thinking about sex
2nd- before u start thinking bout asking her out on a date talk to her alot at school
3rd- Jsut keep talkign to her and if all seems to be going well ask her to hang out outside of school or something.
4th- Dont think about how to make a move before u have even hung out wiht her any.

Hope that helps
RYan

[whymillywhy]

I don't get here enough these days, The biggest thing I'm afraid of is getting rejected, and I haven't had a real girlfriend I had one for 4 days last winter, but That wasn't really a relationship if you ask me, but Thanks for the advice

[MayAMonkeyBeYourPinata]

Wow 14, it is amazing how much people will change over the next 3 years.

A) You have not fallen in love, maybe just your penis.

B) Hang out with her it doesn't have to be a date, just hang out, it doesn't even have to be alone.
You can then see how she acts with you compared to other guys. What happens when physical contact is made, between you and her ( not like making a move but just something casual)

My real advice you are 14. You don't need to start dating at this age, give it a couple of years learn to drive, become more comfortable with yourself.

[oneworld]

why do you always torture me with that pic?.

[whymillywhy]

We talk in school a quite a bit, she helps me with my homework
I'm sorry, I'm mid-puberty I think about sex/get boners every 5 seconds
I think I've established that I should wait, the biggest problem is, our town only has 2000 people and there aren't really places to hang out, and I don't get my full drivers licence till April or this summer (got a restricted right now)
So well, I'm kinda screwed
School this is kind of hard, because she hangs out with some people who kinda hate me...

I gotta torment you Jason....

[SAW]

and I haven't had a real girlfriend I had one for 4 days last winter

Please, for your own sake, give it time. IMO, Middle School (or whatever they call pre-HS locally) isn't a time for dating. Students at that age are not capable of mature relationships. As Pinata stated: "...become more comfortable with yourself."

That is the most advice I can give you, make sure you don't go off and do something stupid. You'll have plenty of opportunities in the future.

[MayAMonkeyBeYourPinata]

I don't get here enough these days, The biggest thing I'm afraid of is getting rejected, and I haven't had a real girlfriend I had one for 4 days last winter, but That wasn't really a relationship if you ask me, but Thanks for the advice

Rejection is a legitamite fear.

But you take the good with the bad.

[Warewolf50]

Being 14 there is gonna be a big dif between Dating and "Going Out". I mean rejection sucks but nothign will ever happen if u dont trey anyting just try to hang wiht her after school at the mall or somethign like that and wiht a group of frineds and see how it goes.

[whymillywhy]

I just am longing for someone, And about the confortable with myself, I am with my outside self, I walk around the house in well...nothing at night, but Im not comfortable with my innerself I guess you could say

[MayAMonkeyBeYourPinata]

We talk in school a quite a bit, she helps me with my homework
I'm sorry, I'm mid-puberty I think about sex/get boners every 5 seconds
I think I've established that I should wait, the biggest problem is, our town only has 2000 people and there aren't really places to hang out, and I don't get my full drivers licence till April or this summer (got a restricted right now)
So well, I'm kinda screwed
School this is kind of hard, because she hangs out with some people who kinda hate me...

I gotta torment you Jason....

We have all been through it.

Honestly for most people middle school is hell.

I don't care if you are the most popular person around, or the biggest loser.

People at your age are very insecure, which is to be expected changing bodies etc...

But you say her friends hate you, well seeing as how MSers are generally greatly affected by their friends, girls in particular. She will be more hesitent to become more than just friends, if her friends dissaprove of you.

Sorry, but good luck getting through this phase in your life.

And sorry to hear you live in a small town, and if it is in Iowa just leave.

[whymillywhy]

Middle School is bad, We had some kid say he was gonna shoot up our school today

Our Middle/Elem/High Schools are connected, and so we are good friends with the Freshman and 7th graders (She is a 7th Grader), and whats worse is my mom is a teacher and if she sees us talking she flips out when she sees us talking


Small town America kinda sucks