Simply put relationships require ground rules. If you don't sit down and figure out what your rules are then the other person doesn't know and there can't be a consensus.
For instance, when my wife and I were first dating it was made very clear to me that I could still go to strip clubs with my friends (my buddy's band plays there a lot, hey, I swear) and I can still hang out with my female friends, BUT that it was absolutly not permissable for me to my Boomstick in anyone else's Mag (delicate ain't I?)
Armed with that simple rule I have had a great relationship for more then four years, both with my wife and with my friends. It has been remarked by one of my friends that I'm the only single one left in the group even though I'm the only one that's married and everyone is just dating!
Anyways, ground rules. If you don't want her fooling around with other guys tell her that. If she refuses then you decide if you can live with that. If you can't, it's over. If you can, you're a more tolerant man than I.
For instance, when my wife and I were first dating it was made very clear to me that I could still go to strip clubs with my friends (my buddy's band plays there a lot, hey, I swear) and I can still hang out with my female friends, BUT that it was absolutly not permissable for me to my Boomstick in anyone else's Mag (delicate ain't I?)
Armed with that simple rule I have had a great relationship for more then four years, both with my wife and with my friends. It has been remarked by one of my friends that I'm the only single one left in the group even though I'm the only one that's married and everyone is just dating!
Anyways, ground rules. If you don't want her fooling around with other guys tell her that. If she refuses then you decide if you can live with that. If you can't, it's over. If you can, you're a more tolerant man than I.



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