Should I talk to this married woman??

[Lohman446]

This is not thought about cheating and then let the thought slip out of her mind and never acted on it.

This is the moment of going to the hotel room, at the door she says 'you don't mind that I'm married' or some such and the guy calls it off and walks away. Is that situation better than if she had gone through with it?

[billybob_81067]

This is not thought about cheating and then let the thought slip out of her mind and never acted on it.

This is the moment of going to the hotel room, at the door she says 'you don't mind that I'm married' or some such and the guy calls it off and walks away. Is that situation better than if she had gone through with it?

Barely BARELY better, but better none-the-less...

Kinda like what's worse, eating your crap or eating some fat ugly person's crap... They both SUCK, but if I had to eat crap I think I'd rather eat my own!

LOL

lovely analogy huh?

/I do not eat crap nor do I condone the eating of crap
//... can't believe I just typed this post

[tropical_fishy]

This is not thought about cheating and then let the thought slip out of her mind and never acted on it.

This is the moment of going to the hotel room, at the door she says 'you don't mind that I'm married' or some such and the guy calls it off and walks away. Is that situation better than if she had gone through with it?

Absolutely not. IMHO.

[Lohman446]

As a female, I'd say the thought hurt so so so so so much worse than the actual action. I could forgive a drunken hookup. I can't forgive someone who acts with intent.

I have to agree with this one, if we are getting into a "thats worse" situation. A drunken oops is bad, and one has to question the person who would be part of one. However, it would be far less damaging if it were to happen to me then a long considered relationship.

My ex dated people online for months before "visiting" them. A drunken oops would have been far more forgiveable

[grEnAlEins]

Absolutely not. IMHO.

That's what I was sayin... It is the thought that counts! It kinda scares me that that the only person who seems to agree is a chick (or female if you prefer that title instead). [feels his manliness dwindle]

[tropical_fishy]

That's what I was sayin... It is the thought that counts! It kinda scares me that that the only person who seems to agree is a chick (or female if you prefer that title instead). [feels his manliness dwindle]

There are some good guys in the world. Not too many. Sometimes I really envy men. Except for that whole PMS thing. Then I really feel for you.

[Lohman446]

That's what I was sayin... It is the thought that counts! It kinda scares me that that the only person who seems to agree is a chick (or female if you prefer that title instead). [feels his manliness dwindle]

I actually agree with you. Sadly it ends in a totally different view of how I should handle it if given the opportunity, but the base consideration that the line has already been crossed is part of it.

As to the feeling that I would not "look out for a guy", When I am talking to a woman I look for a ring, and that ring can define a line that I will not push the relationship across quicker than any conversation. However, if she pushed the line, I would probably follow like a nice little puppy...

[grEnAlEins]

There are some good guys in the world. Not too many. Sometimes I really envy men. Except for that whole PMS thing. Then I really feel for you.

I see where you would envy men, we can write our names in the snow As for the PMS thing, it is not soo bad. But I hunt, so there is always something in season, and always a reason to get away for a few days

[grEnAlEins]

However, if she pushed the line, I would probably follow like a nice little puppy...

[Shakes head] That is somthing I don't think I would/could do, even if she was pushing the issue. Different strokes for different folks, I guess

[slade]

It kinda scares me that that the only person who seems to agree is a chick (or female if you prefer that title instead). [feels his manliness dwindle]

if your "manliness" dwindles when other guys dont support your opinion, you never had much of it to begin with.

[grEnAlEins]

if your "manliness" dwindles when other guys dont support your opinion, you never had much of it to begin with.

Twas a bit of a joke, but thanks for your input

[Recon by Fire]

Intent or the act, it is all betrayal in my book.

[Triangle]

sigh.

[Steelrat]

sigh.

I thought you were leaving?

Liar.

[grEnAlEins]

Intent or the act, it is all betrayal in my book.

sigh.

[nods to both]

Just curious, but how would you fellas (or ladies) handle a situation like this, where no actual act was performed (no services rendered ), but there was a legit effort put forth? I think I said it before, (don't recall and too lazy to check, but I thought it) I would probably cut'n'run