Should I talk to this married woman??

[-Tab]

Yes.

I doubt it.

[beam]

I doubt it.

Then you don't know me.

[geekwarrior]

I doubt it.

so you're saying you'd rather find out your wife cheated than thought about cheating?

[beam]

so you're saying you'd rather find out your wife cheated than thought about cheating?

Maybe I'm misunderstanding the question.

I thought the question was: Would I feel better if my wife intended to cheat on me but was unable to because the guy was unwilling to sleep with a married woman, versus if she actually did sleep with another man.

I said, yes, I would feel better to find out that she had wanted to but was unable to rather than finding out that she wanted to and did.

Tab doesn't think I would be happier to find out that my wife actually didn't physically cheat on me even though she "cheated" on my in her heart and mind.

I told him that because he doubts my answer, it is an indication that he doesn't know me.

Savvy?

[geekwarrior]

Maybe I'm misunderstanding the question.

I thought the question was: Would I feel better if my wife intended to cheat on me but was unable to because the guy was unwilling to sleep with a married woman, versus if she actually did sleep with another man.

I said, yes, I would feel better to find out that she had wanted to but was unable to rather than finding out that she wanted to and did.

Tab doesn't think I would be happier to find out that my wife actually didn't physically cheat on me even though she "cheated" on my in her heart and mind.

I told him that because he doubts my answer, it is an indication that he doesn't know me.

Savvy?

i was agreeing with you bud

[SCpoloRicker]

i was agreeing with you bud

Maybe you need a cup of coffee?

[grEnAlEins]

so you're saying you'd rather find out your wife cheated than thought about cheating?

IMO it is the thought that counts Seriously though, it is. In either case the thought/desire was there, and that is what would hurt/anger me. Maybe I am the only one, but that's how I see it. They are equally bad, or about equally bad.

[billybob_81067]

They are equally bad, or about equally bad.

Only one is worse... think about it.

Thought about cheating and tried to but couldn't

OR

Made funky monkey love with some stranger.

I agree they are both bad, but one is definately worse.

[tropical_fishy]

Only one is worse... think about it.

Thought about cheating and tried to but couldn't

OR

Made funky monkey love with some stranger.

I agree they are both bad, but one is definately worse.

As a female, I'd say the thought hurt so so so so so much worse than the actual action. I could forgive a drunken hookup. I can't forgive someone who acts with intent.

[geekwarrior]

Maybe you need a cup of coffee?

nah, just a vacation

[billybob_81067]

As a female, I'd say the thought hurt so so so so so much worse than the actual action. I could forgive a drunken hookup. I can't forgive someone who acts with intent.

Either way she was acting with intent though... just in one scenario she can't pull it off and in the other she does

Maybe I should go back and edit my post to say:

Thought about cheating and tried to but couldn't

OR

Thought about cheating and tried to and ended up making funky monkey love with some stranger.


There... is that better? :)

[tropical_fishy]

Either way she was acting with intent though... just in one scenario she can't pull it off and in the other she does

Maybe I should go back and edit my post to say:

Thought about cheating and tried to but couldn't

OR

Thought about cheating and tried to and ended up making funky monkey love with some stranger.


There... is that better? :)

Yes.

I also think it's worse if the person they cheat with is an ex or a good friend. Thoughts?

[grEnAlEins]

Yes.

I also think it's worse if the person they cheat with is an ex or a good friend. Thoughts?

Yes...

And I do maintain that the intent is not forgivable. Odds are the spouse has mad funky munky love with someone else before the relationship, so there it is not like lovin is exclusive to you anyways... The fact that there was an attempt, whether there was a result or not, is the worst case in my opinion. But I am a hard-*** when it comes to the cheating thing, even taking a crack at cheating is an auto dealbreaker.

[billybob_81067]

Yes.

I also think it's worse if the person they cheat with is an ex or a good friend. Thoughts?

Agreed, it would be like a double stab in the back with either an ex or a friend. (Sorry there's not many thoughts to go along with my conclusion. My head hurts, it's gloomy outside, I'm P.O.'ed, and little girls can't stfu when playing video games... kinda makes it hard to gather thoughts)

[billybob_81067]

Agreed, it would be like a double stab in the back with either an ex or a friend.

(Sorry there's not many thoughts to go along with my conclusion. My head hurts, it's gloomy outside, I'm P.O.'ed, and little girls can't stfu when playing video games... kinda makes it hard to gather thoughts)

/Ahhhhhhh!!!! EVERYONE STFU!!!