Should I talk to this married woman??

[beam]

To anyone reading this thread who is too young to be married, thinking about getting married in the future, etc. Don't listen to half the posters on this thread.

Just because your marriages failed for some reason or another, you want to give everyone else out there the impression that they will follow suit...and that is a lie.

Many marriages are very successful. It is possible to be married and happy.

It is very egotistical to think that just because it didn't work for you, it won't work for anybody.

Another thing, If your marriage does suck, it can get better. That is a fact. It has been done. It's called reconciliation and I've seen it happen in marriages that should have gone to the crapper and back.

Bottom line, anyone who has gone throught the extreme pain of a failed marriage has my sympathy, but the moment you try to sabotage someone else's marriage or potential marriage....it's on.

I take you Heather to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part.

[ahellers]

does any one else think this thread is unreasonably long?
oh and after reading this thread i will never be able to look at this guy the same
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[PyRo]

I don't know how everyone is makeing these calls without pictures.


Oh, and if I were her husband and found out I would grab the nearest blunt object and kill you.

[ahellers]

heres whats gona happen.
hes gona post pics for us to take into account for our opinions. then one of the people that said to go for it is gona realize it there wife.
then posters gona get his *** kicked.
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[TheAngryDrunkenRussian]

love them leave them your just goin gto end up with a handful of sand.

[Lohman446]

To anyone reading this thread who is too young to be married, thinking about getting married in the future, etc. Don't listen to half the posters on this thread.

Just because your marriages failed for some reason or another, you want to give everyone else out there the impression that they will follow suit...and that is a lie.

Many marriages are very successful. It is possible to be married and happy.

It is very egotistical to think that just because it didn't work for you, it won't work for anybody.

Another thing, If your marriage does suck, it can get better. That is a fact. It has been done. It's called reconciliation and I've seen it happen in marriages that should have gone to the crapper and back.

Bottom line, anyone who has gone throught the extreme pain of a failed marriage has my sympathy, but the moment you try to sabotage someone else's marriage or potential marriage....it's on.

I take you Heather to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part.

"OMG... you slept with my wife, you sabotaged my marriage" is what I hear there. Many marriages are successful and a good and healthy relationship. However, the one where the wife is out clubbing, trying to pick up men - is probably not one of them. I am not advocated hunting married women at soccer games and trying to seduce them from a position where they were not looking for it in the first place. This is an entirely different situation. If the woman is out in the club actively looking for men (as the original poster indicates) sleeping with her is an act, it is surely not the single act in the destruction of a marriage. Sorry, no go there.

There is a big difference in "picking someone up" in a club and the long term seduction of a married woman from a stable marriage.

[Head knight of Ni]

"OMG... you slept with my wife, you sabotaged my marriage" is what I hear there. Many marriages are successful and a good and healthy relationship. However, the one where the wife is out clubbing, trying to pick up men - is probably not one of them. I am not advocated hunting married women at soccer games and trying to seduce them from a position where they were not looking for it in the first place. This is an entirely different situation. If the woman is out in the club actively looking for men (as the original poster indicates) sleeping with her is an act, it is surely not the single act in the destruction of a marriage. Sorry, no go there.

There is a big difference in "picking someone up" in a club and the long term seduction of a married woman from a stable marriage.

It's still morally wrong. You don't park your car in another man's garage because the door was open. The other guy is the one who invested in the garage, supported the garage, and trusts/trusted his garage/neighbours. There is also the distinct possibility that the other guy owns a gun.

I apologize for the apparent chauvenism in my above analogy. If I were married and my wife cheated on me. I would drop her ASAP and make sure the bastard who kowingly slept with my wife could never do such a thing again, via some un-neccessary amputations.

/I can't stand the idea of cheating/being cheated on.
//Murder would seem quite acceptable.

[Gitaroo Man]

TTIWWOP

[Lohman446]

It's still morally wrong. You don't park your car in another man's garage because the door was open. The other guy is the one who invested in the garage, supported the garage, and trusts/trusted his garage/neighbours. There is also the distinct possibility that the other guy owns a gun.

I apologize for the apparent chauvenism in my above analogy. If I were married and my wife cheated on me. I would drop her ASAP and make sure the bastard who kowingly slept with my wife could never do such a thing again, via some un-neccessary amputations.

/I can't stand the idea of cheating/being cheated on.
//Murder would seem quite acceptable.

From experience I'm going to tell you that its highly unlikely. Been there, on both sides. Yes, I said very similiar things (though they involved a gun). Just not real in the end.

Wife, not property :) I realize you acknowledge the chauvenism of your your analogy. That being said I am surprised at the amount of "morally right" people who almost seem to look at that ring as being a sign of slavery.

Again, making a large distinction between "picking up" at a club and some long term seduction.

[tropical_fishy]

It's still morally wrong. You don't park your car in another man's garage because the door was open. The other guy is the one who invested in the garage, supported the garage, and trusts/trusted his garage/neighbours. There is also the distinct possibility that the other guy owns a gun.

I apologize for the apparent chauvenism in my above analogy. If I were married and my wife cheated on me. I would drop her ASAP and make sure the bastard who kowingly slept with my wife could never do such a thing again, via some un-neccessary amputations.

/I can't stand the idea of cheating/being cheated on.
//Murder would seem quite acceptable.

There's nothing "apparent" about your chauvenism.

It's just downright disgusting.

You have every right to drop a cheater. You do not have any right to own a woman. She is not a garage for your penis. She is a human being. You also have no right to perpetrate violence against anyone who cheated with your wife. Trust me, I know the feeling, but that doesn't make it okay to go out and castrate men (or women) who your wife chooses to be with. Because as screwed up as it is, she's ALLOWED to not want to be with you anymore. She's ALLOWED to do so, and shouldn't fear for her safety or the safety of others if, for some reason, she does leave you.

I have a hard time fathoming where this mindset comes from.

[geekwarrior]

so if it was your friends wife, would you do it?

is you say yes, you are a jerk

if you say no, than there's your answer. just cause you don't know the husband doesnt make you any less of a jerk.

[Lohman446]

so if it was your friends wife, would you do it?

is you say yes, you are a jerk

if you say no, than there's your answer. just cause you don't know the husband doesnt make you any less of a jerk.

Yes it does. It can be argued I have a moral responsibility to that friendship.

FYI "I have sinned against you in thought, word, and deed" is out of the Lutheran catechism. The wife's consideration of cheating is just as bad as actually doing it by my moral standards.

[geekwarrior]

Yes it does. It can be argued I have a moral responsibility to that friendship.

FYI "I have sinned against you in thought, word, and deed" is out of the Lutheran catechism. The wife's consideration of cheating is just as bad as actually doing it by my moral standards.

Yes, I am aware of that, but since I know alot of people don't believe in God or the Bible, I didnt think there was any point in bringing it up. And there is no disputing the wife is in the wrong. If you want to bring up the Bible or catechism about this point, you will lose your arguement, I dont think the teachings of the Bible would advocate this.

And to use your previous arguement against you, you never signed a form with your friend saying you wouldnt cheat with his wife, so its all good.

[Lohman446]

Yes, I am aware of that, but since I know alot of people don't believe in God or the Bible, I didnt think there was any point in bringing it up. And there is no disputing the wife is in the wrong. If you want to bring up the Bible or catechism about this point, you will lose your arguement, I dont think the teachings of the Bible would advocate this.

And to use your previous arguement against you, you never signed a form with your friend saying you wouldnt cheat with his wife, so its all good.

My previous argument was morality is not black and white. It was also that you have no obligation to the husband in the circumstance given (and it was assumed he did not know him). You have certain moral obligations to your friends, and not sleeping with his wife may be one of them. Depends who you are. I was just getting sick of the "its ok as long as she didnt do it" theory.

[geekwarrior]

My previous argument was morality is not black and white. It was also that you have no obligation to the husband in the circumstance given (and it was assumed he did not know him). You have certain moral obligations to your friends, and not sleeping with his wife may be one of them. Depends who you are. I was just getting sick of the "its ok as long as she didnt do it" theory.

I still think it's going against your fellow man, but if you don't have a problem with that, oh well I guess. It certainly has been interesting hearing the arguements on here, but maybe its time to let this thread die.