Should I talk to this married woman??

[slade]

Remember, you can always have fun and think back on how you shouldn't have done something. But where's the fun in thinking back on what you could've done. If any part of you wants to do it, then you will regret moreso having not done it than having done it.

true, there is that. but its not too much fun looking back on that time you got an STD or had a homicidal husband after you.

[geekwarrior]

meh... do it or don't do it.

Remember, you can always have fun and think back on how you shouldn't have done something. But where's the fun in thinking back on what you could've done. If any part of you wants to do it, then you will regret moreso having not done it than having done it.

To all the people saying, "you could be responsible for the breakup of a marriage" just GTFO. I think the wife pretty much just **** all over the relationship and ended with the choices she was willing to make and attempted to make. It's not like you're trying to wedge into someones relationship that was perfectly normal and mess it up.

You owe it to everybody to do this. Especially your johnson.

try looking back when you have some psycho husband hunting you down, or you have an STD.

And its a lot harder to repair a marraige if the person has cheated on the other than person, than if they have thought about cheating on them.

and your last sentence pretty much sums up your thinking. think with your male unit and of yourself, screw the husband.

edit: slade beat me to it

[Pneumagger]

At this point in the game, it sounds like the wife doesn't want to preserve the mairrage. Plus, if she would want to preserve the marriage... just don't get caught. Probably about as easy as said too. Just don't let her know any of your personal info, besides your "A" moves of course

Also, Protection comes in many forms...
Condoms, guns, etc ...

And relationships can be repaired after something like this happens.

[geekwarrior]

At this point in the game, it sounds like the wife doesn't want to preserve the mairrage. Plus, if she would want to preserve the marriage... just don't get caught. Probably about as easy as said too. Just don't let her know any of your personal info, besides your "A" moves of course

Also, Protection comes in many forms...
Condoms, guns, etc ...

And relationships can be repaired after something like this happens.

lol....still the same mentality, screw the other guy. Does your wife to be know what a winner she's getting?

and getting caught is easy, read my post above about my friend who put GPS tracking on his wifes car.

[Pneumagger]

lol....still the same mentality, screw the other guy. Does your wife to be know what a winner she's getting?

and getting caught is easy, read my post above about my friend who put GPS tracking on his wifes car.

I would personally never do this to my wife or somebody husband. I simply reccomend it to him to do. If I ever did this I would be killed (and not by the husband or STD).

Now say I was single, hadn't knocked boots in awhile, not looking for a relationship... Then I would have to step back and evaluate the situation. Blessings come in many disguises

[tropical_fishy]

and getting caught is easy, read my post above about my friend who put GPS tracking on his wifes car.

That's screwed up.

How would you like it if she read your emails, or your PMs, or instant messages? Or if she followed you or put a GPS on your car, etc.

Messed up, dude.

[geekwarrior]

That's screwed up.

How would you like it if she read your emails, or your PMs, or instant messages? Or if she followed you or put a GPS on your car, etc.

Messed up, dude.

I wasnt reading her stuff, I just installed the program for him and showed him how to use it. After that I had no access to the computer. I didnt look at a single email/message. Neither did I put the GPS on the car, or help in tracking her.

Do you mean its screwed up to do that to your wife if you have very good reason to believe she's cheating on you?

[slade]

That's screwed up.

How would you like it if she read your emails, or your PMs, or instant messages? Or if she followed you or put a GPS on your car, etc.

Messed up, dude.

umm, what?

being suspicious can be reasonable, especially considering that they found out that she WAS cheating on him.

the only thing wrong with being suspicious is that it means he lacks trust in her, but hey, if she isnt trustworthy...

[geekwarrior]

umm, what?

being suspicious can be reasonable, especially considering that they found out that she WAS cheating on him. the only thing wrong with being suspicious is that it means he lacks trust, but hey, if she isnt trustworthy...

that and she cheated on him before, and he took her back for the kids sakes.....

she was chatting online all the time, was erasing her call log on her cellphone, and would say she was going somewhere, and he would later find out she hadnt gone there and wouldnt tell him were she went.

The reason I helped him install the program is because she was set as admin and he couldnt install the program without her password, so I found a way to bypass the admin rights through the guest/limited account.

[tropical_fishy]

I wasnt reading her stuff, I just installed the program for him and showed him how to use it. After that I had no access to the computer. I didnt look at a single email/message. Neither did I put the GPS on the car, or help in tracking her.

Do you mean its screwed up to do that to your wife if you have very good reason to believe she's cheating on you?

I think it's screwed up for anyone in a relationship to invade the other's privacy. I've had it done to me and I've done it, and it's not right, even if you suspect the person is cheating. In my case I found out that the person WAS cheating, but I should have just asked-- I should have trusted my gut and not snooped through his emails and such. And honestly, why on earth are you IN a relationship if you can't trust the other person?

Being suspicious is reasonable, but I don't think an invasion of privacy is ever warranted. Speaking from experience.

ETA: "for the kid's sakes" is a bad cop-out. There's no reason for a person to stay in an unhappy relationship-- when you have kids you do not forfeit your right to happiness. If you're unhappy in a marriage, you have every right to end it, with or without children.

[geekwarrior]

I think it's screwed up for anyone in a relationship to invade the other's privacy. I've had it done to me and I've done it, and it's not right, even if you suspect the person is cheating. In my case I found out that the person WAS cheating, but I should have just asked-- I should have trusted my gut and not snooped through his emails and such. And honestly, why on earth are you IN a relationship if you can't trust the other person?

Being suspicious is reasonable, but I don't think an invasion of privacy is ever warranted. Speaking from experience.

he did confront her several times, and she just lied about it. I think the fact that she was cheating trumps the invasion of privacy.

I can see if your dating, thats a little different. But if your married and your honest in a relationship, what does it matter, you should have nothing to hide?

[tropical_fishy]

he did confront her several times, and she just lied about it. I think the fact that she was cheating trumps the invasion of privacy.

I can see if your dating, thats a little different. But if your married and your honest in a relationship, what does it matter, you should have nothing to hide?

Even if I have nothing to hide... even WHEN I have nothing to hide, I consider an invasion of privacy unwarranted and unnecessary, let alone the fact that it's a HUGE sign of disrespect for the other party. For example: having to speak or write in another language so that your significant other can't understand, because you want to have some thoughts that he or she isn't privy to.

If he has evidence like he did/does, that's when he just has to step up and say, "you're either cheating on me or doing something that you know I'll dislike immensely. So this is it-- either come clean, or get out."

This is getting really off-topic.

[SlartyBartFast]

If you're unhappy in a marriage, you have every right to end it, with or without children.

While marriage CAN be happy and joyful, hapiness is NOT what it's all about.

It's about responsibility. And what's responsibility? It's putting the rights of others first. The love of, and resposibility to children is what should come FIRST in a family.

Too many self centered idiots who won't live up to their commitments and are thinking only of themselves is what makes the divorcerate what it is.

Any relationship is give and take. Is there a line over which the relationship is unrecoverable? Sure. But the above quote is too general. Until the relationship involves abuse, some effort should be made to respect the commitments taken.

BTW, if you cheat with a married person, you mock the sanctity of mariage. And by doing so make a mockery of your own marriage vows in the future.

[slade]

she was chatting online all the time, was erasing her call log on her cellphone, and would say she was going somewhere, and he would later find out she hadnt gone there and wouldnt tell him were she went.

sheesh, and that wasnt enough proof?

The reason I helped him install the program is because she was set as admin and he couldnt install the program without her password, so I found a way to bypass the admin rights through the guest/limited account.

...you have to show me how to do that.

While marriage CAN be happy and joyful, hapiness is NOT what it's all about.

It's about responsibility. And what's responsibility? It's putting the rights of others first. The love of, and resposibility to children is what should come FIRST in a family.

Too many self centered idiots who won't live up to their commitments and are thinking only of themselves is what makes the divorcerate what it is.

Any relationship is give and take. Is there a line over which the relationship is unrecoverable? Sure. But the above quote is too general. Until the relationship involves abuse, some effort should be made to respect the commitments taken.

personally, id say its better for a child to grow up with divorced parents than with parents who are constantly fighting, in an unhappy relationship, and cheating on each other. but thats just me.

[MicroMiniMe]

There's your answer... if soopa would do it you probably SHOULD NOT DO IT!

Thread over. :)

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