Should I talk to this married woman??

**geekwarrior** · 10-05-2006, 09:04 AM

Originally posted by Lohman446

FYI: for those judging me... I have had my (now ex) wife cheat on me. Was it his fault or responsibility? No. It was 100% her fault and her responsibility.

yes, its a 100% her fault, but is there no responsibility from the guy she cheated with?! Especially if he knows she's married? Its one thing if he didnt know....

You whine and complain (with good reason) about the cheating that goes on in a paintball game, yet you have no problem sleeping with other peoples wives. Thats like the player saying, well it's the companies fault for making the board have cheater modes, I'm just using them. Or the ole arguement, its the refs fault for not seeing the hit, its not my responsibility to call out, I just play until the ref pulls me. You make a big deal about it when its just a paintball game, but whens its peoples lives, oh its no big deal. hypocrit.

Along your lines of reason, your wife coud say its your fault. Your were such a jerk, you mistreated her, were rude, couldnt please her, thats the reason she left, shes the victim.

no responsibility.

**Lohman446** · 10-05-2006, 09:25 AM

Originally posted by geekwarrior

yes, its a 100% her fault, but is there no responsibility from the guy she cheated with?! Especially if he knows she's married? Its one thing if he didnt know....

You whine and complain (with good reason) about the cheating that goes on in a paintball game, yet you have no problem sleeping with other peoples wives. Thats like the player saying, well it's the companies fault for making the board have cheater modes, I'm just using them. Or the ole arguement, its the refs fault for not seeing the hit, its not my responsibility to call out, I just play until the ref pulls me. You make a big deal about it when its just a paintball game, but whens its peoples lives, oh its no big deal. hypocrit.

Along your lines of reason, your wife coud say its your fault. Your were such a jerk, you mistreated her, were rude, couldnt please her, thats the reason she left, shes the victim.

no responsibility.

When you enter the game you agree to the rules (don't enter if you don't). When you enter a marriage you agree to the ruels (don't enter if you don't). How can I be responsible for her actions? And yes, the multiple people my wife had affairs with knew.

Edit: As to the "lack of responsibility" That marriage was already "invaded" when she began a course of actions that would end with sleeping with someone.

**tropical_fishy** · 10-05-2006, 09:38 AM

Originally posted by punkncat

As a husband, I would be super pissed at my wife for cheating and leave her sorry butt. If I found out that the guy KNEW that she was married and still went through, I would hunt him down and make a lasting impression on him for certain. Like some Aligator would be chewing what little was left of him....

She is either looking for a good time at your expense, or is looking for someone to "save" her. Either way...damaged goods.

Added on EDIT- I am also glad after reading through the thread that there are SOME people still on here with good sense and a shred of morality.

No, no, no, no, no. Just because she doesn't have a ring on her finger, that doesn't mean it's okay to hit it if she's got a boyfriend. She's in a relationship. Not cool.

Damaged goods, huh? Pffffft. You just invalidated your entire opinion.

Lohman's been cheated on-- been in a bad, even abusive, marriage. How come he isn't "damaged goods?" But to an extent, I see his point. The male getting into the relationship with the married woman is less at fault than she is. She's the one that went and got married (which seems like a bad plan all around), she's the one looking for someone to sleep with, she's the one looking for an affair, for whatever reason she's looking for said affair.

No, you shouldn't sleep with a married woman. You shouldn't sleep with a taken woman. End of story.

**beam** · 10-05-2006, 09:42 AM

Lohman...if you think that I'm judging you because I find the fact that you would sleep with a married woman despicable...then fine. So be it.

Your wife had an affair. That sucks. But why would you do the same thing to a fellow man? Because it's the bizzo's responsibility? Not yours?

The analogy of not helping someone in need because it's "not your responsibilty" is totally relevant. You know why? Because this isn't a cheating issue...it's a character issue.

And you've shown your quality. I disagree with it. I guess I'm the worst of them all...me and my judgemental ways.

**bleachit** · 10-05-2006, 10:11 AM

Originally posted by tropical_fishy

No, you shouldn't sleep with a married woman. You shouldn't sleep with a taken woman. End of story.

probably the only time I will ever agree with you.

**RavishingEddie** · 10-05-2006, 10:19 AM

What if I do the Bill Clinton, would I still be at fault?

**geekwarrior** · 10-05-2006, 10:28 AM

Originally posted by RavishingEddie

What if I do the Bill Clinton, would I still be at fault?

lol.....yes

This touches close to home because someone I know is going through this. My friend supsected his wife of cheating.

3 weeks ago I was installing a keylogger program on his wifes computer. My friend also dropped $2000 and put a GPS tracking device on his wifes vehicle. Well, he tracked her to some place and caught her coming out of a bar with some other guy. And proceeded to beat the crap out of him. They have several kids, and it kills me to see what they are going through. Me and my wife had them at our house for awhile to keep them away from all that is happening, but at some point they had to go home. Please, if you do do this, find out if she has kids, they dont need to see all this if you get caught!

**tropical_fishy** · 10-05-2006, 10:32 AM

Originally posted by RavishingEddie

What if I do the Bill Clinton, would I still be at fault?

You can't unsink the ship. You know she's married, you can't un-know.

If you cheat or help someone cheat, it will come back and bite you. Trust me.

**SCpoloRicker** · 10-05-2006, 10:46 AM

Originally posted by billybob_81067

There's your answer... if soopa would do it you probably SHOULD NOT DO IT!

Thread over. :)

**Soopa Villain17** · 10-05-2006, 11:32 AM

Originally posted by SCpoloRicker

Thread over. :)

hes waited to long anyways. shes moved on to the next dude at the club. you lost yur chance buddy sucks to be you.

**geekwarrior** · 10-05-2006, 12:03 PM

Originally posted by Lohman446

When you enter the game you agree to the rules (don't enter if you don't). When you enter a marriage you agree to the ruels (don't enter if you don't). How can I be responsible for her actions? And yes, the multiple people my wife had affairs with knew.

Edit: As to the "lack of responsibility" That marriage was already "invaded" when she began a course of actions that would end with sleeping with someone.

there are unspoken rules in relationships/life, like not sleepy with someones wife or girlfriend. I guess you missed that day in class. Other wise we have this scenario.

consent

**MANN** · 10-05-2006, 12:18 PM

Nice find.

**slade** · 10-05-2006, 01:29 PM

Originally posted by punkncat

Sorry, if its just a boyfriend there has been no vow made. There are no papers signed. Its possibly bad form, but not like married...

so the legal forms are what matters? if someone is in a relationship they are off limits. you can show interest, but you shouldn't do anything until the relationship ends. especially if youre looking for a relationship with them, as others have said.

Originally posted by Lohman446

Morality is not black and white.

true. so i guess, who am i to say?

Originally posted by Soopa Villain17

go for it dude. if i had the chance you bet your *** id do it.

/rofl
//what happened to that girl of yours?

Originally posted by geekwarrior

No wonder there are few women on this forum....there's such a high regard and respect for woman on here.

could it, perchance, have anything to do with the number of women you find at the average paintball field?

honestly i would bet that AO is a fairly representative selection of men.

**billybob_81067** · 10-05-2006, 02:01 PM

Originally posted by tropical_fishy

No, you shouldn't sleep with a married woman. You shouldn't sleep with a taken woman. End of story.

I'm with bleachit on this one... probably one of the very very few times I'll agree with you on here. :)

**Pneumagger** · 10-05-2006, 02:12 PM

meh... do it or don't do it.

Remember, you can always have fun and think back on how you shouldn't have done something. But where's the fun in thinking back on what you could've done. If any part of you wants to do it, then you will regret moreso having not done it than having done it.

To all the people saying, "you could be responsible for the breakup of a marriage" just GTFO. I think the wife pretty much just **** all over the relationship and ended with the choices she was willing to make and attempted to make. It's not like you're trying to wedge into someones relationship that was perfectly normal and mess it up.

You owe it to everybody to do this. Especially your johnson.

Should I talk to this married woman??

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